It's 2015. In most, if not all Western nations, the women's rights movement of the past century was largely a success. Yet still, here in the United States I see many women claiming that they are EXTREMELY oppressed by our society. Even today. I find this notion ridiculous. Of course, there are some problems that Western women still face. Of course, women deserve to be paid every cent as much as men for the same work. Of course, rape and sexual abuse still plague far too many innocent women. But to many modern feminists, these issues are the least of their concern. Not all feminists, but some, are beginning to think that they deserve MORE rights than men. But doesn't this go against their basic principles of equality? A feminist once told me that her definition feminism was equal rights for all genders. If this is the case, why not call it "gender equality?" Why force the issue on the struggles of a single gender? I'm beginning to notice that in this day and age, for every problem women in this country face, there is a different double standard against men. A few examples: if a man offers to split the bill with his date after dinner, he is considered cheap and there's no second date. But if a woman wants to split the bill, people will praise her for her independence. A man will be criticized should he not hold a door for a woman behind him, but in the opposite scenario, nobody would think a thing. Now, imagine a man filing a sexual harassment suit against a woman. It's very uncommon, but a woman would be unlikely to ever be charged. Another example: take domestic abuse. When the video of Ray Rice beating his girlfriend surfaced, he was swiftly removed from the Ravens and suspended from the NFL, as he should be. But on the other side, many of us heard about a female national soccer player ( I'm sorry I can't remember the name) was arrested for brutally beating her boyfriend, but released with no charge, and she is yet again playing soccer. In addition, on this website, a friend showed me a feminist's post about how "a man must dedicate his life to serve women." And she received praise for saying that. What if a man were to say the opposite. He would be called no more than a sexist pig. Neither of these things should be said. No one gender's life should be dedicated to serving the other. So where am I going with this? Many feminists are focusing their energy on the wrong issues. Instead of demanding to be more than equal in their own country, they could be working to protect the rights of women in less developed nations, such as the Middle East, where women really are oppressed. Gender equality will only come after we stop turning every issue into a gender war, and actually treat each sex EQUALLY.
To begin with, you've defined feminism as "activism for females to have more rights than men", however, this is not what feminism is. Feminism is activism for EQUAL rights. It is fighting for women's rights to increase so that females are seen as equal as men. For example, men are able to be shirtless without derogatory comments but if women are shirtless, they're labelled as sluts, "asking for rape", "they want men to stare" etc. The female body is so sexualised.
However, even if this debate is about arguing for females to have more rights than men, this is still the correct case temporarily. There is no denying that women have a history of being less superior than men. When someone is behind in a race, or disadvantaged, it is fair they get a "head start". Physically disabled people, for example, have specific car parks allocated for them right beside the shopping centre's entrance. This is not giving them "more rights", but simply giving them the boost they need so that they are treated equally.
As for your example of men paying for meals, this is an act of chivalry that men do if they want to come across as a gentlemen. It is not a requirement, however some males take pride in their kindness and actions and genuinely want to pay. It's a choice, not an expectation.
You also made reference to the case where the male who beat his wife was punished, however the female soccer player who abused her partner was able to continue to play soccer today. Yes, I agree that this is unfair however these cases are isolated and not always the case. I can't comment on the soccer incident as you can't remember the name (I understand, it happens) but the verdict comes down to the finer details. By this I mean information on their background etc. Because we are unable to confirm the facts because the case has not been named, we can't do that.
ALSO, in addition, I would like to acknowledge your point regarding how men are also unequal. You may refer to how men are expected to be tough and if they're too skinny they're "weak", if they cry then they are whimps and not your "typical tough guy". However, as the true definition of feminism stands, feminists advocate for everyone to be treated equally.