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Relationship based upon dedication last longer than relationship based upon passion.

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Started: 8/25/2013 Category: Society
Updated: 4 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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countzander

Pro

There will be four rounds. Please use the final round for closing statements, not to introduce new points.

The burden of proof rest upon me, as I am making the claim. Con may simply rebut my points or may rebut my points while arguing for the converse.

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Passion, being in love, is caused by neurochemical compositions. In response to certain stimuli, often sexual attraction between two persons, the brain alters the concentration of various hormones within the body, causing the perception of being "in love." An evolutionary adaptation, this occurs in order to increase the likelihood that a male and a female will have sex and produce offspring. However, the brain eventual reverts to its base state, causing the emotional high to disappear. The individuals fall out of love.
At least since the 12th Century, there has been an equating between in love and being in a romantic relationship. As such, it is a social norm, particularly in Western nations, that two individuals are not in a meaningful relationship unless they love each other. Thus, many people seek relationships based upon passion. This is problematic, however. If being in love is a temporary chemical condition and relationships are based upon said condition, then the foundation of a loving relationship is doomed to be temporary. A relationship cannot last with only a temporary foundation.
Because chemical imbalances do not seem as if they would make for sound relationships, the equating of "relationship" with "passion" is likely responsible for break ups and divorces. Once the brain returns to its natural state, the relationship no longer has a foundation.

Dedication, in contrast, seems to ensure that the relationship will last much longer, for if two people decide to stay together, regardless of the inevitable changes of their brain chemistry, the couple can literally remain together until "death do they part." The goal, then, would be for an individual to find someone with whom he or she can get along, not to fall and try to stay in love. Dedication relationships, ones founded a commitment to maintain the relationship, will generally out last relationships based upon fluctuating brain chemistry.

References:
http://psychclassics.yorku.ca...
http://people.howstuffworks.com...
Unruly_Hybrid

Con

Actually thats false. Because mainly passion between the "true lovers" are strong than the one with dediction, why this is becasue lust or wanting that person is basically called love. When you have dedication at some point the love thats based on dedication wears away. The parnters gets bored because they are waiting to get married to have sex or they just want more sexual acts. Its natural in humans to want to ingage in coitus. If your whole relationship is based on dedication that that spark between you and your partner goes away. I've caught a few of my friends just living their relationship on dedication and their girlfriend left them, because they weren't fun or really pleasuring them.
Debate Round No. 1
countzander

Pro

If a relationship ends due to boredom then it was never based upon dedication. A relationship based upon pleasure is one based upon passion, not dedication. When a couple decides to base a relationship upon dedication rather than passion, they will stay together because they have decided to stay together, regardless of how much they like each other.
Your anecdote proves my point, as the couple in question were not dedicated to one another. If they had been, they would still be together. They ended the relationship because it was boring, indicating that the emotional high had faded and that their brain chemistries had returned to normal. If their relationship had been based upon an agreement to stay together, rather than their emotions, they wouldn't have separated.
Unruly_Hybrid

Con

Unruly_Hybrid forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 2
countzander

Pro

Error by his own arms is best evinced.
Unruly_Hybrid

Con

Unruly_Hybrid forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 3
countzander

Pro

Error by his own arms is best evinced.
Unruly_Hybrid

Con

Unruly_Hybrid forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 4
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Posted by Surefoot 4 years ago
Surefoot
This will certainly be an interesting debate to follow; I couldn't argue it myself because I agree completely with pro.
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