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dipset1997
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Can a person be romantically in love with more than one person at the same time

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Started: 2/14/2015 Category: Philosophy
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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Desi4

Pro

(1.) Love is an intense feeling of deep affection.

(2.) Love in this case refers to the sensual form and not a plutonic love.

(3.) Sensual love includes feelings of intimacy, sexuality, and care towards another individual.

(4.) There is no controlling whom one loves, how many people one loves and when those times of love occur.

(5.) Many cultures actively practice polygamy and have many partners that they are in love with.

(6). Infidelity is not a new concept by any means; in fact it is very common.

(7.) One cannot help whom they love and when dealing with someone whom one has interest in it is very likely to occur.

(8.) Therefore, a person can be in love with more than one person at the same time

Non-controversial
Premises 1,2,3 are non controversial because they are simply definitions.

Controversial
Premises 4,5,6 and 7 are controversial because my opponent may have different views on the subject. Premises (4 &7) are true because you can"t help any kind of emotions you have, such as anger, sadness or even happiness, you can only hide these emotions. Premise (5) occurs in many countries and the people involved in those relationships end up falling in love with one another. Premise (6) is true because there are many cases of infidelity that occur and the person ends up falling in love with the person that is not their partner.
dipset1997

Con

(1.)I agree on the definition of love being that of an intense feeling of deep affection.

(2.)Both parties have agreed on using the form of sensual and not plutonic love.

(3.)We have both agreed on sensual love being that of which includes intimacy, sexuality, and caring about another individual.

(4.)You can choose whom you get involved with, and how deep you take your relationship.

(5.)Most polygamy relationships are forced and the person that is marrying all of these people usually is only in love with one out of the many.

(6.)Marriage is for those who have found their one true love and are ready to be faithful and committed to that one person.

(7.)Lust can cause a person to have interest in many people but not love any of them.

(8.)Trying to love more than one person can cause you to fall out of love with whom you loved first and can cause one of your partners to leave you causing you to only be able to love whom you were left with.

(9.)Therefore, you cannot be in love with more than one person at the same time.

Non-controversial
Premises 1,2,3 are definitions and both parties agreed on them so they are non controversial.

Controversial
Premises 4,5,6,7 and 8 are all controversial because people may have different views then I do. Premises (4, 7 &8) are true because you do chose who you want to get involved with and if you don"t chose anyone then you wont fall in love with anyone. Choosing more than one person you may in fact fall in love with one and push the other away or if any of your partners find out they may force you to choose between them and the others; once again forcing you to fall in love with only one. Premise (5) is true because in other countries many males marry more than one woman to prove their wealth and to have extra housewives to do all the cooking, cleaning and raising of the children. The male usually favors one out of the many females and it is the woman whom he is truly in love with. Premise (6) is also true and when not following these rules it leads to divorce causing one if not both partners to fall out of love with one another, especially if any one has found someone else.
Debate Round No. 1
Desi4

Pro

(4.) One can choose how deep they want to take a relationship but one cannot help any emotions they begin to feel towards another. Not taking a relationship to the next level has nothing to do with the emotions one may feel towards the other. For example many people who are in love with each other don"t get married, but it does not change the fact that they love one another.

(5.) To say that it is impossible to love multiple at one time would be insulting polygamists and calling their happiness a fallacy.

(6.) There are plenty of cases where people cheat on their spouses with another person and are in love with both their spouse and their lover. A person falls in love with qualities in another person. Everybody brings a different set of qualities to the table, so one is able to love multiple people because one is able to love multiple sets of qualities.

(7.) Being interested in someone and being involved with someone is two different things. One may have lust towards many but it can easily turn into love when emotions come into play.

(8.) Falling in love with another person doesn"t mean you"ll fall out of love with the person you were already in love with. Even someone leaving you doesn"t mean one still wont be in love with them, there are plenty of times where people just need brakes from on another but they are still in love.
dipset1997

Con

(4.) A person not taking it to the next level means they"re unsure of their feelings. By not wanting to go further with someone it can prevent you from allowing yourself to love them and you will begin to question your feelings towards them.

(5.) A person who gets married by choice or force will end up having deep emotions for the person they"re marrying. Adding another person to the equation wont change that but in fact be a disadvantage for the new person because they may fall in love with the main person who is marrying them but the main person wont be in love with them only have love for them.

(6.) People who cheat on their husband/wife usually just do it for the feelings not because they are in love with the person. After their spouse finds out they are cheating it either results in a divorce or they make them stop seeing that other person not allowing for feelings to get any deeper than they already are.

(7.) Having lust for many people your feelings don"t get involved because you know it"s just a sexual desire. People who are already in love with one person but still have sexual desires for others don"t let emotions get involved with others that they tend to have lust towards.

(8.) If one falls in love with another person it is because they have fell out of love with the other. Taking a brake from a person you love can easily cause you to fall out of love with them and if you have taken interest in someone else it can also cause you to fall out of love with the other person.
Debate Round No. 2
Desi4

Pro

(4.) One not wanting to take it to the next level does not mean they are not in love, in fact the could just be scared of the new title and not want to ruin what they have with their other partners they may have. Being in love with others they may not want to put one before the other causing them to lose one.

(5.) People who love more than one person may want to marry all of them and in some cultures there is nothing wrong with that. Wanting to marry all of them will show the equal love they have for each and every one of them that they are in love with.

(6.) A lot of infidelity cases occur because people recognize their love for another person and because society has made it so that we feel immoral for feeling so, people go behind their spouses back. It's cheating but if society confronted itself and admitted that people can love more than one person, than infidelity would go down because it wouldn't be infidelity.

(7.) One love doesn't negate the other. Loving someone for what they offer you can lead to loving multiple people because, as I stated previously, people offer different kinds of love. It's all about the kind of love one seeks and how much is required.

(8.) Taking a brake from someone doesn"t mean you don"t still think about them or the good times you"ve had with them and feelings wont just disappear. People whom have gotten a divorce have rekindled and even remarried in most cases. Falling in love with another person while on that brake doesn"t mean you"ll fall out love with whom you are still in love with.
dipset1997

Con

(4.) People who have got out of a recent relationship and found someone else may not want to take it further because they are still in love with the other person. Making it hard to have serious feelings for this new person, they may have love for them but not being in love with them will cause the relationship to move no further.

(5.) Many males in certain cultures that allow polygamy are in love with their first wife. Any wife added after that is only for a good asset. They may come from wealthy families, be a good working or have very good offspring, in a way they are being used. After time the male may begin to have love for the others but he will only truly be in love with his first wife.

(6.) When infidelity occurs its usually because they have fallen out of love with their partner and have taken interest in someone else whom they may feel they are starting to fall in love with. But some are in love with their partners and just cheat for the fun of it not having any emotion for the people they"re cheating with because they cant see themselves with anyone else but their husband/ wife.

(7.) If a person is only seeking one type of love and other people that they have interest in are all providing different kinds of love they will only be in love with the one person that is providing the love that they are seeking.

(8.) People take brakes from one another because they lose feelings or have found someone else. They wont be in love with the person they left and the new person they have taken interest in.
Debate Round No. 3
Desi4

Pro

(1.) Love is an intense feeling of deep affection.

(2.) Love in this case refers to the sensual form and not a plutonic love.

(3.) Sensual love includes feelings of intimacy, sexuality, and care towards another individual.

(4.) There is no controlling whom a person falls in love with

(5.) Cultures whom practice polygamy have people in marriages with more than one person whom they are in love with

(6). Infidelity is common and a person is in love with not only their spouse but also their mistress.

(7.) Having interest in someone can cause you to fall in love with them.

(8.) Therefore, a person can be in love with more than one person at the same time

I have restated my premises and edited where necessary. My argument still stands: It is possible to romantically love more than one person at once.
dipset1997

Con

(1.)I still agree on the definition of love being an intense feeling of deep affection.

(2.)I also still agree that love in this case refers to the sensual form and not a plutonic love.

(3.)Sensual love includes intimacy, sexuality, and caring about another individual.

(4.)You can choose who you want to involve yourself with and if you want to continue to take your relationship to the next level.

(5.)Most polygamy relationships are forced and is based on assets and not love.

(6.)One gets married when they find their one true love whom they want to be with for the rest of their life.

(7.)Lust is a sexual desire and it is possible to have that for many people and not fall in love with either one.

(8.)Trying to love more than one person can cause you to push the other away making it so you can only really love one person.

(9.)Therefore, you cannot be in love with more than one person at the same time.

I have restated my premises and made any necessary changes and I still agree on the definitions that have been stated but my argument still remains that you can only be in love with one person at a time.
Debate Round No. 4
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