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Should middle eastern people be forced by (family/parents/reputation) to marry who parents say?

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Started: 4/28/2015 Category: People
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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Ezzyobape

Con

I don't believe on my behalf as a (Hispanic) to be forced to be pushed away by the woman who shares the strongest emotion that can ever be shared or shown to anything living; with me. Simply because someone else doesn't approve or reputation. I believe only god/yourself/partner has the power to dictate whether you are allowed or not allowed to be with someone or to act upon with your own actions that correspond to what you believe is right. Yes someone can tell you no but cant forced you to stop if you feel that you are doing what is right for you your health/finances/education etc. Since love is the most strongest emotion in the world(I stand by this and this is my opinion) sometimes it makes us do things that sometimes we wouldn't even dare to do. This is why I believe that its wrong to force someone against marrying or dating someone out of the race. ( simply because only you the individual choosing to make the choice/your partner and god should only have the power to continue or to stop the engagement between the two individuals who are in the relationship they wish to be in.
Phenenas

Pro

Hello, I accept this debate! Arranged marriages, which are found not only in the Middle East, but South and East Asia, Latin America, and Africa, are not an entirely bad idea. A family pairing their offspring with one of similar upbringing, values, and social background can help the partners be more compatible and decrease the chance of a divorce. Countries with this practice, such as Saudi Arabia, believe in a deep concept of "family honor", preserving the family name with a good wife or husband that they will make sure to treat with respect and dignity. The institution of marriage in Western society has been tarnished with careless weddings organized by young and inexperienced people, then immediate divorce. In the United States, the divorce rate has risen to 40 to 50 percent. Leaving the decision to elders will lead to a more moral, honorable society.

I disagree with having the institution defined as "forced marriage". It is very family-based, and in India, for example, one marries not only the person but their family as well. Unlike in Western cultures, love and support is expected from your spouse's family, while "in-laws" are stereotypically disliked here. Due to the aforementioned concept of family honor, young people in those societies are generally far more ready to please their parents and see marrying whom they would like as the least they could do to pay them back for the hard work and toil put into raising them.

Arranged marriage is based on mutual trust and understanding, rather than the volatile, unsteady concept of "love at first sight". Sadly, arranged marriages usually fail to delve outside the race of the family in question. However, this is only up to the parents, and often different cultures don't mesh. This is not to say that interracial marriages are wrong or somehow immoral, but political correctness aside, a young person's first priority should be their family. And in these societies, truly incompatible men and women are rarely forced together. "Forced marriage" is found only in some undeveloped cultures in Africa and South Asia. It is recognized by the United Nations as a violation of human rights, and has little to do with the arranged marriage traditions of the Middle East.

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Debate Round No. 1
Ezzyobape

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Phenenas

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Since my opponent has neglected to post a counterargument, I will end this debate here. Good luck, Con!
Debate Round No. 2
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Posted by Yassine 2 years ago
Yassine
- Well, than you ;)

1. Arranged Marriages are inherent in tribal, rural & traditional families cultures. Because, for them, Marriage is not a relationship between husband & wife only, it's a relationship between two entire families, the groom's & the bride's. Having a suitor that doesn't satisfy the bride's family (or the opposite) will generally result in a disastrous marriage afterwards because the families involved are not happy with each-other, & so is the couple.

2. Arranged Marriages are often the best way to get married, because in these cultures, it's usually hard to get to know someone so that to marry them. But families, & especially mothers, play the pivotal roles in these affairs, & mothers do care for their children & their interest (generally).

3. Arranged Marriage is not unlawful in Shari'a, it's forced marriage that is. Being in an arranged marriage doesn't mean it's forced, that's just a stupid way the West propagate it. Moreover, Arranged Marriages often last longer, because the families have healthy relationship, the couple stays more cohesive. . . etc.
Posted by Ezzyobape 2 years ago
Ezzyobape
Arranged marrianges arent allowed if one of the individuals doesn't want to be in that relationship. Irs not allowed on behalf of the islamic religion.
And thabk you for commenting with a teaching manner...and not being confrontive.
Posted by Ezzyobape 2 years ago
Ezzyobape
Arranged marrianges arent allowed if one of the individuals doesn't want to be in that relationship. Irs not allowed on behalf of the islamic religion.
Posted by Yassine 2 years ago
Yassine
- You mean arranged marriage, not forced marriage! & it's a Middle Eastern things, it's a non-western thing, the entire World does it
Posted by Ezzyobape 2 years ago
Ezzyobape
According to my friend...the middle eastern people, arabic etc tend to fall under this category. And so according to him middle eastern is an appropriate word to use. I do apologize if this defeats the the topic over all. Its for gathering information..and to learn more about what people would say on behalf of how they feell, or what they hvae learned.
Posted by Yassine 2 years ago
Yassine
- What does the Middle East have to do with the subject?
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