Is Masturbation While Married Wrong?
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I know a 22-year-old man who has recently graduated. He got married a month ago. He says he is in love with this woman, but says he still masturbates. I believe this is wrong (as his wife can solve many of those problems for him) and that he needs to get his act together. I am acceptance to whatever is said. And, please, don't bring your religious beliefs into this. It's masturbation.
Multiple arguments could be made like the more liberal ones of assuming all marriages have to be sexual and that she is required to "please" him.
My stance however is simply that it isn't wrong, because he's his own, free and individual, person.
Good point, but I do not see why masturbation is necessary. I apologize, for I forgot to mention that this is not occasional.1 time every 2 days. That is not okay. It isn't just the sexual rush, but it's a matter of maturity.
He masturbates, regardless of why or how often, the fact that he is marriage doesn't factor into the argument you're making. I would say that it would be wrong if he held back masturbation simply because of his age or that he's married. Why should he have to avoid doing something he enjoys (that causes no harm to others) just because of the stigma against it? If he had a problem with public masturbation or if he did it to the point of physically harming himself I would conclude that he would need to stop and that it was, indeed, wrong of him to do. That not being the case in most circumstances such as this, I stand firm that this scenario is in no way wrong.
I too, stand firm on my opinion. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, masturbation is the erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, occasionally by sexual fantasies, or by various combinations of these agencies. This could lead to inappropriate thoughts. These thoughts lead to actions. These actions may vary from flirting to distrust to even cheating. Put yourself in the place of your spouse. Would you feel emotionally weakened if you found out that she was masturbating to her own sexual fantasies. Now, imagine if they weren't with you. Personally, I would feel like less of a lover and husband.
Masturbation may not always lead to action, but there is still the possibility. I am not saying that you should just abandon masturbation, so let's keep that in mind. But once every two days? That's just immature. Burning down the town you live in is pretty excessive, but an example is an example. However, if something is pushing you into thinking about doing something that irrational, your reaction could stem off into something not quite as bad, but nevertheless bad. Fantasizing about doing something kinky (all comments regarding that are to stay in a head, not the comment section) with someone other than your spouse is wrong. And the possibility is always out there in some way.
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Vote Placed by Mr.Speaker 11 months ago
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Reasons for voting decision: Well, this was not a good debate because Con and Pro both argued opposite of what they were supposed to argue. Con, who by definition was supposed that masturbation in marriage is not wrong, ended up arguing that it is wrong. Pro did the inverse of Con. I am awarding the win to neither contestant. This was a confusing, disgraceful debate. Message me if any of you have questions as to my ruling.
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