THBT Love Marriages are better than Arranged Marriages.
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One issue I'd like to get out of the way, as it may become a misunderstanding, is the difference between a forced and arranged marriage. An arranged marriage is usually between two families of similar status and is not a definite decision and the first meeting is used to see whether the two parties can get along, if new suitor will be found. A forced marriage is where one party is forced to married to another usually without the consent of the forced participant.
While a love marriage may be built on a fire that cools over time, an arranged marriage grows hotter as physical attraction becomes less important and a deeper "spiritual" attraction develops instead, growing hotter over time. While defining love is something philosophers have tried to define for centuries, the textbook definition is "strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties", so love can grow over a period of time just as affection for something or someone can grow. Proof of this is India's, where arranged marriages are the norm, 1.1% divorce rate whereas the U.S., where the inverse is true, has a 50% divorce rate, proving that arranged marriages last longer. While this may be partly due to the social stigma associated with divorce in India, if the marriage was completely intolerable there would be substantially more.
Since arranged marriages usually are between families that know each other, backgrounds and family values are usually the same, meaning less conflict can occur due to religion and other such differences.
My goal in this debate is not to prove that arranged marriages are better, but rather that they are simply different. One starts passionately, but has the ability to dull over time, and the other can grow more passionate over time.
While domestic violence is common in India, it is not an arranged marriage only problem, It is more of a problem with traditional viewpoints towards women. While India has a domestic violence rate of 70%, Peru, where arranged marriages are the exception, has a domestic violence rate of 69%.The U.S. Department of State reports that in Peru "Women's organizations noted that alcohol abuse and traditional attitudes toward women aggravated the problems of rape and sexual abuse, particularly in rural areas." Arranged marriages are not the cause of domestic violence and a recent study reveals"the cultural underpinnings to domestic violence, especially in India, where the study found a woman's risk of being beaten, kicked or hit rose along with her level of education," because "Educated women are aware of their rights."
Though domestic violence is a problem in arranged marriages, it is more of a result of the cultural suppression of women in cultures that practice arranged marriage and even in those that do not.
(I would just like to state that these views are not my own, I'm simply supporting them in the debate)
nananana forfeited this round.
Arranged marriages can be just as affectionate as "love" marriages.
Thank you for the debate nananana.
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Vote Placed by 1Devilsadvocate 3 years ago
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Reasons for voting decision: The instigator Pro, clearly had BOP, which he attempted to fulfill with one single anecdotal incident and an appeal to an authority, while Con brought statistics. & finally, pro F.F.
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