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Can a person love more than one person romantically at the same time?

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Started: 2/14/2015 Category: Philosophy
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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AMusarra

Pro

1)Romantic love is a type of love that has a component of sexual or physical attraction.
2)Love is defined as a deep and intense emotional connection one feels for another person.
3)Love is a universal emotion that can felt by all humans no matter what culture, race, gender or status.
4)There are several different types of love. For instance, there is love between parents and children. There can be love between people that are friends with no physical attraction.
5)In order to have love there does not have to be an equality of emotion from both parties. One can love someone yet not be loved in return.
6)Romantic love is not gender specific. Romantic love can be between persons of opposite, or the same gender.
7)It is possible to have sexual or physical attraction without love.
8)There can be differing intensities of the love felt for another person.
9)Love is associated with changes in a person"s brain chemistry. It has been shown to affect serotonin, dopamine and adrenaline levels.
10)The physical aspect of love, i.e. the changes in brain chemistry, are part of the animal aspect of humans to procreate the species as much as possible. These chemical feelings create pleasure that encourage humans to procreate.
11)Humans are after all still animals who need to procreate to continue their species.
12)Therefore, it is possible to romantically love more than one person at once.

1 - definition of romantic love has been agreed upon.
2- 11, non -controversial.
12 - controversial

2 - love can be defined as one of the strongest emotions humans have,
3- the ability to feel love is a part of humanness.
4 - there are other types of love besides romantic
5 - love is many times one sided, it does not have to be reciprocal
6 - many people love those of same, opposite or varying sexes.
7 - many people have sexual relationships that do not have the depth of feeling that defines love.
8 - People may feel lessening love for someone they have been with for a long time, and more for someone they have been with for a shorter time.
9 - scientific studies have shown that a physiological change comes with the feeling of love.
10 - Humans just like other animals, need a reason to procreate which is pleasure.
11 - At the root of it we are still an animal species and will want to feel this pleasure in order to procreate more
LMWordy

Con

1) agreed
2) Love is more than a deep sense of emotional connection. True love carries a connection of
soul. It is also a sense of responsibility for another human and worry about their well being.
3) It is innately and uniquely human to be able to feel love. Also, there are some persons who
are unable to feel love.
4) Agreed.
5) If you are the only one that is in love, then it is no longer love. It may be infatuation, or
obsession but love must be a mutual connection.
6) Agreed.
7) Agreed.
8) There is only one degree of true love. Either you love someone or you do not. If one is
feeling a lesser degree, then one has fallen out of love. We may feel infatuated or attached
to someone in the beginning of a relationship but that is also not yet love. There is no "I love
you a little bit"
9) Which studies? There are no doubt some physiological changes that come, but they are not
necessarily an indicator of love over infatuation.
10) Humans procreate because they have decided to. They do not have to procreate due to
animal instinct, although it may be pleasurable.
11) Procreation does not come into play when you are examining the issue of love. As human
beings we have transcended above our animal beginnings to have free will. We have souls,
guidelines of morality, and reasoning. The feelings we experience during true romantic love
are not merely our biological beings wanting to procreate, and that is not a reason to
procreate with multiple people.
12) It is not possible to feel true romantic love for more than one person at a time.
Debate Round No. 1
AMusarra

Pro

2) One may feel sense of responsibility for ones they love, but it is not a required component. Especially in romantic love people may not feel a responsibility for that person as that person may be responsible for themselves, or have someone else who is responsible for their well being as in the case when one romantically loves one who is attached to someone else.
3) As a whole, love is something that is experienced and understood by the human race.
5) There are situations where there has been mutual romantic love but one partner is no longer in love but the other continues to be. There are also situations where one feels love for another and it is not reciprocated. Although one sided, having feelings of romantic love are no way contingent on mutual feelings.
8) There are many cases where people who have had satisfying romantic love in a relationship become dissatisfied with the relationship and their level of interest decreases. They may also fall in love with another at this point and that relationship may be more exciting. It does not mean the person is not still in love with the person they are dissatisfied with.
9) Studies have been done by many researchers. One was done here in NJ at Rutgers University (see
http://people.howstuffworks.com...) of people who reported they were in relationships and in love. This is a generally accepted fact that there are changes in the brain.
10) Although we can decide for ourselves, there is still the biological component we cannot deny.
11) We are the highest functioning on the evolutionary level and have higher reasoning but one has to understand we are biological creatures. One of the reasons we can love more than one person is biological.
12) It is possible to feel romantic love for more than one person at a time
LMWordy

Con

2) Even if one loves someone whose needs are being by another, one still feels a sense of responsibility if it is truly romantic love. For instance, it you are just sexually attracted or infatuated by someone who for example lives with someone else, you would not feel responsible. If you truly loved them, you would want those responsibilities to be taken on by yourself and not let someone else do it.
8) If one is dissatisfied with the relationship, then they have lost the deep emotional and soulful connection that defines love. There may still be caring, especially if it has been a long term relationship, but without that connection it is no longer romantic love.
10) and 11) Continue to disagree. As humans we have a higher plane of being, a connection with a higher power that transcends our simple biology. To have the deep connection that signifies love is only possible with one person at a time. To have lust for many to seek pleasure and procreation, that is possible to feel for many.
Debate Round No. 2
AMusarra

Pro

2) A sense of responsibility is in no way a requirement in romantic love. In other types of love as stated before, yes. In romantic love each individual is responsible for him or herself and presumably of an age to make independent decisions. There is no biological tie between the individuals that creates the kind of feelings of responsibility as there are between parents and children.
8 )If the two components of romantic love are a deep emotional connection and a sexual or physical attraction, these both can still be present but the desire can decrease while the desire for another increases. Thus one can still be "in love" but perhaps not so deeply and find a deeper love with another for whom one has more desire.
10) and 11) I would say humans are both spiritual beings and animal beings, but one cannot put aside the biological portion, we have not completely lost our animal instincts.
LMWordy

Con

2) If there is no sense of responsibility then there is not a deep emotional tie that would signify love.
8) If one loses the depth of emotional connection, it is no longer love, it is something else.
10) and 11) If one wants to look at biology, humans are one of the few species that tend to mate for life. There are many practical purposes for this but probably one of the most important is that there is not a possibility to extend the type of emotional and spiritual bond that comes with true romantic love to more than one partner at a time.
Debate Round No. 3
AMusarra

Pro

1)Romantic love is a type of love that also has a component of sexual or physical attraction.
2)Love is defined as a deep and intense emotional connection one feels for another person.
3)Love is a universal emotion that can felt by all humans.
4)There are several different types of love.
5)In order to have love there does not have to be an equality of emotion from both parties.
6)Romantic love is not gender specific. It is possible to have sexual or physical attraction without love.
7)There can be differing intensities of the love felt for another person.
8)Love is associated with changes in a person"s brain chemistry.
9)The physical aspect of love are part of the animal aspect of humans to procreate the species as much as possible.
10)and 11)Humans are after all still animals who need to procreate to continue their species. It is within our biology to have the ability to love more than one other person at a time

12) Therefore, it is possible to romantically love more than one person at once.
LMWordy

Con

1) Romantic love is a type of love that also has a component of sexual or physical attraction.
2) True love carries a component of a connection of soul and a sense of feeling responsible for
another human.
3) it is innately and uniquely human to be able to feel love.
4) There are different types of love.
5) Love must be a mutual connection.
6) Romantic love can be any gender.
7) It is possible to have sexual or physical attraction without love.
8) There is only one degree of true love.
9) Brain changes may not indicate love.
10) and 11) Biological issues do not dictate what is love.
12) it is not possible to feel true romantic love for more than one person at a time.
Debate Round No. 4
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