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Should parents be over protective?

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Started: 6/17/2014 Category: Society
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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First round is acceptance. Pro has to argue in favour of the topic i.e. parents should be overprotective.
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I accept the challenge
Debate Round No. 1


Overprotective parents mean well. After all, it's a parent's job to protect children from harm -- but some parents go a little too far. They figure the more hands-on and involved they are in their children's lives, the better, but that's not always true. Being classified as "overprotective" means a parent is on the extreme end of the spectrum and is likely causing some unintended consequences.

Inhibiting Learning
Overprotective parents essentially make children prisoners in their own homes, says pediatrician Ramon Resa, writing for "The Huffington Post." Children can't explore their worlds if parents are constantly hovering over them. The side effect on kids is that they never learn to handle situations on their own. If Mom or Dad is always right there next to them, children invariably look to their parents for answers instead of figuring things out for themselves.

Squelching Happiness
When parents do too much protecting in an effort to make their children's lives stress-free, it often has the opposite effect, says Dr. Resa. Children eventually become depressed and suffer anxiety disorders that he attributes to obsessed parents. There's not much enjoyment in overprotective homes because of the parents' constant drive to make everything perfect for their children. Instead of creating happy and stress-free environments, overprotective parents often accomplish the opposite, actually preventing their children from leading happy lives in the long run.

Decreasing Confidence
Adults gain confidence by working hard and mastering whatever it is they seek to accomplish, and children gain it the same way. But if overprotective parents, who hate to see their children struggle, do tasks for them, those children are not given the opportunity to develop their own skills and, as a result, go through life lacking confidence. Overprotective parents are sending the message that their children are not capable of doing an adequate job or that they don't trust their children to make the right decisions.

Stunting Growth
When parents do everything for their children, they are preventing them from maturing. One of the most important jobs parents have is to prepare their children to be independent and productive adults. But some overprotective parents can't let go -- even after their children have graduated from college and are entering the job market, according to findings reported in a 2007 research brief by the Collegiate Employment Research Institute. Some parents negotiate work contracts on behalf of their children. And the most extreme parents even attend job interviews with their kids, which rarely impresses any potential employer.



nkosi forfeited this round.
Debate Round No. 2


As one commenter said that over protection is not the correct heading for debate, but I feel it certainly is. One may take it with its positive or negative meaning. I don't feel it has only one aspect. Over protection may mean greater concern by the parents towards their children which according to them is helping their children. I am arguing with the students point of view. Pro can argue with parents point of view. That's just how different the two of us think.

Parent's fears for their children's safety, if extreme, can have an adverse effect on their children's confidence and self-esteem. By molly-coddling a child, a parent is only making the child more dependent and inhibiting her attempts to learn to do things by herself. Overprotective parents unintentionally send out a message to their children that they are incapable of handling things by themselves. In addition, the parents' fears transmit themselves to the children who, in turn, begin to perceive dangers lurking in every new activity and experience. It has been observed that children have fewer falls, tumbles and injuries when left to play by themselves than with parents constantly cautioning them, and ready to leap forward at the slightest sign of danger. Parents who fear that an activity may be risky should warn their children beforehand rather than while they are engaged in the activity. Else, the warnings merely serve to transmit the fear to the children and distract them, leading to a greater probability of an accident.
When a child does something on her own for the first time, it is a great accomplishment, even if it is something as insignificant as learning to ride a bicycle. Parents who wrap their children in cotton wool, in a manner of speaking, are denying their children this pleasure.

Older children most often do not perceive parental over protectiveness as stemming from love and concern. They believe that their parents just do not trust them to be sensible and responsible. Older children can react to their parents' excessive fear in one of two ways: compliance or resistance. If parents voice their fears in terms of doubts, e.g. "Are you sure you can do it?" or give them dire warnings of the worst case scenario, it can result in the children giving up the idea or activity altogether because they too begin to doubt their capability. On the other hand, children can react with defiance.
Parents of such children begin to lack credibility in their children's eyes because they seem to have an extreme view that the world in general is a dangerous place. They feel that they are denied the normal pursuits of their peers merely because their parents have unfounded and baseless fears. Such children react with resistance because they believe that their parents perceive them as being accident-prone and having poor judgement.


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Debate Round No. 3
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Posted by schachdame 2 years ago
"Over" protection is certainly the wrong title for this as the word itself means "too much". Without a clear set of definition for what is "over" protecting seems this rather pointless. Cute_angel surely means we'll but this is a debate and it won't be the first one that might be lost due to poor phrasing. Don't give trolls a chance.
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