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Aichurek
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smuggler
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Are arranged marriages stronger than those based on love

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Started: 10/29/2012 Category: Society
Updated: 4 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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Aichurek

Con

I think that arranged marriages are worse variant for everyone because family which is built by this way will be just a drama or a something like a theatre with everything going with order but this order is just the mask of madness showing insaneness of the process just because this family will have no variety in life. Every day of their marriage will look like a small circle which ends fast after riding it up and also life will become uninteresting and the pair will meet many difficulties
smuggler

Pro

I go with arranged marriage because after marriage there is so much excitement in one's heart to know about each other. After marriage we can know each other very well and accordingly we can compromise our-self respect each other. But in case of love marriage there is no more excitement after marriage because we already know each other.
Debate Round No. 1
Aichurek

Con

For a first time, for arranged marriages there are many opportunities but there also may be many problems including that there may be many varieties in mental thoughts, social incompatibilities. For example one of them maybe a Christian but another is strict atheist and their opinions about one point like religion may not touch. But points like this are surrounding us from everywhere and find a person which can take the conformation which he or she will like is very very hard. The only decision is love, a psychical process which maintains smoothness between people so that that places of touch in opinions are not making conflicts. Conflicts which are uncontrollable and the marriage may end even when not started normally are made between the people which dont know each other well . But in the marriages based on love this problems are evaded just because this marriages provide the basic information about partner and in result they will be prepared for some problems. So marriages based on love are stable and provide a good family to population which includes in it basically normally grown children which will know how to build a good family later
smuggler

Pro

good arguments :) , but u mentioned about religious conflicts in their way of thinking. u gave an example that lets say one of them is christian and another one is strict atheist. alright, don't u think such occasions can be between sweethearts ? don't u think a Muslim guy falls in love with buddhist girl and marry her? and afterwards they broke up because of religious contradictions. today arranged marriages are common throughout the world including central asia.
u know, the love fades away after marriage and only the marriage remains.
Debate Round No. 2
Aichurek

Con

You should think that if this problems will arise between sweethearts they will fight it because i said that "love is a psychical process which smooths the touching points between them" so even if they will have many many intersecting points which dissect their relationship i think that they will find an exit from that labyrinth while the arranged pair will not do this just because they are arranged. Even if occasions like this,like any will exist between sweethearts they will surpass them while the arranged pairs will stuck stupidly on it and will not be able to go straight ahead just because they are not ready. You say love fades but i think that was not love but just a passion. Real "lovers" really don't think about contradictions they may change substantially for their love... The arranged marriages have their abilities limited they are just like surrogates making children just friends while lovers show their feelings their love and their children seeing it will also be normal people marrying not at someone for whom their parented pointed or whom they think will give them enough money but for someone who will love him or her. The real feelings are the real marriage and real population growing naturally. And as last example i should add you a fact of science, lovers are the heterozygotes in many cases meaning that their children will be stronger and having less probability of having a genetic disease, love is a miracle which helps build stable and healthy family so the marriage based on love is also truthfully the only thing which can defend humanity from developing genetic polymorphisms
smuggler

Pro

Not all love marriages have happy endings. Sometimes discord arises even in love marriages. In the west girls who are fat find it difficult to find suitable dates. There is pressure on the women to conform to conventional male ideas of beauty where women have to be tall and slim with hourglass figures. These kinds of attitudes and perspectives have not only created the kinds of conditions but are also responsible for women suffering a lot of pain and rejection.
arranged marriages offer more protection, security to the women. There is not much pressure on the women to look like models. Parents employ maturity and wise judgment when choosing suitable spouses for their children. Sometimes it helps to rely on another person's opinion and experience when selecting one's partner, especially when the people marrying are young and need guidance and advice in marrying a suitable person.
Debate Round No. 3
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