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4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM
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I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?
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4/14/2015 10:06:32 AM
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Yes, I most definitely have this problem. Anytime I try to discuss any political or social issue with my wife it ends the same way. She says the same thing every time. That's just how I "feel" I can't explain why. Then I say "how can you defend positions that you can't explain." Then that is the end of all intellectual discussion on those two subjects.
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

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4/14/2015 10:16:17 AM
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If you piss people off because you're "good" at arguing, you aren't good at arguing. A person who's actually skilled at arguing can make others agree with him, or at least word his arguments in a way that sounds reasonable and fair that will anger very few
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4/14/2015 10:24:28 AM
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At 4/14/2015 10:16:17 AM, thett3 wrote:
If you piss people off because you're "good" at arguing, you aren't good at arguing. A person who's actually skilled at arguing can make others agree with him, or at least word his arguments in a way that sounds reasonable and fair that will anger very few

I would make a distinction between argument and rhetoric. Argument is based on what is, while rhetoric is based on getting others to accept your view by any means necessary. A mathematician can argue a theory perfectly but still fail to convince a layman because he isn't good at rhetoric.
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4/14/2015 10:27:09 AM
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At 4/14/2015 10:24:28 AM, bossyburrito wrote:
At 4/14/2015 10:16:17 AM, thett3 wrote:
If you piss people off because you're "good" at arguing, you aren't good at arguing. A person who's actually skilled at arguing can make others agree with him, or at least word his arguments in a way that sounds reasonable and fair that will anger very few

I would make a distinction between argument and rhetoric. Argument is based on what is, while rhetoric is based on getting others to accept your view by any means necessary. A mathematician can argue a theory perfectly but still fail to convince a layman because he isn't good at rhetoric.

Maybe so, but I took it as the OP was referring more to the art of persuasion
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4/14/2015 10:55:41 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

No, you fix this by fixing their arguments for them, so you're arguing against the best possible version of their argument. Also, maybe you just keep your mouth shut, when you're right sometimes, because it just isn't worth it.
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4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.
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4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.
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4/14/2015 11:50:25 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Yeah, its cute when you're dating. Try that cr@p when you're married, and you'll be sleeping on the couch for many a night.
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4/14/2015 11:50:59 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Umm..... I'm not a relationship guru, but it seems Ike a bad ideal.

I'm just learning to ignore what mine says (because women are illogical), and just focus on how what she is saying means she feels.

Men want their logic appealed to, women prefer their feelings appealed to.
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4/14/2015 12:09:47 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 11:50:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Yeah, its cute when you're dating. Try that cr@p when you're married, and you'll be sleeping on the couch for many a night.

Lol, no I would never do that. ;) My gf would kill me.
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4/14/2015 12:11:15 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 11:50:59 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Umm..... I'm not a relationship guru, but it seems Ike a bad ideal.

I'm just learning to ignore what mine says (because women are illogical), and just focus on how what she is saying means she feels.

Men want their logic appealed to, women prefer their feelings appealed to.

You mean women don't like being insulted...?
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4/14/2015 12:13:37 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 12:09:47 PM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:50:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Yeah, its cute when you're dating. Try that cr@p when you're married, and you'll be sleeping on the couch for many a night.

Lol, no I would never do that. ;) My gf would kill me.

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4/14/2015 12:15:54 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 12:13:37 PM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 12:09:47 PM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:50:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Yeah, its cute when you're dating. Try that cr@p when you're married, and you'll be sleeping on the couch for many a night.

Lol, no I would never do that. ;) My gf would kill me.

http://giphy.com...

And that's just dating... This is what happens after marriage...

http://giphy.com...
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4/14/2015 12:17:48 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 12:15:54 PM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 12:13:37 PM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 12:09:47 PM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:50:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Yeah, its cute when you're dating. Try that cr@p when you're married, and you'll be sleeping on the couch for many a night.

Lol, no I would never do that. ;) My gf would kill me.

http://giphy.com...

And that's just dating... This is what happens after marriage...

http://giphy.com...

-o How come my gf looks like a man and I look like a woman??
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4/14/2015 12:18:15 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 12:15:54 PM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 12:13:37 PM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 12:09:47 PM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:50:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Yeah, its cute when you're dating. Try that cr@p when you're married, and you'll be sleeping on the couch for many a night.

Lol, no I would never do that. ;) My gf would kill me.

http://giphy.com...

And that's just dating... This is what happens after marriage...

http://giphy.com...

Ohh wait, nvm. That's me getting slapped...
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4/14/2015 1:29:06 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 10:06:32 AM, sadolite wrote:
Yes, I most definitely have this problem. Anytime I try to discuss any political or social issue with my wife it ends the same way. She says the same thing every time. That's just how I "feel" I can't explain why. Then I say "how can you defend positions that you can't explain." Then that is the end of all intellectual discussion on those two subjects.

Why did you marry someone you can't even discuss things with? I've literally broken up with girls because they argue nothing but emotional appeals. If I can't hold a long or deep conversation where we can discuss our differing opinions rationally, then the relationship isn't going to work for me. I don't think I could ever marry someone who I can't discuss things rationally with or with reason.
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4/14/2015 1:40:05 PM
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At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Not if you are so persuasive they agree you are right and love you for it.
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4/14/2015 1:56:17 PM
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When I'm arguing with my dad he usually tries changes the subject and my mom gets really really mad if you argue with her about anything at all. Especially if you're right. So I usually shut up when she makes an argument.
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4/14/2015 2:10:00 PM
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At 4/14/2015 1:29:06 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 4/14/2015 10:06:32 AM, sadolite wrote:
Yes, I most definitely have this problem. Anytime I try to discuss any political or social issue with my wife it ends the same way. She says the same thing every time. That's just how I "feel" I can't explain why. Then I say "how can you defend positions that you can't explain." Then that is the end of all intellectual discussion on those two subjects.

Why did you marry someone you can't even discuss things with? I've literally broken up with girls because they argue nothing but emotional appeals. If I can't hold a long or deep conversation where we can discuss our differing opinions rationally, then the relationship isn't going to work for me. I don't think I could ever marry someone who I can't discuss things rationally with or with reason.

It wasn't an issue for several years. It wasn't until she got her citizenship and started voting did we have this problem. When you commit to marry you marry for better or worse. Diametric opposition on political and social issues is not a sufficient reason to divorce. Maybe for some it is, but not me. We just don't discuss it at all.
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

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4/14/2015 2:14:50 PM
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At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

I wouldn't know, I never win arguments.
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4/14/2015 2:54:58 PM
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At 4/14/2015 11:50:59 AM, Wylted wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:48:20 AM, zmikecuber wrote:
At 4/14/2015 11:06:25 AM, Geogeer wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

Maybe you should focus more on discussion. Arguments are where you put your best opinion forth and you defend it as best as possible. Discussion is where you exchange information with the other person.

In relationships the latter is much better - and it is more likely for you both to accept the actual truth of the situation.

I just convert all my girlfriends arguments into modal logic and syllogisms and tell her how wrong she is. She loves me.

Umm..... I'm not a relationship guru, but it seems Ike a bad ideal.

I'm just learning to ignore what mine says (because women are illogical), and just focus on how what she is saying means she feels.

Men want their logic appealed to, women prefer their feelings appealed to.

You're exactly right. Women (in my experience) appeal to emotion and feeling and men appeal to logic. Some women just hate it when you disagree with them even if you're trying to have a rational different point of view.
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4/14/2015 3:19:57 PM
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At 4/14/2015 2:10:00 PM, sadolite wrote:
At 4/14/2015 1:29:06 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 4/14/2015 10:06:32 AM, sadolite wrote:
Yes, I most definitely have this problem. Anytime I try to discuss any political or social issue with my wife it ends the same way. She says the same thing every time. That's just how I "feel" I can't explain why. Then I say "how can you defend positions that you can't explain." Then that is the end of all intellectual discussion on those two subjects.

Why did you marry someone you can't even discuss things with? I've literally broken up with girls because they argue nothing but emotional appeals. If I can't hold a long or deep conversation where we can discuss our differing opinions rationally, then the relationship isn't going to work for me. I don't think I could ever marry someone who I can't discuss things rationally with or with reason.

It wasn't an issue for several years. It wasn't until she got her citizenship and started voting did we have this problem. When you commit to marry you marry for better or worse. Diametric opposition on political and social issues is not a sufficient reason to divorce. Maybe for some it is, but not me. We just don't discuss it at all.

Yeah I can get what you're saying. If it didn't bother me at first, and I ended up having children with her then I wouldn't break my family apart for something like that. Where we differ is that I wouldn't marry her in the first place because it already bugs me. But you're a different scenario altogether in the sense that it didn't bother you at first. I've often thought of the possibility of marrying a non-American myself, I'll have to pay extra close attention to her political and social leanings beforehand, lol :)
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4/14/2015 3:34:25 PM
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Tulle gets made about this whenever we argue.

tulle: I'm upset about something. It's not a debate.
me: What's the difference?
tulle: The difference is shut up.

There's no coming back from that.
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4/14/2015 3:48:54 PM
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At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

I consider myself a brilliant arguer but even more brilliant at intentionally losing an argument for the greater good. It helps sometimes. Other times, the relationship is so sht that I don't see the point in not arguing.

That said, I don't believe in love nor seek it. I prefer platonic relationships.
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4/14/2015 4:25:38 PM
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At 4/14/2015 3:34:25 PM, Maikuru wrote:
Tulle gets made about this whenever we argue.

tulle: I'm upset about something. It's not a debate.
me: What's the difference?
tulle: The difference is shut up.

There's no coming back from that.

This sounds all too familiar. I secretly take her response as a concession and congratulate myself for winning.
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4/14/2015 6:28:56 PM
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At 4/14/2015 3:19:57 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 4/14/2015 2:10:00 PM, sadolite wrote:
At 4/14/2015 1:29:06 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 4/14/2015 10:06:32 AM, sadolite wrote:
Yes, I most definitely have this problem. Anytime I try to discuss any political or social issue with my wife it ends the same way. She says the same thing every time. That's just how I "feel" I can't explain why. Then I say "how can you defend positions that you can't explain." Then that is the end of all intellectual discussion on those two subjects.

Why did you marry someone you can't even discuss things with? I've literally broken up with girls because they argue nothing but emotional appeals. If I can't hold a long or deep conversation where we can discuss our differing opinions rationally, then the relationship isn't going to work for me. I don't think I could ever marry someone who I can't discuss things rationally with or with reason.

It wasn't an issue for several years. It wasn't until she got her citizenship and started voting did we have this problem. When you commit to marry you marry for better or worse. Diametric opposition on political and social issues is not a sufficient reason to divorce. Maybe for some it is, but not me. We just don't discuss it at all.

Yeah I can get what you're saying. If it didn't bother me at first, and I ended up having children with her then I wouldn't break my family apart for something like that. Where we differ is that I wouldn't marry her in the first place because it already bugs me. But you're a different scenario altogether in the sense that it didn't bother you at first. I've often thought of the possibility of marrying a non-American myself, I'll have to pay extra close attention to her political and social leanings beforehand, lol :)

There are three kinds of people who immigrate to the US. The first kind embrace capitalism and the free market and just want a chance to make it on their own the second kind want to turn America into the socialist sht hole they left and think it will remain prosperous. And the third kind want to rape the welfare system for every dime they can get and send it back home so they can retire in relative comfort in their country back home.
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

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4/14/2015 6:36:11 PM
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At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

No, i just walk into a room and everyone immediately concedes that I'm right.
You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into - Jonathan Swift (paraphrase)
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4/14/2015 7:05:01 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

I typically avoid argument in personal relationships and social situations unless it is clear to me that the discussion will be inquisitive as opposed to being adversarial, and also that the other person is good at thinking critically.

What I find to be most frustrating about argument is that it is so easy to make a mistake. I have to be very careful, and question myself continuously. I don't think I could argue well verbally, because I couldn't look at what I just stated and check for errors.
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4/14/2015 7:42:16 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 4/14/2015 6:36:11 PM, bluesteel wrote:
At 4/14/2015 9:54:00 AM, Benshapiro wrote:
I could imagine this being a problem in personal relationships and in social situations. If you're almost always right on issues it seems like people would start to resent you. Do you have this problem?

No, i just walk into a room and everyone immediately concedes that I'm right.

Seems legit.
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