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Your spouse can be friends with someone who doesnt like you?

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Voting Style: Open Point System: 7 Point
Started: 5/25/2009 Category: Miscellaneous
Updated: 7 years ago Status: Voting Period
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Uhaul182

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If you honor and respect your spouse how can you tolerate someone who doesnt. By being friends with someone who openly doesnt like your spouse what message are you sending your spouse and other friends about your spouse. If that person doesnt like your spouse for a know reason by being friends with them arent you validating that reason!
TheSkeptic

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I thank and welcome my opponent to this website. I hope this debate goes well. However, there are two things that need to be cleared up before this debate can get off it's feet.

First, my opponent uses can (since he is CON, it's more apt to say can't) instead of a better word in this context, such as may or should. While your spouse can definitely be friends with someone who doesn't like you, it doesn't necessarily mean they should. Therefore, I urge that we argue whether or not your spouse being friends with someone who hates you is REASONABLE. In fact, my opponent can even try to argue that it's immoral, which is quite the stretch.

Secondly, a few definitions need to be put in place to avoid semantic traps and easily avoided mistakes. Do realize that I am only pasting down the definitions that are relevant:

[Spouse]
[http://dictionary.reference.com...]

–noun
1. either member of a married pair in relation to the other; one's husband or wife.

Now onto the debate:

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Con Claims: Being friends with someone who hates your spouse says that you hate/don't like your spouse
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This is the crux of my opponent's argument, so all I need to do is to refute this.

It is reasonable to be friends with someone who doesn't like your spouse. For example, let's say a woman's brother hates her husband. How common is that? In many marriages, there can perhaps always be one relative who doesn't approve, but that doesn't mean that the marriage should be called off or a friendship needs to be called off.

Simply put, you can still be friends with someone who doesn't like your spouse. To be friends with someone doesn't mean you agree with everything they believe (that would be ridiculous, I have many religious friends). A friend is someone who you enjoy being around for a certain group of characteristics they have. We accept friends for their differences and our conflicts.

Therefore, your spouse can be friends with someone who doesn't like you. Sure, the friendship may break partially due to that big difference, but it's not a necessary thing to happen. People can still maintian relationships.

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I've showed one common example that negates my opponent's resolution, and given the reasoning behind it. That is all.
Debate Round No. 1
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Posted by wjmelements 7 years ago
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Defaulted PRO due to forfeits.
Posted by brian_eggleston 7 years ago
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Yes, that had potential, all votes due to Skeptic.
Posted by Maikuru 7 years ago
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Disappointing...
Posted by Maikuru 7 years ago
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Wow, this is such an interesting topic. I look forward to the upcoming rounds.
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