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Liyujie
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suyu
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Whether a person cheated on his wife/her husband should be forgiven.

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Started: 1/25/2017 Category: People
Updated: 1 year ago Status: Post Voting Period
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Liyujie

Con

If the person forgive his wife for cheating on him, his wife may cheat again. If there is something happen for the first time, there'll always be a second time.
suyu

Pro

No one is perfect, everyone has a chance to be forgiven. You can"t deny a person"s personality by one single incident. Do you remember something from your religion class? A woman who had sins many times in her life, used her tears to wash Jesus" feet and poured perfume on them. So Jesus forgave her faults and let her go. Then, the woman never sinned again. Sometimes, you should give others a chance to be forgiven. Maybe, they are just under some burdens and pressures of life, so they lose themselves in the complicated world. They wanted a breathe and to go out for a drink, after they have tasted the outcome. They will come back home, only their home is the most warm place.
Debate Round No. 1
Liyujie

Con

Just like you said, family is the warmest place, so how could a man leave his home if he thought it's the warmest place. When the day he started to cheat on his wife, it already meant that he wanted to abandon the family. People should always look forward. If the wife forgives her husband, it will urge the husband to cheat again because he thinks his wife will forgive him again. For wife herself, she should divorce with him and find a new better one.
suyu

Pro

How can you be sure that he can find a better one? We've seen many examples of people who divorced, taking their kids to reconstruct a family with another person. Does that mean happy? No, it's not good both for you and your kids. Kids also have emotions, they know that their stepmother or stepfather has no kinship or blood relationship with them. Maybe for you it's a new lover, for your kids, they are just living with a stranger. They will live under the shadow of your divorce and don't have the same happy childhood that everyone else in their age can have.
Debate Round No. 2
Liyujie

Con

First, the things happened can not represent all people, they are just some cases. There are still more people that feel happier after divorced. In addition, if people never give themselves a chance and just keep enduring, how could they have the possibility to find a better one. It's impossible! Second, although children's birth parents are very important to their childhood, children's father and mother's relationship is no longer like before which will still influence children's emotion; sometimes is even worse.
suyu

Pro

Firstly, that's true, some cases can not represent all. But, does it mean that there is a higher chance for people to not find a better one after divorced? Maybe, some people indeed find a better spouse after they divorced, but the chance of not finding a better spouse is higher. Moreover, children's stepfather and stepmother can not influence the children and love the children in the same their birth parents do. Can you say that stepmother and stepfather are the same person as their birth parents? Of course not. So they can influence the kids, but not in the same way their birth parents can do and love them. Thirdly, you said that since the parents' relationship is no longer good, so the kids will not be happy. But what if they forgive each other? Then their relationship is still as good as before, the kids are still can live happily with their parents.
Debate Round No. 3
Liyujie

Con

It is true that the relationship between birth father and the child and the relationship between step father and the child is different, but what if the wife has found a better husband? Think about it. The child would know the relationship would not be the same no matter the wife forgives the husband and lives together or she doesn't forgive him and finds a new one. The relationship is broken anyway. So what if the new husband can take responsible for taking care of his wife and children more than the previous one? The children and wife can have more love from their dad and and her husband. There is a possibility of repairing the child's relationship by receiving more love for dad.
suyu

Pro

I agree what you said they may find the perfect second love and also it will warm your children that they did not have before. But it is really a risk to take. If you meet a person and he is just the way you like, this does not mean you two are still perfect when you live together and be in a real family. This is common sense, dating with someone twice a week, and you guys could talk and watch movies and do lots of romantic things together, all the things like you do for the first time. It must fresh for you. But when you into a stable relationship and you or him have a kid, you two are like parents and combine two families together, which is no longer the pure love, that includes the responsibility of family.
Debate Round No. 4
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