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What defines what is and "ok" age difference in a relationship and what is not?

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Started: 12/14/2014 Category: Society
Updated: 2 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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for_the_brighter_days

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What age makes large age gap relationships ok? Can a 15 year old date a 21 year old with parental consent and is it "ok" ? Does it really matter at all in the long run? If love is real it can wait, but still be in a relationship. It seems the world is run on labels and it is not good for anyone. 6 years is not a long time. Waiting 2 years to be of age is not a big deal. But why is it so looked down upon in this society? It comes down to the opinion of the individual. I find nothing wrong with age difference in relationships, as long as the maturity levels are matched somewhat. Life isnt about trying to be perfect or being "accepted" I refuse to be "accepted"
Laurelin

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Here's the thing. 6 years means a lot of extra brain development. The prefrontal cortex (the section of the brain that inhibits impulse control, aids in decision processing, rationality, organization, etc.) does not finish developing until age 23-25. Regardless of the level of maturity they show, people with underdeveloped brains have not reached their greatest capacity for rationality (regardless of what that personal capacity may be, and how rational they currently are, they still have miles of rationality to gain). A 21 year old, while not having reached their full capacity of rationality, has reached a considerably higher point in their capacity than a 15 year old. Thus, this presents an unfair advantage in terms of maturity. The more underdeveloped one is, the more vulnerable one is. Maturity levels can't actually be matched in that scenario.

Legally speaking, age 18 is the age that makes large gap relationship okay (except in states and countries where the age of consent differs, I suppose). However, on a logical basis, an 18 year old dating a 30 year old isn't likely to be a healthy relationship due to the development gap.
Debate Round No. 1
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for_the_brighter_days

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Um, okay . . . ?
Debate Round No. 3
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Posted by imnotacop 2 years ago
imnotacop
Not really a debate topic, but I'll try and shed some light.
A person does not (fully) sexually mature until they're around 16, nor do they mentally mature until they're around 21.
So no, a 20-something year old shouldn't date, let's say, a 14-15 year old. Not only is the 15 year old not finished maturing in either aspect, the 20 year old is finished in both aspects. This is why you'll hear some people queue the term "physically incapable of consent", because, no matter how much the person may feel about it, neither their body nor mind are capable of meeting the standards in making that decision.
So the reason isn't based in personal beliefs (unless you're going off the biblical age of 18) it's based entirely in science.
So really, there's a lot of contrast and grey area in how you should look at it.
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