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and don't want to listen,
but let me tell you a story
before you make your decision.
There was once a young girl
in the same place as you,
she wasn't sure if this
she'd be able to go through.
She was trapped by her own choices
with no easy way out,
she chose the hardest choice
but the best without a doubt.
She was really just a girl
but was wise and chose the option,
to give her baby a better life
and give her up for adoption.
She knew what truly mattered
and decided to be brave,
'cause her life would be interrupted
but her baby's would be saved.
She had amazing strength and love
I hope I'll get that from her,
'cause I guess I didn't tell you
that woman was my mother.
So before you make your choice
put yourself in my place,
'cause I'm one of those babies
a mother chose to save."
You explain that you, yourself are a product of the absence of abortion. That your mother chose the 'hardest choice' and she was 'wise' for her decision. And that may well be true for her, and indeed yourself. However examples such as yourself are not always the way they go.
There are children who are carried full term, despite being accidents, that suffer serious problems for the remainder of their lives. Children neglected, or even abused because of the resentment their own parents can feel for them. I can't condone these parent's actions, but I also cannot deny that they exist. This lifestyle is horrible for the child, and can be traumatising throughout later life. it only takes a quick look online to find cases such as this. Just the words "Parent" and "resentment" spring a deafening cacophony of neglect.
Then there are the parents who themselves have their lives torn apart. The parents who were on track. Perhaps getting top grades in University (Or college), or heading for that promotion in their job. An unexpected pregnancy hits and it spirals away. Of course not all do, but it's an outright fabrication to presume it doesn't happen. At which point, you have to agree that society is condemning the mother and father's lives as less than that of the fetus. They are expected to carry the child and give birth to them, yet all the while their mental and emotional well being is being stripped from them.
I believe that if you can carry the child to full term. Perhaps give it to adoption, or even raise the child yourself. Then that is fantastic. But for the parents who can't. To tear away the chance of abortion. To prevent raising a happier, more stable child within a loving family in years to come. To condemn the parents and child to sadness and despair because of your own idealistic beliefs is not a decision we should have.
The mother and the father in the situation are the ones who should make that decision.
I have never heard of someone who cannot give a child up for adoption. That is nonsense. Adoption isn't something that just happened to me. My mom chose it for me because she knew that it was the right choice for her.
I hope you understand this that Abortion is a very cruel thing to do to someone. I accept that everyone has different opinions and I respect your opinion. But I hope who ever is with Abortion, I hope you all come to your senses and live for what's right! In any case, I hope you change your mind and know that you are alive today.
You have to remember, in a situation in which parents did not ask for the pregnancy. There was no planning or desire at that stage, continuation could be harmful to both of those involved. Mentally and, for the woman, physically. Many relationships that encounter an unplanned, unwanted pregnancy crumble. To determine that the parents should 'live up to their responsibilities' is condemning their current, established lives as less than a potential life with no certainty about it.
Anyone can give up a child to adoption, this much is true. But it is the long lasting effects on those involved that must be considered. The mother and father, now thrust into being parents will always have the knowledge that they gave away a child. That they thrust them into the unknowing and unforgiving world of adoption with no certainty that they will find new parents. There are all too many children already in adoption who are desperately searching for homes they might never find. The child's mental welfare is at stake as well. They could never be adopted, or conversely adopted by a cruel family. There are a large proportion of 'adopters' who do it purely for the money they will receive with no real concern for the child.
You stated " My mom chose it for me because she knew that it was the right choice for her." in relevance to adoption. But it is not the right choice for everyone. It suited her, and has evidently worked well for you. But not everyone, child or parents, see adoption as a possibility.
I do not believe adoption is cruel. I believe that those involved should take greater care in not getting pregnant. I do not believe abortion is a form of contraceptive that can be whipped out whenever required. But I do believe that people make mistakes, and childbirth is very unforgiving. Then there are cases such as rape pregnancies. Should they too be forced to carry a child forced upon them unwillingly as an every day reminder of the act?
Abortion is not something I would hope people need. However removing the choice of abortion is removing the freedom of women everywhere. Some may find it offensive and cruel, however it is not their choice to make.
Evaclair forfeited this round.
I shall presume you were either unable to add a response by the means of time, or by the means of a lack of further content. Either way, I shall not be so petty as to continue the debate without you.
The best of luck to you in the future.
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