Girlfriend is questioning abortion
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I was at my girl friend's house yesterday and she said that she needed to talk to me about something, so I said, "alright, what is it?" She told me I probably had to sit down for this. So I did...and started to get worried. "Johnny, I'm pregnant..." she said. But the thing is, we had pledged to abstinence. "How is that possible, babe?" She was in tears at this moment explaining that she was at a party a couple of weekends ago and she had blacked out. She was 8 days late on her period, as well. I asked her if she had taken a pregnancy test already and she said no, so we went and got one. The test name back positive. A little angel was growing inside of her. "I don't want to keep it. I'm not ready for a baby. I'm only 17." She said the A word. "You can't get an abortion!" I fought back. "Johnny, I was RAPED." Tears were streaming down her face. I hugged her and comforted her. "We're going to get through this together." I couldn't let my girlfriend get an abortion just because some a** hole slipped something in her drink at a party. I just couldn't...
Although I am male in real life, I feel like I can quite easily and effectively argue my points from the woman's point of view. I am pro-choice, I support the decision made by the woman and her right to do with her body what she chooses, and believe that the Choice can only be made by the one with the life within them, not by outside influences.
I am 17, I'm not even graduated from high school, my life is in so much chaos and uncertainty, and I know I do not have the capability to be a mother, nor should I have to carry the burden of someone else's decision within my womb. I know my boyfriend sincerely believes that there is a way to get through this without aborting the child, but I simply disagree with him. If I want to have a child, I want to have one with him, of my own will and desire, in the most beautifully intimate and romantic way.
These conditions that have been placed onto me by forces outside of my own control is not fair. Everyone deserves the right to make a decision. I was not given the right to make a decision. My life was invaded under false pretenses, and thus I should not have to hold the burden of carrying this child.
I don't think I can deny that life begins within the fetus the moment the sperm touches the egg. Consciousness, on the other hand, can be argued differently. The 24th or 28th week is the week that is scientifically recognized to be when the baby first contains 'consciousness'. It becomes a consciously aware being at this point, although its level of consciousness is extremely low.
I am not yet at my 24th week, so I can get an abortion without the being within my womb being consciously aware of what is going on. The life-form is not technically human yet, it has not developed to that point where it can be considered human. It is merely DNA right now, in the growth process of becoming human. But it is not yet human.
I hope, Johnny, that you can forgive me for my decision. But I want to have a child with you, not with anyone else. I can't look down at this child's face knowing his face is not a reflection of yours, that his DNA does not contain any of yours. The pain would be too unbearbale. What am I to tell him or her when they get older? That his birth was the result of rape? A complete accident? I could never bring myself to do that. I don't want to put him or her up for adoption either, because then that baby would know me as the mother that didn't love them at all, or was irresponsible, and I can't live with that idea either. They may end up with cruel foster parents, or even worse circumstances.
It is better to abort the child. It would be for the best. If reincarnation were real, well, maybe the soul will find a better womb than mine. If not, I hear that God, if he exists, takes all the aborted children and takes care of them in Heaven. Maybe if I go there I can explain to the baby why I made my decision. And, well, if there is no life after death then who really cares anyway? I would be doing this child a favor by not bringing him into such a cruel world.
Sorry, Johnny, but I think it's for the best. Tomorrow morning, I'm going to the abortion clinic. Not without discussing this over with you. But this is an invasion of my privacy, an invasion of my own right to a free and happy life. If I kept the child, it would be against my will. I can't love something that only reminds me of the face and eyes of the man who raped me. That is too much to ask of me.
Conscious or not, there is still life growing inside of you and to abort the baby would still be considered murder. It's a moral sin.
When he/she grows to be a teenager we simply tell him/her that they were a gift from God. We were blessed to have him/her in our lives. Regardless of the father, it's just like adopting a child.
Aborting the child would just simply result in depression. You would regret it after having the abortion and we would end up fighting over every little thing and I can't risk losing you. I love you with all my heart and I love this baby, even though he/she isn't mine I will be the father of this child.
I'm convinced this is not true. Human life begins after twenty-four weeks of conception, so before that time, the fetus does not have a right to a life because we cannot give human rights to non-human entities. The decision would fall on me, the mother.
I do believe the only reason I would be hurt and depressed is because other members in my family are hurt and depressed. Statistics show that only 5% to 30% of women are actually depressed and guilt-ridden after an abortion. And most of the time this is due to the woman's hormones switching back to the way they were before pregnancy. Emotions are all muddled together and confusing, but this is a completely natural response. On top of that, the family usually does not support the mother after she gets her abortion, and the loneliness does not help her cope.
If you are going to break up with me because I don't want to carry this burden, because I love you and I want to have a child with you, then maybe you never loved me to begin with. True love can survive over any hardship or turmoil, and you need to try and understand how I'm feeling right now, Johnny. I've just been raped, I've been deprived of my right to life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness, and I've been emotionally scarred to re-experience that moment over and over again in my head for the rest of my life. I shouldn't need to keep this unborn baby, it is not a moral sin if I get the abortion before it develops into a human being.
Please try and understanding my reasoning.
At the moment when a human sperm penetrates a human ovum, or egg, generally in the upper portion of the Fallopian Tube, a new entity comes into existence. "Zygote" is the name of the first cell formed at conception, the earliest developmental stage of the human embryo, followed by the "Morula" and "Blastocyst" stages.
The zygote is composed of human DNA and other human molecules, so its nature is undeniably human and not some other species.
This DNA includes a complete "design," guiding not only early development but even hereditary attributes that will appear in childhood and adulthood, from hair and eye color to personality traits.
It is also quite clear that the earliest human embryo is biologically alive. It fulfills the four criteria needed to establish biological life: metabolism, growth, reaction to stimuli, and reproduction
Finally, is the human zygote merely a new kind of cell or is it a human organism; that is, a human being? Scientists define an organism as a complex structure of interdependent elements constituted to carry on the activities of life by separately-functioning but mutually dependant organs. The human zygote meets this definition with ease. Once formed, it initiates a complex sequence of events to ready it for continued development and growth.
So after reading all of this, it is in fact guaranteed to be human.
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