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lovelife
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4/1/2011 3:51:23 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
I just broke up with my first and only bf.
He was controlling. He kept accusing me of lying and cheating. I kept hurting everyday, and even last night I cut because of the drama.
Idk where to go from here?? I have not much hope for the future now, so I'm a bit depressed.
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nonentity
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4/1/2011 3:55:47 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
The most important thing (I think) is to hold on to the reasons why you broke up with him. It's not worth it to go back. If you go back to him it only gets worse. It's like having spoiled milk... you open the fridge and go back to it but it's still spoiled and it only gets worse.

The second important thing is to realize it's not the end of the world and it gets better and you deserve better.

If you're cutting yourself you should talk to someone. (From what you've said of your family, it's probably a good idea to call a help line. I don't know what resources Americans have but Ann can help you with that.)
Ore_Ele
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4/1/2011 3:58:22 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 3:51:23 PM, lovelife wrote:
I just broke up with my first and only bf.
He was controlling. He kept accusing me of lying and cheating. I kept hurting everyday, and even last night I cut because of the drama.
Idk where to go from here?? I have not much hope for the future now, so I'm a bit depressed.

not to make it sound like this is no big deal, but... If you step back and logically think "I'm 16, I have plenty of time to heal and meet new and better people" you'll realize that you'll get over this.
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innomen
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4/1/2011 3:58:54 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
It'll hurt for a long while, and you will never forget this particular one. It's a good thing that you have to go through so that you get better at choosing in the future. I can also tell you that it will happen again, and probably again, and probably again. It does get a little easier until you get to the right one, and it can even happen again. It's a good bad experience.
Ore_Ele
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4/1/2011 4:01:41 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
you broke up with him right? You'll find someone better, it'll hurt for awhile, but always know that it is going to be better with time.

"Time heals all wounds. Unless you have a rash, then you're better off with ointment."
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J.Kenyon
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4/1/2011 4:03:26 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:01:41 PM, OreEle wrote:
"Time heals all wounds. Unless you have a rash, then you're better off with ointment."

The podiatrist told me time wounds all heels.
tvellalott
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4/1/2011 4:07:44 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
I suggest using the negative feelings to be proactive...
Go out and make a huge effort to be better.
Work out, read, make new friends, that sort of stuff.

I'm not over my ex and we've been broken up for like 6 months.
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4/1/2011 4:12:38 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 3:51:23 PM, lovelife wrote:
I just broke up with my first and only bf.
He was controlling. He kept accusing me of lying and cheating. I kept hurting everyday, and even last night I cut because of the drama.
Idk where to go from here?? I have not much hope for the future now, so I'm a bit depressed.

So, in the long run you made the good choice, I suppose, this is a good thing to keep in mind. Can't relate, though; Im cold hearted person.
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Thaddeus
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4/1/2011 4:13:28 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:13:04 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
Sounds pretty bad. Don't cut, it doesn't help with anything.

Will you be changing your name then?
Thaddeus
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4/1/2011 4:13:50 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:13:28 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:13:04 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
Sounds pretty bad. Don't cut, it doesn't help with anything.

Will you be changing your name then?

(too soon?)
Greyparrot
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4/1/2011 4:20:23 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:13:50 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:13:28 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:13:04 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
Sounds pretty bad. Don't cut, it doesn't help with anything.

Will you be changing your name then?

(too soon?)

Bad-kitty
Thaddeus
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4/1/2011 4:32:48 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:20:23 PM, Greyparrot wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:13:50 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:13:28 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:13:04 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
Sounds pretty bad. Don't cut, it doesn't help with anything.

Will you be changing your name then?

(too soon?)

Bad-kitty

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PervRat
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4/1/2011 4:35:46 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
There is help.

http://www.crazymeds.us...

I don't cut, but I've been at the verge of rash things because of my depression and anxiety (I think I have some ancient threads on depression and anxiety somewhere in the Health forum, probably a couple years old) and know what its like to know it isn't healthy but be unable to snap my finger and just stop doing it.

Try and get help. I know, especially in the U.S., it is very difficult to get help if you aren't wealthy, a lot of clinics are being closed down and defunded, but there is still some help out there.
Greyparrot
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4/1/2011 4:37:19 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:35:46 PM, PervRat wrote:
There is help.

http://www.crazymeds.us...

I don't cut, but I've been at the verge of rash things because of my depression and anxiety (I think I have some ancient threads on depression and anxiety somewhere in the Health forum, probably a couple years old) and know what its like to know it isn't healthy but be unable to snap my finger and just stop doing it.

Try and get help. I know, especially in the U.S., it is very difficult to get help if you aren't wealthy, a lot of clinics are being closed down and defunded, but there is still some help out there.

If you get arrested, you can get rehab for free.
Thaddeus
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4/1/2011 4:40:22 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:37:19 PM, Greyparrot wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:35:46 PM, PervRat wrote:
There is help.

http://www.crazymeds.us...

I don't cut, but I've been at the verge of rash things because of my depression and anxiety (I think I have some ancient threads on depression and anxiety somewhere in the Health forum, probably a couple years old) and know what its like to know it isn't healthy but be unable to snap my finger and just stop doing it.

Try and get help. I know, especially in the U.S., it is very difficult to get help if you aren't wealthy, a lot of clinics are being closed down and defunded, but there is still some help out there.

If you get arrested, you can get rehab for free.

If you try and get arrested, film the crime, and post it here! Make it a funny one, like burning down someone's house.
Ore_Ele
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4/1/2011 4:45:30 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 4:40:22 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:37:19 PM, Greyparrot wrote:
At 4/1/2011 4:35:46 PM, PervRat wrote:
There is help.

http://www.crazymeds.us...

I don't cut, but I've been at the verge of rash things because of my depression and anxiety (I think I have some ancient threads on depression and anxiety somewhere in the Health forum, probably a couple years old) and know what its like to know it isn't healthy but be unable to snap my finger and just stop doing it.

Try and get help. I know, especially in the U.S., it is very difficult to get help if you aren't wealthy, a lot of clinics are being closed down and defunded, but there is still some help out there.

If you get arrested, you can get rehab for free.

If you try and get arrested, film the crime, and post it here! Make it a funny one, like burning down someone's house.

That's not exactly funny. Burn down someone's dog house (while the dog is not inside), then grab the garden hose while making firetruck sounds and put it out. Do this all while wearing nothing but your underwear and a fireman's helmet.
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Ore_Ele
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4/1/2011 5:05:05 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 5:04:16 PM, nonentity wrote:
At 4/1/2011 5:01:32 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
The stench of April Fools is in the air...

Yah, I wondered that too.

It is highly likely, but given that it is either true or not true, I'm just playing it safe.
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InsertNameHere
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4/1/2011 5:06:29 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 5:05:05 PM, OreEle wrote:
At 4/1/2011 5:04:16 PM, nonentity wrote:
At 4/1/2011 5:01:32 PM, InsertNameHere wrote:
The stench of April Fools is in the air...

Yah, I wondered that too.

It is highly likely, but given that it is either true or not true, I'm just playing it safe.

I know it's not. They had a fight and then made up afterwards. I witnessed it.
PervRat
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4/1/2011 5:09:07 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
I doubt the OP is an AF. My post on the main debate.org forum was, but this sort of thing would be a rather lousy topic to joke about.
nonentity
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4/1/2011 5:10:08 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 5:05:05 PM, OreEle wrote:

It is highly likely, but given that it is either true or not true, I'm just playing it safe.

Yah... it's ingrained in my brain to take any sort of mental illness very seriously. Whatever floats her boat, I guess.
Greyparrot
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4/1/2011 5:10:31 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 5:09:07 PM, PervRat wrote:
I doubt the OP is an AF. My post on the main debate.org forum was, but this sort of thing would be a rather lousy topic to joke about.

Nobody wants to admit they got suckered lol.
nonentity
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4/1/2011 5:11:50 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 5:09:07 PM, PervRat wrote:
I doubt the OP is an AF. My post on the main debate.org forum was, but this sort of thing would be a rather lousy topic to joke about.

This. A friend of mine on FB had all his close friends post on his wall asking for prayers for him because he was in the hospital and might die. Sooo many people posted on his wall like "Omg what happened?" "I'm praying for you. I hope you're okay."

And he came out and said April Fool!

Pretty lame for a Pastor's son.
Ore_Ele
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4/1/2011 5:15:52 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 5:11:50 PM, nonentity wrote:
At 4/1/2011 5:09:07 PM, PervRat wrote:
I doubt the OP is an AF. My post on the main debate.org forum was, but this sort of thing would be a rather lousy topic to joke about.

This. A friend of mine on FB had all his close friends post on his wall asking for prayers for him because he was in the hospital and might die. Sooo many people posted on his wall like "Omg what happened?" "I'm praying for you. I hope you're okay."

And he came out and said April Fool!

Pretty lame for a Pastor's son.

Personally, I don't take the day too seriously. I know some people that are so desperiate to not get fooled that they border on clinical paranoia. Then it is fun to do nothing to them except let them live in their own paranoia.
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Greyparrot
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4/1/2011 5:18:03 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
At 4/1/2011 5:15:52 PM, OreEle wrote:
At 4/1/2011 5:11:50 PM, nonentity wrote:
At 4/1/2011 5:09:07 PM, PervRat wrote:
I doubt the OP is an AF. My post on the main debate.org forum was, but this sort of thing would be a rather lousy topic to joke about.

This. A friend of mine on FB had all his close friends post on his wall asking for prayers for him because he was in the hospital and might die. Sooo many people posted on his wall like "Omg what happened?" "I'm praying for you. I hope you're okay."

And he came out and said April Fool!

Pretty lame for a Pastor's son.

Personally, I don't take the day too seriously. I know some people that are so desperiate to not get fooled that they border on clinical paranoia. Then it is fun to do nothing to them except let them live in their own paranoia.

My philosophy is to continue to suspend disbelief on purpose so that you can laugh at yourself, and reaffirm your place in the cosmic joke.
lovelife
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4/1/2011 5:38:20 PM
Posted: 5 years ago
wow I'm sorry so many took that serious.

We did almost break up because he said I keep changing and stuff. I did cut last night, but I was drunk (the most I ever drank. I normaly take two sips and I'm done. Maybe a shot if I can), and alot of stress, some fighting etc.
Things are kinda bad and it keeps feeling like we will break up but I am sure that we will make it.

If we don't I will try to take the advise given.

I seriously feel kinda bad about that now tho.
Without Royal there is a hole inside of me, I have no choice but to leave