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NSG
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Danielle
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Staying Single is Better

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Voting Style: Open Point System: 7 Point
Started: 10/24/2009 Category: Society
Updated: 7 years ago Status: Voting Period
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NSG

Pro

One of the reasons for staying single is better is that you can afford to wait for your true soul mate.

In other words, by holding out for Mr Right , you can avoid the mistake of a lifetime and marry for love -- and not out of desperation.

Too many girls get hitched for the wrong reasons, like they've reached a certain age, all of their friends are getting married, and they haven't been successful at dating and this man is the first to show interest.

This reason for staying single allows you to take your time playing the dating game, and increase your odds of beating the divorce statistics.
Danielle

Con

Alright, here we go.

The resolution implies that staying single is better than engaging in a romantic relationship. I will deconstruct my opponent's argument to demonstrate how her points have remained inconsistent to her position in this debate, and have unfulfilled her burden as the instigator in the affirmative position. Good luck!

Pro's first contention is that in holding out for Mr. (or Mrs. -- hehe) Right, you can avoid the mistake of a lifetime and marry for love instead of desperation. This argument is weak for several reasons. First, one may not want to marry and merely wish to date around instead. In that case, marrying for the "wrong reasons" wouldn't apply to them, so this is not a strong point. Second, not everybody knows if they have the time to wait. You could go at any moment, yeah? Not to mention, there's that old urban legend that a woman over 40 has a better chance of getting blown up by a terrorist than getting married. That statistic is false; however, the idea that it's harder for an older woman to get married is socially upheld. Finally on this point, let's remember that Pro's position in this debate means that she must argue for remaining single over choosing to be in any relationship; even one at an older age.

Pro continues to argue that it's best to wait to get married because you'll have more time to date, and will increase your odds of beating the divorce statistics. I have a few things to say to that. For one thing, if you don't engage in a serious relationship, you'll have no idea how to behave in one. Experience is the best teacher, and without prior preparation, one might not know how to cope in a relationship (i.e. learn trust, the proper way to argue, a way to balance everything in your life, etc.). Therefore staying single instead of committing to a relationship might not be the best idea.

Second, having a relationship has significant benefits and advantages that being single doesn't. Psychology tells us that human being have a natural longing to seek fulfillment from a romantic relationship. As such, having a partner makes people happier than those who don't have partners [1]. Additionally, romantic partners often offer a sense of stability, friendship, support, love, sexual gratification and companionship. In choosing to stay single, you're limiting certain aspects of your life. Nobody says that just because you're in a relationship that you have to be missing out on anything or acting against your well-being. In fact, I'd advocate the opposite... and I'll leave it at that for now, until Pro responds and I can figure out where she's going with this :)

[1] http://www.scienceblog.com...
Debate Round No. 1
NSG

Pro

NSG forfeited this round.
Danielle

Con

Extend my arguments.
Debate Round No. 2
NSG

Pro

NSG forfeited this round.
Danielle

Con

A closed mouth gathers no foot.
Debate Round No. 3
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Posted by Darkmaff666 7 years ago
Darkmaff666
nice job "theLwerd"
Posted by Vi_Veri 7 years ago
Vi_Veri
lol people are strange
Posted by Danielle 7 years ago
Danielle
Let me guess. You're going to vote Pro because of your own misery :)
Posted by silntwaves 7 years ago
silntwaves
singleness!
Posted by Vi_Veri 7 years ago
Vi_Veri
Forfeit? This is unfortunate : (
Posted by Danielle 7 years ago
Danielle
No, Cody, I just engaged in one at age 14 and haven't been out of one since lol. Technically speaking, I've been single for a combined total of 8 months total between those 8 years, but I was always dating people in the interim lol. It just worked out that way. And yes, being single can get annoying. A good relationship is win.
Posted by Vi_Veri 7 years ago
Vi_Veri
Single gets old fast. I love being in a happy, good relationship.
Posted by Cody_Franklin 7 years ago
Cody_Franklin
You were born into a romantic relationship? You're good.
Posted by Danielle 7 years ago
Danielle
I don't miss being single lol. Then again I've never really been totally single :|
Posted by wonderwoman 7 years ago
wonderwoman
I vote Lwerd off bias lol
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