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timlatshaw
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tessmckee
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Over involved Parents with social media

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Started: 11/12/2013 Category: People
Updated: 3 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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timlatshaw

Pro

I believe Parents should be allowed to view their child's social media. Parents should be allowed to view this too see if their child is making the right choices in life. Parents are not out to get their kids in trouble, they are simply trying to raise their child as best as they can and I believe monitoring their use of social media helps them better raise their child. Children should not be protesting this, because if they have nothing to hide on social media, then why would they care if their parents see their tweets and posts? Also parents viewing their child's social media interactions can help a child who is being cyber bullied. If a parent sees cyber bullying, they can stop it and prevent future harm to the child. The prevented danger could consist of depression or suicide, which we have unfortunately seen come from cyber bullying very often in today's society.
tessmckee

Con

I understand your thoughts on this topic, but I must disagree and say that I do not think that parents have the right to view their child's social media. Parents should have faith that they have raised their child to make the right choices when it comes to social media. When parents give the kid permission to join a social media site, they are giving them their trust to make the right decisions. If the parent is checking everytime their child posts something, then they will begin to feel like there is no trust. The child should be able to feel like they can express themself, without the fear of their parents disapproval. Hopefully, the child and parent has a strong enough relationship that if the child began to feel cyber bullied they could come to the parent.
Debate Round No. 1
timlatshaw

Pro

Although parents should trust their children, in this world of social media, children do not often know what they are doing. There are often sexual predators that will create fraudulent accounts on social media sites in order to get the attention of these kids. Kids often do not notice this and can fall for the tricks that the fake people play. In order to prevent things like this parents should monitor their child's social media. Along with being cyber bullied and taken advantage of over the internet, parents can prevent kids from becoming a cyber bully or an impostor on the internet. If parents knew that their child was a cyber bully or was disrespecting other kids over the internet, there is a much greater chance that the interaction will be terminated before it gets any worse. Along with preventing kids from doing bad things or having bad things done to them, parents can aid their child on how to use social media. If a child does not know how to use Instagram for example, a parent could show the child how to post photos and videos, as well as adding filters and effects to the photo or video to enhance the child's use of the social network.
tessmckee

Con

Although this may be true the underlying problem with parents stalking their children on social media sights is the issues that will arise at home because of it. Good parents understand the dangers that lurk in their child's lives because they have lived them themselves. Parents often will use there children's social media sites to check up on them, to make sure they're not doing anything they shouldn't be doing. This in turn breaks the bond they have with their child causing them to feel as though there parents are untrustworthy. This causes much more serious problems in the future. For example, most children join social media sites upon entering middle school, which is the same time they are being introduced to substances they are not yet old enough to ingest such as tobacco. Granted the school system and probably the parents have done a good job repetitively telling the dangers of using tobacco whats to stop a rebellious adolescent teen who feels as though they cannot trust their to say no to drugs? The bond forged between a parent and a child is made through trust, that is why parents don't hold the right to evade on their children's privacy and follow them on social media. It has nothing to do with whether or not they will make the right decisions, its about having a strong enough bond that they feel as though they can talk to parents about anything preventing them from making the wrong decision.
Debate Round No. 2
timlatshaw

Pro

Patents should trust their children and hold a strong bond with them, but children often do not want to tell their feelings on things or problems that they are having. Children are more apt to tell their friends about their problems or the struggles that they face. Now with the large use of social media some children take the option of posting about their feelings or whatever is happening in their lives. This is something a parent may not know because the child does not want to tell their parents, but the parent could help the child through this difficulty. If the parent in this situation monitors their son or daughter's social media then the parent can help out the child and that problem would be gone. It eliminates the telling and being nervous aspect of children not wanting to tell their parents certain thing, because they are nervous to ask. As you mentioned children start using social media in middle school, which can be defining years of a child's life before becoming a teenager and then an adult. If a child is having a problem with growing up or increased responsibilities and want to talk about it, but does not wish to directly notify their parents, then the parent being involved in their child's social media can talk to the child about their struggles or things that they are unsure about.
tessmckee

Con

Again I think this brings us back to the issue of trust. Children use social media sites as a way of releasing pent up emotions they may be feeling. They might not want to share with their parents how they feel because it may be negative about the parents themselves. Friends seem like the most important people to a child at this point in their lives, and being able to talk to them through social media without having to worry about their parents seeing allows them to freely express themselves to one another. If the child was having an issue, hopefully the child would feel comfortable enough to approach the parents. And if the situation was very serious and the child was not talking to their parents, a good enough friend would step forward and do something. Parents need to trust that their child has picked good friends to surround themselves with.
Debate Round No. 3
timlatshaw

Pro

While parents being involved in a child's social media can seem intrusive, it can be used to bring a family closer. Often in this day and age kids interact more over social media than they do in person. If parents want to interact with their kids more often then a good way to do it would be over social media. And if that parent is involved in their child's social media life, this can be easier. It could take the secretive element out of social media between parents and kids and make it a place for them to further grow their relationship. For example parents and kids can share photos with each other, recommend them new pages to follow and discuss current issues. If parents become involved in their child's social media it can redefine the use of social media from kids hiding things from their parents to inviting them to look at new posts and invite them into their world of social media. This can help parents to bond with their children and keep up with their lives in this faced paced society that revolves around social media. Also the reverse effect is possible, and kids can keep in touch with their parents easier through the use of social media. They can get photos from their parents, ask about their opinions on current events and ask them any question they please.
tessmckee

Con

I do understand your point about how parents getting involved in social media is a good thing, but I only think to a certain extent. If the parent makes a social media page for themselves and is constantly posting or commenting on the child's page they will begin to feel like they are tracking their every move. The parent is not only using it as a form of communication, but to also check up and stalk their child's page. I do not believe that social media should be the main source of communication between the parent and child because that is not a healthy relationship. If the child or parents wanted to share a photo with each other, they could just show it to them in person. That way the child does not feel like the parent is over involved in their social media.
Debate Round No. 4
timlatshaw

Pro

In conclusion, I believe that parents should be involved in their child's social media for protection and for the enhancement of social media for both the parent and the child. For protective purposes, a parent should be involved in their child's social media because it can prevent a child from being cyber bullied. Cyber bullying is a huge issue and can lead to depression and often suicide. If parents get involved in a child's social media this horrific event can be prevented. Also if the parent of the bully monitors their child's social media, then the bullying can be stopped at that point and little to no damage will be done. Also to protect their child, a parent can prevent a person who is an imposter on the internet trying to reach their child. Kids often do not notice these false accounts and can umfortunaey fall for the other persons tricks. If the parent is involved, this can once again be prevented. Lastly a parent being involved in their child's social media can be used for more than just preventing the bad. It can create a further bond between the parent an the child, because children often use social media more than face to face communication. When the parents are involved, they can communicate more often with their child and build a better relationship as well as enjoying the many features of social media sites.
tessmckee

Con

You do make very good points throughout our debate, but overall I still strongly believe that parents should not be allowed an excessive amount of access to their child's social media account. The parents should believe that they have raised their child with enough knowledge of potential dangers of the internet that they can avoid them. And if cyber bullying does occur the child should feel like they can seek help from their parents. Most importantly though I believe that when the parent gives the child permission to get a social media account they are giving them their trust to make the right choices with it. If the parents are constantly checking and watching over the child's social media, then there is no trust shown. For these reasons I strongly believe that parents do not have the right to check on their child's social media accounts.
Debate Round No. 5
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Posted by BurnsMSC2014 3 years ago
BurnsMSC2014
Well once you post something online, you are allowing the whole world to see. You are giving everyone else permission to see what you are saying.
Posted by tousignantmsc2014 3 years ago
tousignantmsc2014
I agree that kids should have privacy, but that doesn't mean that parents shouldn't check their social media profiles. If you post something on the internet, then you parents have the right to see it and as your guardians be aware of what is going on in your life.
Posted by Blaismsc2014 3 years ago
Blaismsc2014
I believe that kids deserve the privacy and ability to handle themselves. If a parent can't trust their own kid online, then they must not have much trust in anyone. Parents on their kids social media account could ruin the kids childhood simply because he feels weird that his parents see everything. So Teresa has the right idea, very nice shawty.
Posted by desaulnierspmsc2014 3 years ago
desaulnierspmsc2014
This is an excellent topic -- and well argued on both sides. I completely respect my kids' rights to privacy and would only engage in transgressing such boundaries in serious situations (to which I would still inform them). Essentially, the parent has a responsibilty to communicate with their child as a method of learning what's going on in their lives, not spy on them as a way to regulate/ find out what's happening.
Posted by patrickbennett 3 years ago
patrickbennett
I mean both of these homies know what they are talking about and they both make some good points. I believe that parents should be able to see what children post on social media sites, because that is like talking through the web. However, they should not have access to the accounts. If the parent is reading the messages then it is uncalled for. If you talk to someone in private in person then they cant find out, so why should they be able to do the same on social media. Overall a very well constructed debate with a plethora of good points from both sides. $ \/\/ A G
Posted by youngmsc2014 3 years ago
youngmsc2014
I agree with many points made from both sides of this argument but tend to agree that parents should have access to their kids social media. I believe that as a parent it is your duty to look after and ensure the well being of your child. I think that his means they should have access to their social media to monitor heir behavior. With that said I believe it should be limited access and only under suspicion of wrongdoing not just whenever they want to look at it.
Posted by 14dalesioj 3 years ago
14dalesioj
Parents are way to involved in some private boundaries.
Posted by abigailholmes 3 years ago
abigailholmes
I respect both sides of the argument however I agree with the con's argument in that a parent should not check on their child's social media. I think that a parent should trust their child and trust in themselves that they raised their child well enough to make the right choices when it comes to social media. I respect that some parents are curious and want the best for their children but reading and checking in on their child's profiles may be crossing the line and an invasion of privacy.
Posted by michelleknueven 3 years ago
michelleknueven
I agree with different points in this argument. On the topic of social media, I believe it is important for parents to trust their child enough so they do not have to check all of their social media networks (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.) to find out exactly what they are doing or commenting on throughout the day. Parents should invest in enough trust in their child to not have to stalk their social networking sites, and if not, then there will never be a network of trust or open communication established. However, I also believe that young adults on social media should sensor what they are posting and understand what is on the website can come back and haunt you.
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