Can teens be in love?
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1) Teens most likely break up. They are experimenting because they don't know their own feelings well enough. For that reason, they cannot define their own love as "true love" yet.
2) Teens are driven by their own interests and do what benefits them. They aren't likely to care about another person more than theirselves.
3) Generally, it has been proven that the feeling "love" as in butterflies etc. can only last for about 10 months max. Only broken hearts last longer. Oddly enough, that's how long the average children relations last at max. I see a connection here: Teens simply do not grow a bond, do not connect to their lovers. They do not learn to live with eachother. Exceptions exist ofcourse!
I'll then try to prove that there ARE exceptions of people who do truly feel love at a young age. These people are mature and have close to no connection to society as we know it. Most likely, this kind of love for teenagers barely occurs in the western world. When two children, a boy and a girl, would grow up together in a farmer's village, I believe they would truly fall in love, and that at a young age. They'll become part of each others life and will have special feelings towards each other. They'll value the other person, consider them a major part of their life and won't care about what anyone else thinks. This kind of love comes straight from the heart and is in no way part of "social life" since it is just the boy and girl setting their own terms of what "true love" is.
Now, I will add why teenagers in the western world can still have this exceptionally. Some people read alot of books, and are intrigued by the romantic stories in a completely different world - manga and anime love stories can be found all over the internet and are easily the best example of what teenagers would try to imitate in their own life. Because of that, they'll really be able to say "to hell with society, to hell with my image and to hell with all these fake loves!"
These boys and girls will be much more loyal, show much more affection and will really feel love. They will be able to grow the bond that adults grow, but on a young age. They will be fascinited by the other gender, unlike the majority of their fellow teenagers who consider love a game.
You're obviously quite the adventure man with the ladies, huh? The benefits are a consequence of the sexual revolution. But, as i said, some more primitive people will still value love in its true form.
I don't count as an example, but I'm 18 and only had one girl. Since then, I'm basically sitting around not being able to build up love anymore.
Plenty of my friends cannot participate in the sexual revolution like you do. Me and my friends, well, we're just not interesting or attractive enough. For those reasons, when we finally find a girl, we will value her alot more than you value your girls. We'll more likely stay together longer because we know that we really ARE special to each other.
As for the problems in normal relationships you sum up, yeah, those basically are the problems of "fake love".
I'll just have to make you convince yourself that you're one of those average teenagers who treat love like a game, rather than something that overcomes them. Dating for teenagers can only have a meaning of love in exceptional cases, in the other cases, its like you say "popular sluts" and "chasing own benefit". For those, dating only serves them in a way of own benefit.
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