Age shouldn't matter in a relationship
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To start off I am pro at saying that it shouldn't matter what age difference there are in relationships. Whether it is a older woman dating a younger man or an older man dating a significantly younger woman it shouldn't matter as long as they both are of legal age. What matters is the feelings and love shared by the two companions and if they are compatible with each other. In other words, "It isn't about age, it's about maturity."
As a person gets older, age tends to not matter so much. I remember in high school dating a boy just a year younger than me was crazy and the talk of the school. Once a person hits their 20's nobody will think twice. Relationships are not about age, but depends on how a person views their life, the situation they are in, and how willing they are to move forward with or without age being an influence on their decisions.
If a woman is dating a younger man then the woman can show the man what she likes and mature him to her standards. He will become more likely to grow up. Age does not define whether or not the relationship will work or not. Age is just a number. Take a look at this article..
In the article the writer states, "Based on these current trends, age does not matter when it comes to two consenting adults making a conscious decision to be together, regardless of the reasons why." This is true because if a woman and a man both love each other and age doesn't effect their moral decisions as to why they are together then why is it anyone's business as to how their age will effect their relationship? Who are we to decide their future just by a number.
When your out on a date and the person you are dating seems a little bit older than you or maybe a bit younger than you, you can't ask their age because its rude to do so. Take a look at Hugh Hefner who dates younger woman all the time with no problem or how about Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon who are 12 years apart and just had twins together.
Age shouldn't be a factor in love. Love just happens with no limits because you can't control who you love even if it is someone 10 years older or younger than you therefore I am pro for why age should not matter in a relationship.
First off, like you, I believe that if you feel a compatibility with someone, go for it! however if that person is 20 years older that you, that's a little strange. I mean you sea all of these super old rich guys married to 20 year old models.
Now tell me, is that love? or is it just the power of money?
And second off I am a male, and I know that males tend to have a more public and/or aggressive sexual life. Now, I'm not saying that every man in the world is a child molester, I just think that an older man married to a younger woman is a slight safety hazard.
For one thing thank you for agreeing with me that, "if you feel compatible with someone to go for it." but lets take a look at what con said..
"If a person is 20 years older than you, that's strange."
- That is a matter of opinion and when your in love it won't matter what other people think or if its "strange" or not. You also said, "You see super old rich guys married to 20 year old models," but who are we to tell them that they are not allowed to be in that relationship because of age difference.
Con also said, "Is that love or just power of money." It isn't our decision to determine that. If a 20 year old is dating a 40 year old they are clearly dating for a reason whether it is love or money. For one thing, love is definetely a factor in the relationship and if the woman or man has money its an advantage but what you are saying is stereotypical. Why does a young woman have to be a gold digger when dating an older man with money, can't it be just because she loves the guy?
Secondly, you stated that you think that an older man married to a younger woman is a slight safety hazard when I disagree. Men as a whole are very strong and more dominant and are there to protect the woman regardless if a woman is older than the man. Today we have social media websites like eharmony or match.com that when you are signing up for those you put your likes and dislikes, what you like in a male or female, and when it comes down to matching you with the right person, it comes down to the compatibility you have with each other. Therefore I am pro for saying age does not matter in a relationship because age is just a number.
P.S. If you haven't noticed yet due to my limited writing skills and shorter responses, I'm an 8th grader.
Thank you for understanding my point of why it really shouldn't matter what age a person is in a relationship. I said, "If two people really love each other and are very compatible with each other than it shouldn't matter what age they are." Although most people do argue how can someone be 99 years old and date an 18 year old even though that's very unrealistic. A more realistic example would be a 24 year old dating a 44 year old. People can't pick and chose who they love, it is a feeling and something beyond our control.
When arguing this topic, "Age shouldn't matter in a relationship" the common thing to think about is how can someone be so strong against it when someday like you said, it could be you. If you fell in love beyond your control with an older woman how can you tell me you wouldn't want to be with them because of a number? People commented on this debate rudely and it is funny because this shows none of them have ever dated younger or older then them. I am so strong to believe age shouldn't matter because my boyfriend is actually younger than me, just by a year, but I know I am going to spend the rest of my life with him. Therefore it is very easy for me to believe age is just a number.
P.S: I didn't know you were an 8th grader but you do have good points and I do appreciate you seeing my side of the argument! Please continue the debate :)
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Vote Placed by PeacefulChaos 5 years ago
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Reasons for voting decision: Although I agree with Con (and still do), Con forfeited, which left all of Pro's arguments and rebuttals standing. Pro was the only one who had sources; thus, Pro wins this debate.
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