I am struggling to understand the male/female attraction, when it seems that both are afraid of the other yet can't seem to get enough! As much as they try to tell themselves that they are not Interested or looking for anyone else and are content to be alone or even settling for someone they can trust not to hurt them whilst either fantasising for another or simply just being wanted/desired?
Is it an ego induced state of mind or can people be happy alone?
Humans are just like every other sexually reproducing creature on earth, we are driven by our reptilian brain's survival instinct to mate and reproduce. That instinct, however, has been skewed by emotions thanks to our mammalian brain which is why we form relationships, whether that be with someone you may eventually have children with, your friends, or even your mother. It is our primate or human brain where logic comes into play and we start forming monogamous relationships with persons of the opposite sex, or the same sex, that we trust because it doesn't make sense to be involved with someone in any way if you don't trust them. To be trust worthy and to form those lasting monogamous romantic relationships one must overcome that reptilian instinct to mate with whomever possible. But not everyone has that desire to form romantic relationships, or even to have sex and feeling that way doesn't necessarily mean you believe you're too good for anyone, unless that is the case. Someone who is asexual, for example, may never be "in a relationship" simply because they don't have that desire.
I understand the science behind it but can you explain the process of overcoming our reptilian instincts to mate with all and sundry other than kidding ourselves?
Is it possible other than to those who are "asexual" to constrain the urge to obsess over the female body, IE; being in a relationship with your twin flame?
I understand that relationships are good for the brain's development and memory, that could also be a valid reason for people to settle for a trustworthy partner until if a time may arise when a more suitable candidate has been encountered.