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how can divorce influence on children

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Started: 10/9/2013 Category: People
Updated: 3 years ago Status: Post Voting Period
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karina_kimep

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When parents decide to divorce or separate, their child or children are faced with multiple stressors. Just knowing that things are going to be different after a divorce, but not knowing exactly how can be frightening or cause fears for most children. Children from divorced families have to learn to cope with the many changes in their family. The amount of contact with one parent, often their father, will be reduced. Children may have to move from their family home or change schools. Schoolwork may suffer or school avoidance may develop. They may have a decreased standard of living. They may have to live in two homes. They may have more responsibility placed on them. The custodial parent may be physically and psychologically less available for children due to increased demands. Often, children initially focus on these immediate negative effects of the family breaking up, and do not find comfort in knowing that other families that have divorced eventually do okay.What parents see as a quick way out often results in emotional damage that the children will carry for 30 years or more. Divorce is no small thing to children. It is the violent ripping apart of their parents, a loss of stability and often a complete shock. While we often think of children as resilient, going through such trauma is a lot to ask of our kids.
In conclusion I would say that it is very hard to live a normally life when your parents are divorced, they have their new families and new babies and you feel like nobody actually need you, it is really hard to live knowing that you are alone in this big world.
fnarkchang

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A child"s nourishment and successes are not solely dependent on whether their parents wish to continue their marital status or not, but rather dependant on the emotional stability of the household and the parents ability to parent more so. It is better for a child to grow up in a calm and single parent home than it is for the child to live in a household where the parents are not able to overcome their differences. The lack of a father or a mother is not directly correlated with the successes, or lack thereof, of the child, as I can list many examples where in a separated household, a child can lead a normal and even successful life. The examples you bring up such as failing in school and decreased standard of living are not direct causes of the separation of parents but rather most likely due to the emotional instability of the parent subsequent the separation. Furthermore, I can also give examples of children that have failed in school and have decreased their standard of living when they have grown up in a household where the parents are happy with their marital status.
In conclusion, the parent(s) ability to parent has much more of a significant contribution to the upbringing of a child as opposed to the marital status of the parents. One good parent is better than two bad parents.
Debate Round No. 1
karina_kimep

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fnarkchang

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Debate Round No. 2
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Posted by Courtz 2 years ago
Courtz
Both of you have raised very good points. As a child who's parents divorced when I was younger. It is not easy and it doesn't always have the best impact on the child. There have been many issues between myself and my dad and I no longer go round to visit him, or his new family. The transitions that occur with divorce are extremely hard to deal with and sometimes get worse as time goes on!
This isn't the case for every case of divorce but for most cases it wrecks the bond and relationship between the child/children and one or both of the parents.
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