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Abuse of women

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Started: 7/8/2015 Category: Society
Updated: 1 year ago Status: Post Voting Period
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gizmo4me2

Con

Bill Cosby, accused by more than two dozen women of sexual misconduct. I am sure there is a Law for that, and Mr. Cosby is not above the Law. I am very much against women been abuse by anybody. and differently not by men like Mr. Cosby that he is in his right to do so. A Jail term would bee in order so he dose not do it again.
Paradoxxal

Pro

"Domestic Violence is a violent confrontation between family or household members involving physical harm, sexual assault, or fear of physical harm. Family or household members include spouses / former spouses, those in (or formerly in) a dating relationship, adults related by blood or marriage, and those who have a biological or legal parent-child relationship.

The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, and isolation to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but may remain a hidden and constant terrorizing factor. Domestic violence is not only physical and sexual violence but also psychological. Psychological violence means intense and repetitive degradation, creating isolation, and controlling the actions or behaviors of the spouse through intimidation or manipulation to the detriment of the individual.

Domestic violence destroys the home. No one deserves to be abused. The responsibility for the violence belongs to the abuser. It is not the victim's fault!

HELP IS AVAILABLE THROUGH THE VICTIM ASSISTANCE PROGRAM AND THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE UNIT OF THE CLARK COUNTY PROSECUTING ATTORNEY.

Symptoms of Abuse - Misuse of Power And Control

Abuse in a relationship is any act used to gain power and control over another person. Women who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them.

Listed below are some of the warning signs of domestic abuse. Look to see if there are multiple warning signs that are occurring in your life.

USING PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL ABUSE
Hair pulling, biting, shaking, pushing, pinching, choking, kicking, confinement, slapping, hitting, punching, using weapons, forced intercourse, unwanted sexual touching in public or in private and depriving her of food or sleep.

USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE

Insulting her in public or in private
Putting down her friends and family
Making her feel bad about herself
Calling her names
Making her think she's crazy
Playing mind games
Humiliating her
Making her feel guilty
Using Male Privilege; acting like "Master of the Castle"
Treating her like a servant
Making all the big decisions
Being the one to define men's and women's roles.

USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

Preventing her from getting or keeping a job
Making her ask for money
Giving her an allowance
Taking her money
Not letting her know about or have access to family income
Not allowing her a voice in important financial decisions
Demanding exclusive control over household finances.

USING COERCION AND THREATS

Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her
Threatening to leave her, or to commit suicide
Threatening to report her to welfare
Making her drop charges
Making her do illegal things.

USING INTIMIDATION

Making her afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
Throwing or smashing things, destroying property
Abusing pets
Dangerous driving
Displaying weapons.

USING CHILDREN

Making her feel guilty about the children
Using the children to relay messages
Using visitation to harass her
Threatening to take the children away.

USING ISOLATION

Controlling what she does, who she sees, what she reads, & where she goes
Limiting her outside involvement
Refusing to let her learn to drive, go to school, or get a job
Not allowing her to freely use the car or the telephone.

USING JEALOUSY AND BLAME TO JUSTIFY ACTIONS

Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously
Checking up on where she's been or who she's talked to
Accusing her of infidelity
Saying the abuse didn't happen
Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
Saying she caused it.

Why Get Help?

The danger is real.

If you are controlling or have a controlling partner, don't ignore these behaviors. They are not the result of stress, anger, drugs or alcohol. They are learned behaviors that one person uses to dominate, intimidate and manipulate. They are destructive and dangerous.

If the abuse continues without outside help, the abusing partner may risk being arrested, going to jail, or losing the relationship.

Domestic violence hurts all family members. When a person is abusive he or she eventually loses the trust and respect of his or her partner. Abused partners are afraid to communicate their feelings and needs.

Everyone has the right to feel safe in a relationship. With help, people who are abusive can learn to be non-violent.

Learn the Warning Signs

Disagreements develop from time to time in relationships. Domestic violence is not a disagreement. It is a whole pattern of behaviors used by one partner to establish and maintain power and control over the other. These behaviors can become more frequent and intense over time.

The abusive person is responsible for these behaviors. That person is the only one who can change them. Don't wait until you and the ones you love get hurt. You Are Not Alone. Consider getting some help. Talk with friends about your situation."

Pathetic. Nobody will do anything. You control your own actions and if you abuse your woman, then thats your choice. Nobody else should have any say in what you do.
Debate Round No. 1
gizmo4me2

Con

Bill Cosby, accused by more than two dozen women of sexual misconduct. I am sure there is a Law for that, and Mr. Cosby is not above the Law. I am very much against women been abuse by anybody. and differently not by men like Mr. Cosby that he is in his right to do so. A Jail term would bee in order so he dose not do it again.
Domestic violence destroys the home. No one deserves to be abused. The responsibility for the violence belongs to the abuser. It is not the victim's fault!
Pathetic. Nobody will do anything. You control your own actions and if you abuse your woman, then thats your choice. Nobody else should have any say in what you do.
The responsibility for the violence belongs to the abuser. It is not the victim's fault! I think we all know that.
You control your own actions and if you abuse your woman, then thats your choice. Nobody else should have any say in what you do. Sorry this part I do not understand, please tell me I am wrong. You can not do what you like, and she is not your women she is your wife or partner.
Paradoxxal

Pro

Yes, but it's the victim's fault for not saying anything to the cops or friends who will tell the cops. That's idiotic and cowardly. Their like little porcupines being chased by a fox. The porcupine can turn around and launch spikes at the fox, but they don't. They keep running. A lot of people think they can help women. How can you when your the ones known for domestic abuse?
Women are admired for their traits like compassion, tolerance and amiability. But sometimes, these traits are mistaken for submissiveness. And some women, knowingly or unknowingly condition themselves to be submissive. Eventually, they become subject to insensitive, discriminatory and offensive behaviour, be it at home or at work.

Some women employees are conditioned to accept offensive conduct in the "best interests" of everyone.

They avoid arguments and don"t speak up in a bid to avoid conflict. They back down and fail to defend themselves for the sake of maintaining harmony. As Dr. Linda Tillman, a licensed clinical psychologist and founder of www.speakupforyourself.com explains, "Our culture still supports men in aggressive behaviour and women in deferential behaviour.

So, men who are afraid to speak up may express themselves aggressively and women who are afraid to speak up may put aside their wishes to please the other person."

Going with the flow in a passive and docile manner may earn women brownie points from some male colleagues who are content with maintaining the status quo and getting their way. However, such behaviour is perceived as a reflection of women"s credibility and self-esteem. It ultimately devalues their abilities too and people don"t really take them seriously.

When women constantly hold back their true feelings and blanket their reactions, it is like an open invitation to others to walk over them! Bosses, peers and subordinates may expect them to unflinchingly accommodate their attitudes, moods and frivolities.

Moreover, self-defeating behaviours trap women under a dark cloud. The brewing sadness and bottled displeasure escalate into frustration, resentment, anger and even depression which can engulf their career and life completely.

So, why do women keep quiet and let others step on them? Why do they live with the regret of not having voiced their opinions or shared their ideas? Instead, why don"t they be authentic and assertive " why don"t they be themselves?

"Some women may find it difficult to stand up for themselves and be assertive. But they don"t have to suppress their femininity and act like men either. It"s just about preserving one"s rights and well-being and not letting anyone take advantage of one"s softer side!" Is what they say when people like me scream out "MAYBE YOU SHOULD STOP ACTING LIKE KITTENS AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!" Well, newsflash, they can do something instead of just hiding in the corner.

You're argument is good, but women aren't unliving dolls! They can walk, talk, and be human!
Debate Round No. 2
gizmo4me2

Con

No man should lay a hand on a women ever, you do not owe that person or have power over her. You can not do what you like to anybody that does not consent.
It does not give any person a right to abuse a women because he has power to do so.
People that do this is mentally unstable, got some strange idea about women, got to bee in charge, many get it from home where they see there mother been pushed around by the boyfriend,
Paradoxxal

Pro

Paradoxxal forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 3
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Posted by Greg4586 1 year ago
Greg4586
What exactly is this debate about?
Posted by gizmo4me2 1 year ago
gizmo4me2
Very true, but in this case Bill Cosby is a well know-end Comedian, a former member of the board of trustees at Temple, where he was a popular face of the school.
How do you complain in this case. and to who. He cover him self under his popularity as a actor.
Posted by gizmo4me2 1 year ago
gizmo4me2
It was testified back in 2005 that he got a sedative (Quaalude) with the intent to give to women he wanted to have sex with, what he admitted to.
Posted by Lee001 1 year ago
Lee001
That grammar tho....
Posted by TyroneShelton 1 year ago
TyroneShelton
Well this is a loaded debate.
Posted by OkLetsGo 1 year ago
OkLetsGo
Who exactly would agree that abusing women is good?
Posted by whiteflame 1 year ago
whiteflame
So... what's this debate about, exactly? What's your side, and what must your opponent argue? Are you against abusing women and your opponent has to be for it?
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