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Love better than the friendship

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Started: 11/9/2012 Category: Philosophy
Updated: 4 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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istanbul

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when you see that person, the one, you will stand, as driven, can not inhale a smell of hair; to hold hands... each of us is lonely in this big and strange world, but, when the person, who can give you tenderness is near- you can feel bigger than the trees" he or she understands who you are such and on... what you are capable" an eternal friendship doesn't happen, but the love has term in infinity... to thank the sky for the real feelings- it is happiness. I do not against friendship, but assure,that love better, because Olimp will be possible to subdue...
RationalMadman

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Love is an emotion and friendship is a form of relation between two people. In order to compare and emotion and a relationship type we must purely focus on the beneficial results that come from feeling the emotion compared with those that arise when in a relationship of the type stated. Thus, I believe, with good reason, that we should completely negate debating this on grounds of the nature of love versus the nature of friendship as well as the motivation to feel love versus engaging in a friendship. Instead, I hope you can see that it is only logical to purely focus on the results which feeling love can ring compared with that of engaging in a friendship.

My first issue lies with the addiction that can form as a result of love as opposed to friendship that love brings pleasure in the form of hormonal changes, which often reduce one's ability to rationally see harm in a person or activity and purely see the good and positives in them, often leading to people entering abusing relationships or thrill seeking by dangerous activities for the love of doing it, although that is often associated with adrenalin rush. Additionally love can lead to obsession if unfulfilled and this is unhealthy in every shape and form. Whether it is a girl spending all her spare time studying the life and times of Justin Bieber, of a 16 year old student watching porn all the time finding it extremely difficult to focus on homework due to those images running through his mind but finding it rather difficult to stop due to love of it. On the other hand, friendship offers very little opportunity for addiction, and tends to only turn into an addiction when one begins to love being popular in itself, which again proves love to be potentially addictive and thus harmful. Friendship is an emotional bonding between two people that is merely a fondness often due to one being very useful to the other either emotionally, intellectually (often seen between two befriended professors of a topic of interest) or perhaps physically (as seen with friends with benefits or one who pushes you in a wheelchair). It is not addictive since it only erupts a need to engage in it when one is useful to you, even an imaginary friend is useful emotionally to lonely people, and it is not a sign of insanity to have one either[1], it is instead a sign of vivid imagination. In fact in children having an imaginary friend leads to increased communicational development[2] because talking to someone you like a lot leads them to be driven to talk about topics that would never arise in a conversation with a mere colleague or unemotionally attached companion.

My second issue is that, whilst love feels more intensely pleasurable, it also leaves you with more severe pain when it ends or when it seems to have had you fooled, whilst friendship leaves one more immune, so to say, to being hurt. The reason is that because love is so intensely blinding to the other person, or activity's flaws, when the flaw actually erupts in a shocking manner, such as them cheating on you or dumping you, or you getting severely injured doing the activity, then most humans, who pride themselves on being the most intelligent species on the planet, are left severely hurt and depressed and potentially suicidal due to realisation of how blinded and foolish they were whilst 'in love' (meaning in the phase of blind love for something or someone) they were so foolish and stupid and that all the 'good' they felt was based on a lie, which only deepens the pain upon realisation of a flaw. Alternatively, friendship is a relationship based on a lesser feeling of attraction, meaning one is less emotionally altered when assessing their friend. Often one is in fact more knowledgeable of their friend's flaws than the average strangers. Now, although lovers become extremely aware of the other's flaw, it is far less common for lovers to seriously force their partner to change their ways (unless it is something very harmful like smoking or drinking in front of their children, or self-harming) on the other hand, friends often severely tease each other for flaws, making fun of one another brutally for the hell of it, this is only ever seen at the early playful stages of love (because love blinds one to flaws, it begins becoming a gel that acts as a lubricant between the two to act so ridiculously well as a pair). Thus, if a friendship ends due to betrayal or harm, you will be less hurt than if you loved them.

In conclusion, love is are worse in leading one to addiction and obsession, whilst friendship is a far better defence in case what you befriend is too imperfect for your tastes in comparison to love.

Sources:
[1] http://lbdiamond.wordpress.com...
[2] http://www.cosmosmagazine.com...
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