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Polygamy

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Voting Style: Open Point System: 7 Point
Started: 1/14/2014 Category: People
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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Imperfect

Pro

Polygamy is ethical. Though polygamy is often connected with bad images such as children being married and women being abused that is not always the case Polygamy is defined as the practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time. As long as the participants are willing and of age it is not against ethics.
QandA

Con

Hello and thank you for the debate. I am very much against the notion that polygamy is "ethical". I feel it is immoral, unjust and often devastating for the people involved (women and children mostly).

Here are some of my arguments against polygamy.
1. If a woman doesn't get along with her husband, they don't have to work it out, the man can just turn to his other wife (wives) and ignore her. She has no choice but to be submissive and helpless. This is the essence of the master and slave relationship.

2. Polygamy produces excess men. For every man who marries 4 women, three men can't find a wife. They will never have kids or buy a house or need to work hard and contribute to the economy. In countries where it is practiced, they tend to turn to gangs and rebellions.

3. Only the most wealthy man can afford it, but many others will take on too many wives and children and then expect the government to take care of them. This leads to major family crisis and money issues. For example, The FLDS polygamous Mormon sect took in millions in government money to keep going.

4. With polygamy wives have to compete for affection, time, food, and essentials for their own children. Men have little interest in being the referee. They often turn the money over to one wife and all others have to beg for items. They all want the best for their own kids at the expense of the other kids. Inequality among wives and children is inevitable.

5. Polygamy is mainly practiced in backwards countries (http://en.wikipedia.org......). No one would want to move to one of these places. It only works when women's rights are eliminated so they have no choice. Again polygamy is a very unequal, and slave and master-like practice.

Basically polygamy is a miserable life for all but the dominant husband.

Now here are some facts/statistics:
A new study out of the University of British Columbia documents how societies have systematically evolved away from polygamy because of the social problems it causes. (http://www.publicaffairs.ubc.ca......)

Polygamous households contain jealousy and conflict among co-wives and Ethnographic surveys of 69 polygamous cultures reveals no case where co-wife relations could be described as harmonious. This leads to the tearing up of families.(http://www.jstor.org......)

For all these reasons I don't see how polygamy is ethical or simply right in today's world.

I look forward to your response.
Debate Round No. 1
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Finally a forfeit. Sorry to those who were looking forward to an interesting debate.
Debate Round No. 5
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Posted by serpent316 2 years ago
serpent316
I mean, don't get me wrong, your examples definitely exist. But don't think that just because some polygamous relationships are like those, doesn't mean they all are.
Posted by QandA 2 years ago
QandA
Well serpent316, I am merely using these points as examples. Of course I would have gone into them further if my opponent was responsive.
Posted by serpent316 2 years ago
serpent316
Ok QuandA, you are assuming that A) everyone is heterosexual, B) that polygamous marriages will always involve one hubby and many waifus, and C) the hubby will always be dominant and abusive. All of these are incorrect. You are assuming that based on a few bad relationships that everyone will be the same in every polygamous relationship, and that is simply not true.
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Reasons for voting decision: Blech, a full forfeit. I disagree with Con's case...but that's not the voting. The votes are on the debate at hand. And Pro wasted Con's time. Conduct for the forfeits. Con get's S&G for having some S&G over the course of the debate. Arguments for the utterly unrebutted case. Sources to Con for having some, in contrast to Pro. As always, happy to clarify this RFD.
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