It is natural born, live and died. Parent gave children lives. Parents done their best of raising children. It is the adult turn to live their lives find a girlfriend/boyfriend and have kids. Anyone needs to look forward for next chapters. Adults could have at least stay connected with a person in their generation like brothers/sisters. "This is something that is personal and specific to their own individual." These adults can take care of themselves and it is elderly parent's turn to be happy. Adults and their children do not want to be babied by their elderly parent. Grandparents are not their burden anyway. It is too much values. These adults either prefer to be more closed to someone in their generation, or solitary type. Some adults tend to be individualistic or liberal. As long as adults have no disability and narcissists in a healthy way. P.S do not put negative comments about my argument.
After all the time spent raising a child and giving him/her shelter, food, care and enstilling the values necessary for a child to succeed in the world an adult should feel inclined to visit their elderly parent out of gratitude if not love. You speak of elderly parents being a taker in ones life with "grandparents being a burden" this is not the case, grandparents have a wealth of knowledge that can be shared to a grandchild or a son or daughter and as is often the case elderly parents are seen as friends and not just family. Given that we are beings of which empathy and social connectivity are intrinsic and necessary in our lives adults SHOULD visit their elderly parents. As to your whole arguement could you please clarify?
No it should not that has to do with religion. If elderly parents force them to, then they had children fr a wrong reasons. These adults should not have expectation from elderly parents. Just because parent spent the time on raising a child, it does not mean adult has to visit them. Elderly parents and Grandparents can annoy their grown children or grand children. Elderly parents cannot be in their whole life.
Also elderly parent has view adult children as minors. If elderly parent force them to visit, they still use them as minors or semi slave. Also it violates person's freedom. The more grown children visit them, the more elderly parent feel that they want to see grown children. That is more like an autocratic country, instead of democracy. Grandparents could interfere adult children's decision making even on adult children's son, for example grandparents control adult children decisions for the holidays. or worse grandparents speak negatively about their grown children and grandchildren. Government/business should not have any affairs on interfering on persons decision even if a person has forbid elderly parent or grandparent visitation. Grandparents should not have automatic access to grandchildren. This is about adult children are being independent and happy.
Just because parents spent all that time raising a child it does not mean a child has to visit their elderly parents. Visiting elderly parents does not make any difference. They must Consider a positive point on your adult children discards and become independent, such as lessen phone bill, lessen stress to care for children, lessen the size of a laundry. Adult children disowning you do not hurt you if you think carefully. It does not mean adult children do hate their elderly parent, they still like their parent. Elderly parents could have learn how to live without it, be happy and die happy without them. Elderly parent should stop trying to reconnect with them, stop setting up an organization to chase them, otherwise they'll make it harder than it suppose to be. Respect boundaries of Adult children. There are people discarding their parent anywhere in the world. Especially if parent has assaulting their own children. Grandparents were not even exist in paleolithic age anyway. If elderly parent disown their grown children it means the elderly parent are different that they wants to set their children independent happily.