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Peacewab23
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michaelkeim
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Sex before marriage

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Started: 6/14/2010 Category: Miscellaneous
Updated: 7 years ago Status: Voting Period
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Peacewab23

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The concept of no sex before marriage originates fromn the bible. this was during a time period where birth control was not an option and people married young. therfore should people really be judged and limited, we have aall the things we need to prevent accidental pregnancies. While sex is supposed to be an intimate thing between married people i feel that people should get the choice on sex before marriage.
michaelkeim

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First off this sounds like an interresting debate and I thank you for the challenge, giving me a chance to deffend my veiw on the subject. Yet, I do keep an open mind so lets begin.

My first three points are:
- It will help your marriage to have had only sex with the one you are going to marry. Rather than 10 others before marraige, which if you do train your body to have sex with multiple people then it will be hard to refrain these bad habits once you are married.

-There is NOT a 100% surity that you will not get/make someone pregnant. Preventives do fail people quite offten.

-Disease if you are going to decide to have sex before marriage, who is to now say when to stop? Therefore, you are bound to run into a disease sooner and later, and preventives surely can't stop the spreading of the countless amout of disease with the abilitly to spread through means of any type of bodily fluid. (this explains a lot of why diseases are indeed becoming more rampid as it becomes a more popular look at have pre marrital sex).

POINT #1- If you begin to have sex before marriage you will weaken the relationship with the one you do indeed marry. If you are sure she/he is the one then go ahead get married or wait just a little longer or intill you are able to get married, rather than running the risk of having sex with the worng one. Now, we come to the point if you do decide to have sex before marriage then what is the surprise and fun of marriage? What does "you may now kiss the bride" really mean if you have already gone much futher than this. Not to mention, say you did have sex with the wrong one, now when this relationship splits by having added that much more emotional drama to both parties it becomes a much bigger scar in your life and can send you into a declining sprial. Also if you begin to have sex with multiple women/men before marriage do you believe you will just be able to stop once you've found the right one and have been married for several years and have trained your body to be "ready" for someone new? Why creat the bad habbit?

POINT#2- POINT#3-If it is exeptable to have sex before marriage then knowing that not all Diseases can be stoped by preventives then eventually you to will have some type of disease if you "gamble" enough. If your are not ready for marriage then you are not ready for sex. You can never be 100% sure that the preventives will always work. Therefore, everytime you have sex your running the risk of getting the countless number of diseases out there and starting a family. So if you are ready for sex and marriage then GET married.

I'll leave with this to think about and wait for your responce. This is just a start to see where I"m comming from. Good Luck!!
Debate Round No. 1
Peacewab23

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What if you are not ready to start a family, but are in love? What if you plan on marrying this person but are too young to do so? It is possible to break out of the habit of multiple sex partners if u truley love the one your marrying because you wouldnt want anyone else. what if you are unable to get married?
michaelkeim

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What I have said prior to this question does indeed answer your question. However, I will re-answer the question. It is indeed a good question that is going to recieve a very harsh, but good answer. The truth is not always easy to listen to nor is doing the right thing (that leaves you with less heart break and no diseases) nevertheless, the right thing to do remains the right SAFE thing to do. If you are to young to marry then your to young to have sex. Plain and simple, yet a very hard task. There is always that chance that you will get/make someone pregnant and if your not ready to get married then your not ready to have kids and a family. So wait, and if your REALLY IN LOVE then both of you will be able to wait, because if you really love them you wouldn't want to mess up either of your lives with having sex... and receving the consequences (children) without being ready to get married muchless handle kids when you are one. Now refering back to your statement that "it is possible to break out of the habit of multiple sex partners if u truley love the one your marrying because you wouldnt want anyone else." This is true to an extent I agree that it is possible, BUT why put your self through all the heart break and emotional stress of having had sex with the wrong one. You do agree that it is a habit you will have to break. So why...why risk unessary dieases, additional emotional heart break from adding sex to a relationship and the chance of pregnancy? Don't just wait a little longer if you truly do love them.
Debate Round No. 2
Peacewab23

Pro

You make a good point. Thank you.
michaelkeim

Con

I am 17 years old myself and I'm sure that I have found the one. We are going to wait untill we are married, because of these points, and my belives. Thank you for the debate.
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