Is Marriage an outdated institution?
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I don't think what most (if not all) would call a traditional marriage is as important in today's society, especially in western culture; mainly because what is the real purpose of a marriage? Is it the ceremony and reception part, is it showing off your love to the world, is it symbolic of an eternal love... Ultimately what does it mean to be married and why do it the way we have been all these years?
I see the needs you're talking about. We as humans like a feeling of stability in all aspects of life; always having shelter, food and water and, other essential resources. I don't think marriage is an essential resource though.
Why is it that we need to put a materialistic ring on what we've even dubbed our "ring" finger, just because it's connected directly to the heart? It is a very nice sentiment but in today's world weddings and marriages are just another social norm people accept without questioning and do it because that's what everyone else has done. I believe that you don't need a ceremony, a "god", documents/contract and, rings ESPECIALLY if you know you've found the right person. I don't see anything wrong with getting both families together and celebrating the fact that you've found someone to spend all your life with but everything else is irrelevant.
Fathers walk their daughter down the aisle and pass them off because in very early marriages, women were property, daughters were property to the family/father and now the "property" is being handed off to a new owner.
claw4 forfeited this round.
I'm usually not one to generalize but I can say with confidence that one other reason that stands out is that these are people who went to the same high school or post-secondary, met, sparks flew/they had chemistry/they "fell in love" when at best they had some laughs and told each other some secrets, met one anothers family, did whatever before they got married and later along the line they had kids... The whole nine. Then the sparks stopped and they separate/divorce. If two people are going to make what I believe to be the biggest decision and commitment to one another (Not to get married) and bring another human life into the world and then they do the ultimate shittiest thing to the child(ren) and break apart the other institution of the family.
We DO NOT need marriages in todays world. If two people decide that they are going to spend the remainder of their days as well as potentially bring life into the world then they need to be ABSOLUTELY sure of who they, themselves are, who they are with and, most importantly, how they feel and whether or not it's the genuine love that will outlast the money, sex and, all the other things.Don't just be pressured into this lifestyle that nearly everyone around us has begun, been accustomed to for ages; do it for the right reasons and more importantly the right person. If you can be sure of all that then why not get married? Because it's expensive as hell... From the dress to centrepieces, the reception hall, the food, it's costs a ton of money to legally become "one" and you wanna show off how madly in love and amazingly wonderful it all is to family and friends and hey, maybe you invite exes or people who doubted it'd ever happen to you because F... them right?
But what if you end up in the fifty percent of divorce?
It was all for nothing and now you have to go through the expensive legal battle that is divorce...
The fact is that we don't need a verbal or legal contract to hold the other to it. If you're with the right person, what reason do you have to run off?
I realize that it does all come down to the two individuals involved but as far as ceremonies and such are concerned, you really just need the one you truly love, those you'd like to be there and then, if it were me, do your best to explain why you love them and why you'd like to spend the rest of your life with them. From that point on, you are bonded forever and you make decisions with them or with them in mind. Loving someone enough to spend what we like to think forever is together requires selflessness among a large array of other things... None of which marriage gives to you.
What is marriage? A broad Christian definition of marriage (Even if Christianity or religion in general isn't your thing, certainly isn't mine but we aren't debating that.) comes down to essentially three things. Legal marriage; paperwork and all, a formal ceremony and finally sex within wedlock. This is where there are a few snags...
Marriages have been happening for thousands of years without wedding license or any establish government has been in place. Some countries don't recognize marriage or there are no legal requirements for it and in some other countries have non religious/biblical requirements for it to be legally recognized.
In north America it is almost the same (Legal and religious recognition) but why? Why is it so important that the government and/or whichever religious sect be involved in my love life and who I chose to spend it with? It's good enough for me to know that who I am with will love me till they die and won't leave because I won't ever give them a reason to. First of all, that is how it should be, we shouldn't rush into anything serious like that without knowing for sure, just like you said: our inability to recognize when a partner is compatible with us or not.
These decisions to me seem to be hastily made and that is totally illogical; to know someone intimately and to be so sure of someone you wanna spend the rest of your lives together and potentially raise a family is HUGE. All these weddings, contracts, marriage licenses become totally irrelevant when both people involved know they've found what most would call true love or soul mates.
Everyone has different views on sex and sex outside of marriage. To me sex is human nature, sex is something we enjoy doing with who we share a connection with or who we're attracted in a very basic sense. Sex is natural, good and, beautiful. That's not to say everyone should who isn't married should go around having sex, we should also be informed. Here: http://www.xojane.com...
This is what could happen if everyone waits to have sex till marriage. It's important to get the right exposure at the appropriate times and be educated as well as safe.
I believe that covers all the bases... legal, ceremony and, sex.
claw4 forfeited this round.
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Vote Placed by lannan13 2 years ago
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