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barbaranichetti
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ddee
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could someone carry the baby for someone else?

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Started: 2/20/2013 Category: Science
Updated: 4 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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barbaranichetti

Pro

Should families be allowed to pay someone or have someone be a surrogate for their child, if they are unable to carry the child themselves (their egg and sperm, just someone else to carry the baby)?
ddee

Con

Surrogacy can appear as a flawless option for couples who are unable to have a child of their own, however there are many issues with it. One of the issues is payment, do you pay the surrogate for carrying the child? Or do you just pay her medical bills et cetera? You didn't specify that in the argument. The issue with the former is the amount, how much money does a woman carrying and giving birth to your baby deserve? Surrogacy becomes a job, many young girls could be tempted to quit education and instead choose to become a surrogate which would contribute to the education crisis. If you pay for the medical bills only then what bills exactly? Surely you'd want the surrogate to be healthy so would you pay for the bills that are there because of the pregnancy, or would you pay for all bills which affect your child which would of course mean that you pay most, if not all, of the medical bills. You'd also want the surrogate to live an alright life, no one wants their child to grow in a woman who lives in a slum. What would stop women from becoming surrogates just to get this?

Leading on from the previous point, there is no way to know what the surrogate is doing while you're not present unless you have someone watching her at all times. A woman could become a surrogate for the money and then go and expose the baby to harm. Keeping the woman on watch would essentially be like keeping her prisoner and surely I am not the only one who sees the issue in this?

Another issue is the woman's mental health. The couple may be able to help her with physical problems that may occur during the pregnancy but what about the issues she may face after? In 9 months it is very easy to get attached to the being living inside of you, even women who get pregnant and are sure that they want to get rid of the baby sometimes need therapy after giving away the child, and that's not the worst case scenario. Some may argue that what matters is that the couple get the child, but does a persons mental health not matter? You can prepare someone, have them think that they're prepared, have contracts assuring everyone that the surrogate is giving away the baby and then that's that, but there is nothing that can completely prevent attachment. I don't know about you but a persons mental health matters to me as much as their physical health does.
Debate Round No. 1
barbaranichetti

Pro

barbaranichetti forfeited this round.
ddee

Con

As you forfeited the round I will just continue. One of the main issues, at least to me, would be what to do if problems with the pregnancy arise? If it's your child and you are carrying it then it's a lot more simple. If you're risking a life, you're risking your life. But in the case of surrogacy you would be asking someone else to risk their life. You can argue that there is always a risk of dying, you can die right now. And with giving birth there is always the minuscule chance of death, but what if the doctors said that the chances of death rose to 20%? Who's life would be more important in that case? Would you allow the surrogate to abort your baby or would you force them to risk their life?

There are many medical issues that can arise with pregnancy, they may not be common but no one can deny that they do happen. If you are in that situation then it's your child, you can risk your life for your child. But surely you wouldn't expect that from someone who's as good as a stranger.

And what would happen if the surrogate did die? Or suffered from severe complications due to the pregnancy/birth? Who would be to blame, who would take care of her? In some countries where health care is free (or well, not free but is payed via taxes) then it's okay, but in some other countries she could drown in hospital bills. Unless the parents would be the ones paying even after in which case they would probably have a hard time providing for the surrogate, the newborn baby, their family, and whoever else. Pardon me for going back to my previous point.

What about the child? How would you feel finding out that it wasn't your mother who gave birth to you? Some might take it well, after all genetically she's still your mother and she raised you, others might not. Some people consider the person who gave birth to be the mother, they believe that the bond formed between a child and the woman giving birth is important in a mother-child relationship. That bond would of course not be formed.

In fact, if the surrogate becomes close to the family (which is often the case) then the genetic mother might become jealous. So not only is the surrogate's and the child's mental health at risk, but it is also the mothers. It seems unlikely, doesn't it? But imagine having a woman carry your partners child and having them bond, you may also be bonding with her and granted it's your child too but the mind is complex and assuming that a person will be fine with this scenario is naive. I'm not saying that every woman would go crazy or anything like that, however I am saying that it is possible that she may not be able to cope well.
Debate Round No. 2
barbaranichetti

Pro

barbaranichetti forfeited this round.
ddee

Con

To sum I will just just say that though surrogacy may seem completely harmless, it can affect all parties involved in many negative ways. Throughout the debate I have explained how surrogacy can be harmful.
Debate Round No. 3
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Posted by Arbitrary 4 years ago
Arbitrary
Hmm.. are there any parties who actively object to surrogacy, especially when there are such clear and justifiable intentions behind it? There's really not much there to argue against this stand here and any debate would most likely revolve around religious arguments(which would be kinda odd since surrogacy wasn't really available when most religious texts were written)
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