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NSG
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solo
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Dating in workplace

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Voting Style: Open Point System: 7 Point
Started: 12/27/2007 Category: Society
Updated: 9 years ago Status: Voting Period
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NSG

Con

I have always been against office romance.
I don't think it is wise to date in workplace, although I have seen people done that.
We all know single people who spend most of their waking hours at work and it would be a dream come true for them to find love on the job as opposed to dealing with blind dates or even online matchmaking. But the downside is daunting: Those kisses by the copier can cost you your paycheck.

Let's see how the rest of you think about this.:P
solo

Pro

Dating in the workplace is a great advantage for any person/couple.

Healthy relationships require nurturing and if one is dating a person in any job, it allows the bond between people to strengthen. It inspires focus and requires the daters to treat one another in a professional manner during work periods, which promotes good communication skills and teamwork.

Intra-office dating should not only be supported, but applauded as well.
Debate Round No. 1
NSG

Con

Hello Solo,

I can see where you come from. There are a lot of single men and women who don't have the time to meet new people.After all, single young professional spend at least 40 hours a week there, with individuals of similar backgrounds and interests. Naturally, they seek their potential partners within their surrounding environment -- the office.

What's bad about dating in workplace is that:

It may lead to self-destruct.The fact that couples are in constant contact with one another day and night may cause friction within the relationship. I think you would agree with me that everyone needs "alone time" to pursue hobbies or hang out with friends/family, and the lack thereof may cause relationships to self-destruct.

It's impossible to avoid the power aspect of your relationship. Ask someone who is a subordinate to go out on a date and you've crossed the line, you've compromised your professionalism and put them into an extremely difficult situation.

Do they say yes because you're higher ranked (or, worse, their boss)? Do they say no and then fear for their job and/or evaluations thereafter? If they are higher ranked, what would other co workers say about you? They might talk bad about you, accusing you taking advantage of the relationship as the corporate ladder even if that's not your intention!

In a word, it gets complicated when mixing love with work, therefore, my advice is that DON'T LOOK INTO WORKPLACE DATING.

Thank you.
solo

Pro

Hi NSG, I must admit you're a fast favorite of mine on Debate.org (even though it seems that we disagree on almost everything, HA!) and I thank you for proposing this debate.

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You MAY live a miserable and lonely life if you don't date a co-worker. You cannot live your life in fear of what MAY or MAY not happen.

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I don't agree with that. I think (upper) management can date subordinates. I've witnessed, first-hand, a very healthy dating relationship develop into marriage between two friends, where one was a manager and the other a subordinate.

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Life and love is all about complication. There are no guarantees, but it's not as volatile as you're suggesting. Embrace love and companionship where you find it, even if it's at work.
Debate Round No. 2
NSG

Con

Hello Solo,

Thank you, we enjoy having you here on debate.org as well! :)

I used "MAY" instead of "WILL" because I am a firm believer on "nothing is absolute". You know I should have used "WILL". That's what I have learned from you, thank you for pointing out. :)

It's not simply being in fear not to, it's being wise and cautious. The paycheck is quite important nowadays, we have to pay extra caution on what we do/talk/dress... at work.

Like you, I have seen employees dating at work too, some of them are doing great, some aren't! However, thinking of what will happen when a relationship between employees breaks apart. In many cases, they will handle it like adults and move on with their respective lives. In other cases, the resulting unpleasantness may require transferring one or both employees to new roles. An employee may file a claim of harassment, even if your policy is very clear and is enforced. In an extreme case, the emotional stress may lead an employee to lash out and commit an act of violence.

Workplace dating will interfere with individuals' abilities to perform their professional duties as well. e.g.Imagine telling your girlfriend that she's fired? There is obvious potential for conflicts of interest between office situations and relationships.

Thank you. I do agree the point that we shouldn't live in fear.
solo

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I agree with you completely, which is why I strongly believe that self-preservation will prevail above self-destructive behavior at the workplace, even in the event of a "falling out" where the dating ceases. People are able to maintain great friendships after failed intimate relationships all the time, everywhere you go!

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I'm glad that you were able to witness this for yourself and that you can agree with me!

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I couldn't agree with you more!

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That seems a bit extreme, but I'll give it to you that it "MAY" happen.

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Yes, those things "MAY" happen, but I haven't witnessed this rarity. I'd venture to say you haven't either, otherwise you probably would have mentioned it. It WILL be sad if you ignore oppportunity's knock, to later find it never had knocked at your door again.

As *they* say, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained."
Debate Round No. 3
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Posted by solo 9 years ago
solo
dalzuga, thanks for the input! Sorry for the two-week delayed response.
Posted by dalzuga 9 years ago
dalzuga
I voted solo.
NSG did a good job bringing up the many problems and the like, but I think she did not support the argument that it is *generally* bad. Such an assertion is very strong and hard to debate.

(Spoiler Warning: if you haven't read or watched Romeo and Juliet, beware of spoilers!)

Sure there's a lot of problems that may arise from dating at work, but if you really like someone then I think it is better that you step up. My man Romeo did. Sure, they both got killed, but u get the point lol
Posted by solo 9 years ago
solo
Thanks for commenting aaeap2!
Posted by aaeap2 9 years ago
aaeap2
I voted NSG because she has pointed out most drawbacks of office romance. Before beginning a relationship consider its potential outcomes!
Posted by solo 9 years ago
solo
Right! I didn't think of that. Thanks killa'! Have a good one!
Posted by killa_connor 9 years ago
killa_connor
I voted pro because solo was able to point out that the nature of love is volatile and unpredictable and that the office contexts doesn't make it that way. You should have elaborated on your argument that love should be pursued regardless of context/setting and that love in the workplace. I think you also should have attacked this notion that "love in the workplace could cost you your paycheck", you can disclose relationships to Human Resources in many companies which would undermine this point and add increased stability and legitimacy to the relationship.

Overall it was a great debate!
Posted by solo 9 years ago
solo
This debate seems to be neck-and-neck right now. Are there any voters that would care to share what either of us could have added to our arguments to sway you one way or the other?

Your comments are greatly appreciated!
Posted by NSG 9 years ago
NSG
Thank you Solo, it was nice debating with you.:)
Posted by solo 9 years ago
solo
Good job, NSG!!! I think you're an ALL-STAR!
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