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stgermainmsc2015
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Is Hookup Culture Leaving Your Generation Unhappy and Unprepared for Love?

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Started: 3/17/2015 Category: Society
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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dillmsc2015

Pro

Hookups " defined as brief uncommitted sexual encounters between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other.

Many people state wanting commitment; however, find it difficult to stay with just one person. Hookups are a way for people to get "instant gratification" without the nerves and pressure of a committed relationship.

People have started to look for hook ups rather than getting to know the person which devalues the human intellect and takes away the intimacy of sex in a committed relationship. A committed relationship is an interpersonal relationship based upon a mutually agreed-upon commitment to one another involving exclusivity, love, trust, honesty, openness, or some other agreed-upon behavior. In other words marriage is not the only form of a committed relationship.
stgermainmsc2015

Con

Hookup culture gives people the freedom explore their sexual identity without having their feelings attached. Hook up culture is not leaving our generation incapable and unprepared for love because it does not have any emotional attachment. This does not hinder the person's ability to have an emotional attachment once they are in a relationship, because it is not centered on feelings. Love should not be centered around sexual attraction anyway, but on the personality of the person so hookup culture would not hinder it.
Debate Round No. 1
dillmsc2015

Pro

Although hookup culture does give freedom to individuals to explore sexuality, it still doesn't prepare you for an actual loving relationship. Sexual actions should only be committed under a committed relationship because senseless sexual action leads to lose of sexual intimacy. A key part of our sexuality is our ability to be intimate: the ability to love, trust and care for others in relationships.

How does hookup culture "not hinder the person's ability to have an emotional attachment once they are in a relationship"?

Also, your argument on love not being centered on sexual attraction is hypocritical because that's what hookup culture is about.

We found "In another study, among 291 sexually experienced individuals, people who had the most regret after uncommitted sex also had more symptoms of depression than those who had no regret." This proves that your statement about there being no emotional attachment is false since the people that have have participated in hookup culture are more likely to have depression.
stgermainmsc2015

Con

Sexual intimacy is not just centered on sex, but a closeness with the person mentally as well. The physical connection of sex is made intimate by the mental connection between the two people. Because of this, a person who has been a part of hookup culture's ability to have an intimate relationship with a committed spouse is not hindered. A person's history of having many sexual encounters with no meaning before could actually make a real connection better because they now see an even better, more meaningful side of sex. If being intimate with someone is loving, trusting, and caring for them, then random hookups will not hinder the ability to be intimate. All of these attributes of intimacy are in no way a part of hookup culture.

The statement on love not being centered on sexual attraction is not hypocritical because hookup culture is not based on love. It is based simply on exploring with no feelings attached. Since love is not based on sexual attraction and hookup culture is, the two would be unrelated.

Since the 1980's, the divorce rate has declined with its lowest rate ever being now. This must mean that couples are happier now since a divorce is even easier to follow through with now with equality of the sexes is on the rise. Hookup culture has helped steady relationships to thrive because premarital sex and hookups have erased much of the sexual curiosity that can tear relationships apart. Aristotle once said "Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence." This means that happiness is not centered on being in a committed relationship or having only one partner, but discovering yourself and your meaning, which hookup culture can help with becuase of its aspect of human exploration.
Debate Round No. 2
dillmsc2015

Pro

Just to be clear this argument is about the effect on the current/upcoming generation and whether they are left unprepared for love not the moral aspect of hooking up.

Sexual intimacy is based on sex regardless of outside circumstances that lead to the actual sex. Going into an actual hookup is almost never an intimate mental connection but just a physical attraction for temporary pleasure. Multiple sexual encounters with no meaning do not make it special but rather something common. Your point about many hookups not affecting intimacy is valid; however, that is not what the debate is about. The topic at hand is hookup culture's affect on our happiness and readiness for complete love not just sexual intimacy.

With multiple hookups, the participant will become used to having relationships with no string attached making a committed relationship suffocating. Sexual attraction is a large part of a loving, committed relationship so sexual attraction does pertain to love as well as hookup culture.

The divorce rate does not have to do with hookup culture but since it was brought up the divorce rate has gone down; however, so has the marriage rate. No one ever said that you need to be in a committed relationship to be happy. Once again the point being made is how senseless hookups lead to something new which is a fully committed, and loving relationship.
stgermainmsc2015

Con

stgermainmsc2015 forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 3
dillmsc2015

Pro

Your lack of response is not surprising, it simply confirms how invalid your argument truly is. Thank you for your time. 😊
stgermainmsc2015

Con

My argument about intimacy not being affected is valid in this debate because intimacy is a key part of happiness which is the topic of this debate. If intimacy is not affected, as you just agreed with, then happiness is not being taken away either. My argument about sexual curiosity being gone is also relative because taking away this curious aspect of a marriage or relationship is leaving people more prepared to spend their lives together without disruption. So my argument does fit the question of if our generation is unhappy and unprepared for love.
Debate Round No. 4
dillmsc2015

Pro

Seeing that you have already forfeited when you could have replied in the previous round we conclude that your argument has lost legitimacy regardless of our response. Thank you!
stgermainmsc2015

Con

stgermainmsc2015 forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 5
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Posted by desaulnierspmsc2014 2 years ago
desaulnierspmsc2014
Obvious who won this debate! Nice work!
Posted by Kimbut123 2 years ago
Kimbut123
Brendan, as I agree with some of the facts, you must think of other forms of hooking up or being used as an object. In the previous years, there was no technology but now it is used for phone sex, explicit photos, and inappropriate conversations. In the statistics you gave, it was just sex in college, but to understand the concept of hooking up making our generation unhappy, you have to look at all aspects, especially technology.
Posted by BKL21996 2 years ago
BKL21996
I'm not saying that the hook up culture isn't an issue. I'm saying that it has effected other generations just as much, if not more than this generation, and that because other generations were able to overcome these issues, we should be able to as well.

As for my sources?

http://www.asanet.org...

http://www.boston.com...
Posted by Kimbut123 2 years ago
Kimbut123
This is for BKL211996. It seems to be a problem when guys think it is okay to ask girls for explicit pictures or just using them. Although it is sometimes the girls, I have never experienced seeing a guy as an object and neither has the people I talk to. On the other hand, I do know girls who have been targeted for that purpose and whether they agree to hook up or not, one has to look at the way they are viewed and consequences. Once you are used for sex, you are seen as an object, and not up to ones true potential. As for these "statistics", there is no real proof. We are not discussing the rate but rather has it affects each individual. As for myself, I would prefer to be seen as a unique individual who is worth getting to know, rather than an object that has no worth.
Posted by BKL21996 2 years ago
BKL21996
The hook-up culture hasn't proven to be a real problem, and no real growth occurred in the past few generations, with statistics showing that if anything, the rate of casual hook-ups has actually gone down.
Posted by Kimbut123 2 years ago
Kimbut123
I believe that hooking up does affect our culture in a negative way. Hooking up without any commitment, I agree, does give satisfaction; but it is only temporary. Being in a loving relationship where both partners truly care about one another gives long-term satisfaction. My view is that the "hookup" culture does not make anyone genuinely happy. Since our generation believes that hooking up is okay, guys and girls degrade others. They may look at someone and say they want to hookup, and it is degrading to be seen as an object, and not a person.
Posted by jodago97 2 years ago
jodago97
I believe that hookup culture cannot affect one generation or another. However, it is the individual who is left effected. People are different, their personalities are different, and so are their morals. They interpret different situations differently. This is why I believe that this type of thing cannot affect a generation, but certain individuals.
Posted by pratamsc2015 2 years ago
pratamsc2015
people have the decision on whether to hook up with someone or not. So if there are negative consequences then the person did it to themselves.
Posted by robergemsc2015 2 years ago
robergemsc2015
Hookups are a way to relieve sexual tensions and desires without having to be committed to anyone else. When the hookup is mutual, both parties become satisfied.
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