man loves woman out of compulsion, not out of necessity
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Love - acceptance,appreciation, selfless giving for the benefit of the other person
Now as for necessity, i think it's a need based on the desire to feel a close connection with another human being. I think for some people, this would be a need rather than a want.
Your right, just because a man and a woman get together and have kids, doesn't mean there is love, however in most cases, love exists. Healthy relationships have commitments which will enable both to raise kids. Thus it is not just a social and biological impulse.
Some couples don't want offspring and are still in love.
necessity- an indispensable thing or person. here it implies that man loves woman because without that he can't survive.
compulsion-an irresistible urge to behave against or differently from one's conscious wishes.
now to come to the point of biological compulsion. very few animals display long term fruitful relationships with the opposite sex as humans do and this is a good thing because in our evolutionary past we were bipedals and since the mother couldn't make the baby ride on her back, she had to hold it In her arms. thus she needed a male to protect her from the predators and thus began amorous love. it was an absolute necessity in THOSE days. however when we are so well developed in this age of modernity where as I am sure all civilisation will agree when the woman can take care of herself, the concept of man loving woman no longer becomes a necessity but is a rudimentary compulsion borne out of our violent biological past.
now let me bring up a new topic of discussion. I am sure many of the readers of this debate or even you truth seeker must have had a crush or fallen in love. now the question is did you CHOOSE to fall in love with the person? did you CONSCIOUSLY fall in love or was it a sudden event beyond your control that just happened? was it not an irresistible urge DIFFERENT from your conscious wishes so much so that even when you try to concentrate his/her image would appear AGAINST your wishes? referring to my definition of compulsion, I think it's quite clear that love is compulsion not necessity. source of biological point is scientific American magazine.
I have fallen in love before. My affections for another person were not voluntarily and beyond my control, i can say that, but i could choose whether to reveal my feelings for them and to make the relationship work. It was an irresistible urge beyond my conscious desires and yes, i found out their image were against my wishes, but sometimes, i feel i probably somehow cannot survive alone in the world. In that sense, it's a "need."
I do accept that human beings are social and need others but man can have men as friends,etc. One can also argue that the feeling of needing someone is an evolutionary gimmick which makes us come together to perform a rudimentary duty.
As to families with the high divorce rates, etc larger stable families are a thing of the past. They are social compulsions which many are breaking by liberal relationships such as live in relationships, etc. finally I would like to quote a great man " immature love says I love you because I need you. Mature love says I need you because I love you." - erich fromm. It was great fun debating with you, truth seeker. I may find myself compulsed to debate with you again. I rest my case. Please vote lots and fairly and impartially!
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Vote Placed by bladerunner060 2 years ago
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Reasons for voting decision: Pro failed to sufficiently draw a distinction. How is a compulsion different than a necessity? If you MUST do something (compelled to), how is that different than NEEDING to do something (necessity)? Pro and Con both seemed to have arguments too jumbled to make a determination on. So I'm nulling my vote. As always, happy to clarify this RFD.
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