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ESocialBookworm
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10/13/2014 8:51:50 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
Case:
A guy meets a girl and the family doesn't approve because:
I. She isn't their religion.
II. She's involved in illegal activities.
III. She's married, not to him.

Is love more

(A).
The boy's family trying to explain her inappropriateness in their perspective, and threatening to disown him to coerce him into the right option.

OR

(B).
The family allowing the boy to make his own mistakes, not imposing themselves on him, and stay by his side when he gets hurt.

Your thoughts- A or B, and why?
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10/13/2014 8:58:22 PM
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There's just not enough context here to answer.
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10/14/2014 12:04:08 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 10/13/2014 8:51:50 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Case:
A guy meets a girl and the family doesn't approve because:
I. She isn't their religion.
II. She's involved in illegal activities.
III. She's married, not to him.

Is love more

(A).
The boy's family trying to explain her inappropriateness in their perspective, and threatening to disown him to coerce him into the right option.

OR

(B).
The family allowing the boy to make his own mistakes, not imposing themselves on him, and stay by his side when he gets hurt.

Your thoughts- A or B, and why?

Case A seems like "Overbearing" Love.

Case B seems like "Tough" Love.

Neither are really "more" love than the other... they are just different forms of love.
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10/14/2014 12:13:51 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
B because if they truly can't stand his decisions so much that they disown him, I don't think they're good people. If someone in my family got in the way of my happiness, I wouldn't care for them.
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10/14/2014 12:19:22 AM
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Love can be both; love is doing what you think is best for those you care about. If someone thinks (b) is best, than (b) is love. The same applies for (a).

Personally, I would lean more towards (a) myself, sans too much coercion. Though, I'd definitely apply some pressure to my kid to make a smart choice.
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10/14/2014 9:27:56 AM
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neither of them is love.

love is them explaining their point of view to their son, and then respecting his wishes by allowing him to make his own mistakes.
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10/14/2014 9:42:16 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 10/13/2014 8:51:50 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Case:
A guy meets a girl and the family doesn't approve because:
I. She isn't their religion.
II. She's involved in illegal activities.
III. She's married, not to him.

Is love more

(A).
The boy's family trying to explain her inappropriateness in their perspective, and threatening to disown him to coerce him into the right option.

OR

(B).
The family allowing the boy to make his own mistakes, not imposing themselves on him, and stay by his side when he gets hurt.

Your thoughts- A or B, and why?

I think love is a combination of those choices. Talk and try to reason with the son, but if he chooses to defy it, let him go, and back off and stay by his side when he gets hurt.
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10/14/2014 10:05:59 AM
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At 10/13/2014 8:51:50 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Case:
A guy meets a girl and the family doesn't approve because:
I. She isn't their religion.
II. She's involved in illegal activities.
III. She's married, not to him.

Is love more

(A).
The boy's family trying to explain her inappropriateness in their perspective, and threatening to disown him to coerce him into the right option.

OR

(B).
The family allowing the boy to make his own mistakes, not imposing themselves on him, and stay by his side when he gets hurt.

Your thoughts- A or B, and why?

I think if you select B, there's something there. It says "when he gets hurt". Now obviously you want to allow your son to make his own decisions, but you need to reason first. I think you should try to impose your position-try to let him understand- but if he fights back, lay off. I think that there should be an inbetween because in this situation, neither would end well.
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10/14/2014 10:42:27 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 10/13/2014 8:58:22 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
There's just not enough context here to answer.

yeah there is, it's clearly (A)

coercion is like what love means.
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10/16/2014 9:52:56 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 10/13/2014 8:51:50 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Case:
A guy meets a girl and the family doesn't approve because:
I. She isn't their religion.
II. She's involved in illegal activities.
III. She's married, not to him.

Is love more

(A).
The boy's family trying to explain her inappropriateness in their perspective, and threatening to disown him to coerce him into the right option.

OR

(B).
The family allowing the boy to make his own mistakes, not imposing themselves on him, and stay by his side when he gets hurt.

Your thoughts- A or B, and why?

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10/24/2014 8:36:28 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 10/13/2014 8:51:50 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Case:
A guy meets a girl and the family doesn't approve because:
I. She isn't their religion.
II. She's involved in illegal activities.
III. She's married, not to him.

Is love more

(A).
The boy's family trying to explain her inappropriateness in their perspective, and threatening to disown him to coerce him into the right option.

OR

(B).
The family allowing the boy to make his own mistakes, not imposing themselves on him, and stay by his side when he gets hurt.

Your thoughts- A or B, and why?

The first one. No good parents would allow their son to suffer in such a way as he inevitably would because of his poor choice. When he was older and wiser, he would learn this lesson without having to go through it personally.
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11/1/2014 12:31:25 PM
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At 10/13/2014 8:51:50 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Case:
A guy meets a girl and the family doesn't approve because:
I. She isn't their religion.
II. She's involved in illegal activities.
III. She's married, not to him.

Is love more

(A).
The boy's family trying to explain her inappropriateness in their perspective, and threatening to disown him to coerce him into the right option.

OR

(B).
The family allowing the boy to make his own mistakes, not imposing themselves on him, and stay by his side when he gets hurt.

Your thoughts- A or B, and why?

It's A. You wouldn't let a toddler run out into the street because they are naive. With the exception of the religion the other two examples are something a naive person would get involved with. As far as religion goes that is for the individual to decide and doesn't belong in this category. As far as religion goes the individual goes one must decide if he or she intends on relying on their parents for financial and emotional support. You don't get to have those on your terms. If you don't care for the moral compass your parents follow that's your problem, Move out and start your own life and live under your own moral compass at your own expense and consequence.
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