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Do ex boyfriends/Girlfriends deserve a second chance?

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Voting Style: Open Point System: 7 Point
Started: 8/15/2014 Category: Society
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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kiki17

Con

Would giving someone a second chance depend on the situation or would it always be " everyone deserves a second chance" or "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me".
Debate Round No. 1
kiki17

Con

There is a reason why they are your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend. If they decided not to be loyal the first time it will only get easier to proceed to be unfaithful. Especially, if the cheaters sees that you will take them back even if they treat you like dirt. Why give someone who had to have hurt you at least one at some point in time during the relationship, why risk feeling the same way and getting hurt again. You not only risk your emotional state but also looking like a fool for taking the ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back. Lastly, why give someone another chance to hurt you when there is probably another person who has not gotten their first chance to show you how you should be treated.
Truth_seeker

Pro

While yes, cheating does hurt alot, i'd say that in some cases, leaving them would hurt even more. Cheating can be forgiven. When you seal yourself off from a person for fear of trust being broken, you close yourself off and hurt even more. You don't know if they have so much more potential to be a great human being that can benefit you. It's hard, but the true strength of the relationship lies on whether or not you can forgive and move past the hurts.
Debate Round No. 2
kiki17

Con

But to what extent would you be willing to go in order to forgive them? So if you love them and they cheat on you, you have to rebuild that trust before even considering a relationship with them. Some ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends do not deserve forgiveness because they only seek to gain for themselves. In some cases, when a person tries to forgive the person that wronged them, they lose themselves. If you two people were meant to be, then they would have fixed their problems before it got to the point of the relationship ending because they both want relationship to survive regardless.
Truth_seeker

Pro

If you truly love them, you would go to any extents to forgive them. If they truly love you, they would not need to cheat on you, but sometimes, it does happen. Bill Clinton's wife forgave him for engaging in an extra-marital affair. You are right, if they were meant for each other, they would fix their problems, but a relationship that ended does not mean that it's over. I've seen people break up and that's that, but i have also seen some people break up and eventually get back together. Trust is indeed very hard to gain back, but it can happen. Perhaps some relationships cannot be saved because the two aren't compatible, but some can. It's all of matter of your motives.
Debate Round No. 3
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Posted by kiki17 2 years ago
kiki17
I think so.
Posted by Truth_seeker 2 years ago
Truth_seeker
is 1st round acceptance?
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Reasons for voting decision: pro got examples
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Reasons for voting decision: Pro cited a specific example of a second chance working well.