The View Of Christian Marriage Is More Beautiful Than The Islamic View Of Marriage
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The Lord said that a man who finds a wife finds treasure and favor with him. God has intended mankind to be partnered for life if it is his will for that particular individual.
Now to the great stuff! In Christianity, the husband is to love his wife like Christ loved his church. He is to lay his life down for her. The wife is to follow her husband as the Church follows Christ. If the husband is loving the wife as Christ loved us and the wife follows her husband as the Church follows Christ we have a perfect blue print to follow regarding marriage. However, a wife is never to follow her husband in a way that would be sinful and the husband would need to be corrected by family, friends, or the church community.
Divorce is simply not an option unless adultery has been committed. The Christ said,
And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, commits adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another adultery." "Mark 1:1-12
In Islam a man CAN marry up to four wives. No special union there. The wife can only have one husband. This places the marriage union already in a bad position. It is stressful for a woman to wonder if her husband will ever take more wives and divide his love and time with others. This whole theory in itself makes marriage not special, not holy, not to be cherished, unloving, cruel, hurtful, everything that love is not. Even if this a rare practice it is still allowed and undermines the whole essence of two people joining together in love.
In Islam divorce is permitted on both sides but it is much easier for a man to throw his wife away. Allowing divorce is to not value the institution of marriage itself. What is the value of being married when you can be so easily discarded? How can any marriage truly have a strong foundation within itself knowing that your holy text allows for this foundation to be demolished for whatever reason?
In Islam temporary marriages are allowed. Mutah wives in the Shi'a branch and Nikah wives in the Sunni branch. What does this kind of marriage signal to women and marriage? It is a complete disgrace to allow women to be a temporary wife for worldy pleasure.
Christian marriage is holy before God. It is something to be cherished and fought for. It is something to go into cautiously with prayer and guidance. In Islam marriage is just hooking up and if all goes well than great. If not, hey there is always divorce.
Also, whilst I understand your concern for bigamy, you are forming an opinion of an alien cultural tradition based on your own respective alien cultural ideology. You state that it is "bad", "not special", "unloving", "cruel", "hurtful", "everything that love is not". All these are fallacies of generalisation. Who are you to know it is stressful? Indeed, if you found you were in a marriage with three other wives, you might find it stressful, but, again, you are basing your opinions on your own inherent ideologies. Worst still, you are basing them on your own religious ideologies by saying that it is 'unholy'. Wives in polygamous marriages may agree with you if they find their marriage hurtful or cruel, yet many in healthy polygamous marriages would disagree and may also be offended by such generalisations of both their marriage and their religion.
I can make the assumption that you are Christian. I could outlined the Biblical references in the comment section which clearly undermines your argument that divorce is a bad thing which Islam is guilty of, whilst Christianity allows the same thing. However, I will consider your concept of divorce. Again, you are treating this subjectively. Islam stresses the importance of marriage as much as Christianity and like Christianity, many of the doctrines in Islam are not followed. In some sects, even abolished, as is the case with temporary marriage. You ask how a marriage could be so easily be discarded. In what case? Whatever that case might be, divorce is considered as the final option. Not the get out of jail free card.
Your final statement is also a generalisation. 'Hooking up' being prominent among them. You assume that love is exclusive to Christian marriages, 'to be cherished and fought for', implying that Muslim's cannot attain this through their own respective beliefs on matrimony. In conclusion, your entire argument is subjective to a female Christian point of view with no attempt to understand a foreign culture on its own terms and as such, your argument is riddled with generalisations of a rose-tinted point of view.
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