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Shabin86
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Vannarosewolf
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Age does not matter in a relationship

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Shabin86
Voting Style: Open Point System: 7 Point
Started: 11/7/2014 Category: Education
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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Shabin86

Pro

My worthy opponent and my audience, the motion for the debate is "Age does not matter in a relationship". I the speaker of the affirmative team believe that this statement is true. According to the Oxford Dictionary, age is defined as the length of time an individual has existed while relationships are defined as the way in which two or more people or groups regard and behave towards each other. I will be talking to you about the major factors that are important in a relationship such as the maturity levels, the life experience,is that love or just power of money? , education and while age is but a number- its compatibility that counts. The only thing that should matter in a relationship is love, and if they truly love each other, nothing else should matter.

First of all, you can find someone with the right maturity level. This normally applies more to women dating older men than the other way around. The fact that women mature quicker than men is one of the reasons why dating older men often appeals! It shouldn't matter what age difference there are in relationships. Whether it is an older woman dating a younger man or an older man dating a significantly younger woman it shouldn't matter as long as they both are of legal age. Statistics show that there are exactly 858,000 married couples in the U.S. where the husband is 15-19 years older than his wife and there are exactly 161,000 married couples in the U.S. where the wife is 15-19 years older than her husband. What matters is the feelings and love shared by the two companions and if they are compatible with each other. In other words, "It isn't about age, it's about maturity." Age is not an important factor in relationships, and what should be the age difference between the two people who don't think there's a set age difference - it varies through life. For instance, a seventy year old and a fifty five year old are going to attract a lot less negative attention than a 16 year old and a 31 year old, but the age difference is the same. As with all things on this topic, it's down to the two people in question. If they are both mature enough to make their own decisions, then why shouldn't they? Of course, the question that begs is how old is mature? And frankly, I don't think there's a set age for that. People mature at different rates.
Vannarosewolf

Con

For me, as long as the two people are consenting, and both can understand the needs, and desires of their partner. Then by all means. However I do have a problem with say a 15 Year old dating a 25 year old. I feel like a 15 year old could not have the emotional, and regular intelligence to have a healthy, and fulling relationship of that nature.
Debate Round No. 1
Shabin86

Pro

In response to what you said about you dont think the 15 year old could have the emotion and intelligence but as i stated before in my first argument people mature at different rates so that 15 year old could already be mature for his or her age to be in such relationship.

Secondly, i would like to point out that older partners have more life experience. If you"re the younger partner in the relationship, you may well find that an older partner is great in terms of advice, stability, communication, commitment and general life experience. As a person gets older, age tends to not matter so much. Relationships are not about age, but depends on how a person views their life, the situation they are in, and how willing they are to move forward with or without age being an influence on their decisions.

Education isn't relevant to age, in fact young people learn faster than adult so in conclusion your debate stands false. I think that intercourse is what most individuals think a relationship is. We are assuming that everyone considers a relationship to mean something romantic. This is where our thinking process goes wrong; a romantic relationship and a friendly relationship are very similar. What makes it different? Many individuals been in relationships and have dated guys their age and much older. The difference is too minimal to notice. Modern times have come to convince people that there are certain age requirements for a relationship, yet I am here to persuade you towards the opposite.
Vannarosewolf

Con

In response to your comment about friendships. I thought this debate was about romantic relationships, I agree with people having friendships with older people in fact I have several friendships with people older than myself. I believe if two people of any age want to be friends they should be friends both, come from different generations, and could give each other inside information on how their world works. Since, however I interpreted this debate of whether or, not age differences matter between I am assuming a huge age gap. I don't' have a problem with them as long as both parties are 18,or 17 and this point I can, and will not be moved against.
To use the age 15 again. If their 25 year old partner really wanted to invest in the relationship I think it would be his/hers duty to wait the three years before, advancing the relationship further.
Debate Round No. 2
Shabin86

Pro

Age is but a number " it"s compatibility that counts. Ultimately, as long as you get on well, share similar interests, have chemistry and want the same things from life, age doesn"t really matter! Relationships with age gaps are very common these days. The way you were raised just determines if you accept it or not. Love is the only factor that should really matter in relationships. If a woman is dating a younger man then the woman can show the man what she likes and mature him to her standards. He will become more likely to grow up. Age does not define whether or not the relationship will work or not. In the article, "Does age really matter in relationships?" the writer states, "Based on these current trends, age does not matter when it comes to two consenting adults making a conscious decision to be together, regardless of the reasons why." This is true because if a woman and a man both love each other and age doesn't affect their moral decisions as to why they are together then why is it anyone's business as to how their age will affect their relationship? Who are we to decide their future just by a number? When you"re out on a date and the person you are dating seems a little bit older than you or maybe a bit younger than you, you can't ask their age because it"s rude to do so. Take a look at Hugh Hefner who dates younger women all the time with no problem or how about Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon who are 12 years apart and just had twins together.

Therefore, a relationship is about a strong emotional connection between two people, usually of the opposite genders, usually with the man earning and the woman caring for the domestic issues. There are however huge variants of the norm, and there are mindless relationships between the youth of today which involve having sex for no reason at a young age and ruining their lives but this attitude is not due to age, it's due to culture, lack of discipline and lack of genuine sex education. Why do you think that even in a developing country like India there are barely any teenage pregnancies whilst in developed countries it's a major issue.It is because when you give people lack of discipline and too much freedom, the foolish ones use it wrongly, whilst the norm and wiser ones use it correctly. Thus, you are giving the rebels as your entire case, I think you are mistaken.

Age does not matter in relationships. The only determining factor is love and happiness. And for us to say it is wrong for a 45-year-old to be married to a 23-year-old is wrong. It is not our place for us to judge them just as it is not our place to judge two married people that are different races. Age-gap-relationships can work, depending on who you put yourself around, people who will not accept it or those people who really love you that will accept and support what you do no matter what. Age shouldn't be a factor in love. Love just happens with no limits because you can't control who you love even if it is someone 10 years older or younger than you therefore we are for why age should not matter in a relationship.
Vannarosewolf

Con

Vannarosewolf forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 3
Shabin86

Pro

"Is that love or just power of money?" It isn't our decision to determine that. If a 20 year old is dating a 40 year old they are clearly dating for a reason whether it is love or money. For one thing, love is definitely a factor in the relationship and if the woman or man has money it"s an advantage but what you are saying is stereotypical. Why does a young woman have to be a gold digger when dating an older man with money, can't it be just because she loves the guy? It is stated that you think that an older man married to a younger woman is a slight safety hazard when we disagree. Men as a whole are very strong and more dominant and are there to protect the woman regardless if a woman is older than the man. Today we have social media websites like eHarmony or match.com that when you are signing up for those you put your likes and dislikes, what you like in a male or female, and when it comes down to matching you with the right person, it comes down to the compatibility you have with each other. Therefore I am pro for saying age does not matter in a relationship because age is just a number.

Head speaker, opposition and members of the audience, in conclusion, age does not matter in relationships. The only determining factor is love and happiness. And for us to say it is wrong for a 45-year-old to be married to a 23-year-old is wrong. It is not our place for us to judge them just as it is not our place to judge two married people that are of different races. Age-gap-relationships can work, depending on who you put yourself around, people who will not accept it or those people who really love you that will accept and support what you do no matter what. Age shouldn't be a factor in love. Love just happens with no limits because you can't control who you love even if it is someone 10 years older or younger than you therefore we are for why age should not matter in a relationship.maturity isn't correlated to age. Experience is what develops maturity and some people go through more in their life in a short span of time than others. If both of the partners are mature then the age is negligible. We believe that as long both parties are of legal age, they should be allowed to date/marry/have children/ etc. because they are both adults.
Vannarosewolf

Con

Vannarosewolf forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 4
Shabin86

Pro

The first negative speaker has agreed with me that as long as the two people are consenting both can understand the needs and desires of their partner. She argued however that a 15 year old could not have the emotional and regular intelligence to have a healthy and fulling relationship. I believe this is wrong because there are many 15 year olds now adays who are matured at the age of 15 and are quite bright to understand the contents of a relationship and can make decisions for themselves at such age. She also said that if a 25 year old partner wants to invest in the relationship then it would be his/ her duty to wait 3 years before advancing the relationship further. I have questioned you my audience in my previous arguments emphasising that why is it anyone's business as to how their age will affect their relationship? who are we to decide their future based on just number? it is not our place to judge them just as it is not our place to judge a married couple of different races.
Our first speaker spoke to you about maturity being a serious factor in relationships, but would like to point out that it is not necessarily determined by age. She also spoke about Age is but a number " it"s compatibility that counts. And also older partners have more life experience.
Our second speaker spoke about is that love or just power of money? Stating that it isn't our decision to determine that. Finally, education; it isn't relevant to age, in fact young people learn faster than adult.
The bottom line is, every relationship has things to overcome, but if they can overcome them, it only makes the relationship stronger. And believe it or not, relationships with age gaps are very common these days. The way you were raised just determines if you accept it or not. There is no such thing as young or old, only younger and older. You will always have someone younger than you or older than you." Besides, the only thing that should matter in a relationship is love, and if they truly love each other, nothing else should matter.
Head speaker, opposition and members of the audience, in the final analysis, there is no right or wrong answer to this question, but we think that this debate will go on for a long time. Does age matter? Surely the answer has to be that it should only matter to the couple concerned. If they are happy with the age gap then everyone else should respect their feelings and wishes and leave them to get on with it. As parents, they can only be there to pick up the pieces.
Vannarosewolf

Con

Vannarosewolf forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 5
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Posted by vheax 2 years ago
vheax
I don't agree with the "older people have more experience" concept. Elders do a lot of stupid things as well. It truly depends on the two individuals if they do value the relationship, doesn't matter what age group they belong to.
Posted by Mister_Man 2 years ago
Mister_Man
If two people can make a relationship work, there's no reason age should matter. It's too bad irrelevent people get upset over it.
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Reasons for voting decision: Con just stated her opinion, not to mention she FF'd the final 2 rounds. But, she had better grammar.