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BrandonTorres
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atiyacole93
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Is it possible to romantically love more than one person?

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Started: 2/14/2015 Category: People
Updated: 1 year ago Status: Post Voting Period
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BrandonTorres

Pro

1.Romantic love is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person
2.The definition of romantic love does not limit an individual"s emotions to one person.
3.There are instances, such as open relationships, where both participants date other people successfully. An example where someone dates other people and the multiple partners accept such behavior is the television show, The Bachelor.
4.Dating more than one person gives both parties an opportunity to fall romantically in love with someone else as well as his/her significant other.
5.Being married does promise an individual to another until death, but there have been many situations in which one party cheats on his/her spouse and falls romantically in love with someone else.
6.Traditionally, marrying someone means that you are romantically in love with that person, but that does not mean that, if you cheat and fall romantically in love with someone else, you"re not still romantically in love with your spouse.
7.Therefore, it is possible to romantically love more than one person.

Non-controversial
Premises 1, 2, and 4 are non-controversial.
1.This premise is a definition that both parties have agreed upon.
2.This premise simply points out a fact about premise 1 that cannot be disputed.
4.Premise 4 is also a fact that cannot be disputed based on the notion that it is possible to find someone else that an individual may or may not fall romantically in love with.
Controversial
Premises 3, 5, and 6 are controversial.
3.My partner could argue that on the television show mentioned, the relationship being had is not an open relationship, but simply one man dating different women.
5.Even though an individual can fall romantically in love with someone other than his/her spouse, my partner can argue that it does not mean that the individual who cheated still romantically loves his/ her spouse.
6.There are situations where people get married because his/her parents had arranged it in advanced, which makes my premise less credible.
atiyacole93

Con

1.I agree with the stated definition of romantic love being, expressive and pleasurable feelings from an emotional attraction towards another person.
2.The definition of romantic love does limit and individuals emotions to one person, because in order to invest your emotions of attraction to someone you must invest your time and effort into them to allow your brain to be capable of growing these invested feelings of one person at a time. Focusing on multiple people will not allow the brain to truly invest these feelings of emotion to multiple people, due to the limited effort by rationing out their limited time to multiple people.
3.I disagree with your premise (3) because just because someone is dating multiple people at once, does not mean that they are romantically in love with them all. Therefore your premise (3) cannot hold. The topic is being romantically in love with more than one more at once not dating multiple people at once.
4.Statistic show that being romantically in love with more than one person at once causes stress, poor time management, jealously, unhealthy competition and in the end emotional heart break from most participants.
5.When a person is married and cheats on their spouse, either they are not romantically in love with their spouse anymore, or they are just confusing their emotional feelings of romantic love with lust, or infatuation, with the person they are not married to. This is because, to be romantically in love is to express emotional attraction towards another person, as stated in the definition. To gain emotions towards something it takes strong feelings that has been manifested over a long period of time.
6.Emotional attraction is not be mistaken with the physical short-term momentary attraction of lust and infatuation.
7.In order to romantically love someone a person must give commitment, time and energy. These things are necessary to give, because being romantically in love, is to gain emotions from the way a person make you feel as stated in our definition. In order to make a person feel good emotionally one must commit their time and energy without trying to multitask their time and energy with another participant added into the relationship.
8.Having a relationship that consist of trying to romantically love more than one person at once only truly benefits the primary person in the relationship, because the primary person in the relationship is getting the opinion of two people, in which they will eventually break one of their hearts in the long run. Breaking their heart proves they only really loved one of the participants not both.
9.Therefore it is not possible to be romantically in love with more than one person at a time

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Non-controversial: premises 1, 6, and 4 are non-controversial, because premise (1) and (6) are stating definitions. Premise (4) is stating tested statistics from www.Healthguidance.org.
Controversial premises: 2, 3, 5, 7 and 8 are controversial because they are stating my opinions.
(2) To be romantically in love and possess emotion is to give a person your all. You cannot invest your emotions into multiple people at once because your limited time and energy will not allow you to give the person you are trying to romantically love your all, when rationing it out to multiple people. My partner can argue that the action of giving a person your all is based on the character of the person who is giving it.
(3) It doesn"t not mean you are romantically in love with multiple people at once, just because you are dating them. A person can go on dates and spend time with their friends or family member that does not mean they are romantically in love with them. A person can date multiple people and not be romantically in love with any of them.
(5)and (7) Emotions are made from feeling that are created over time, this is why when a person cheats on another person they are romantically in love with they are doing it out of the feeling of lust and infatuation, due to the fact it takes a while to grow romantic emotion of love.
(8)Psychologically, if you truly romantically love someone you would have space, time and energy in your heart to romantically love another person, or break their heart.
Debate Round No. 1
BrandonTorres

Pro

3. I understand that the argument is about romantic love and not platonic love. What I was trying to accomplish in my premise was compare the two. Romantic love and platonic love are similar in such a way that one individual cares for another"s well being, but completely different when talking about romance. Yes, a platonic love can be felt for more than one person, but romantic love is special and although it may seem like an individual romantically loves more than one person at a time, but if that individual was forced to choose, he/she would be able to identify his/her romantic love from his/her platonic love.

4. You may have misread premise 4. I acknowledged that an individual may find someone else attractive, but truly being romantically in love with a different individual would prevent the first individual from pursuing whomever he/she finds attractive.

5. In this premise, I am simply saying that an individual can love someone other than his/her spouse, but in doing so he/she would be breaking his/her promise of marriage by no longer romantically loving his/her spouse. I am not arguing that an individual can romantically love his/her spouse AND another person. I am arguing that if that individual were to romantically love someone other than his/her spouse, he/she would be breaking the promise he/she made when he/she got married.

6. I concede your argument that intercourse does not prove nor disprove if a person is romantically in love with another or not.
atiyacole93

Con

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Debate Round No. 2
BrandonTorres

Pro

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atiyacole93

Con

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Debate Round No. 3
BrandonTorres

Pro

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atiyacole93

Con

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