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Justin_Thiel
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1/3/2012 10:14:09 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
Hello, I will become a father this year and would like to hear advice from any of the Dad's on this site. Also, any good book recommendations on being a father or early child development would be greatly appreciated as well.

Thank you for your time and energy.
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1/3/2012 10:56:29 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/3/2012 10:14:09 AM, Justin_Thiel wrote:
Hello, I will become a father this year and would like to hear advice from any of the Dad's on this site. Also, any good book recommendations on being a father or early child development would be greatly appreciated as well.

Thank you for your time and energy.

Bright from the Start is a good, scientifically backed book on giving babies and toddlers what they need to develop cognitivly (lots of brain excersises, no tv, that kind of thing). Our dr. recommended it to me and I recommened it to you.
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1/3/2012 11:29:27 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
Make sure to use corporal punishment.
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1/3/2012 11:53:16 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/3/2012 10:14:09 AM, Justin_Thiel wrote:
Hello, I will become a father this year and would like to hear advice from any of the Dad's on this site. Also, any good book recommendations on being a father or early child development would be greatly appreciated as well.

Thank you for your time and energy.

I used the "What to expect when expecting" book. Its actually really informative. As for advice.....I don't know really.....don't leave it in the pool? Lol honestly babies aren't that difficult. I was actually surprised by how easy becoming a dad was.
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1/3/2012 11:53:57 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
Start associating with others who have kids; it makes taking care of them a lot easier and you'll need the exposure to other parents' situations.
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1/3/2012 12:51:57 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Thank you to those who have responded thus far... I will research some reviews on the book "Bright from the Start". I appreciate the advise.

Any further advice is welcomed and appreciated.
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1/4/2012 11:25:32 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/3/2012 10:14:09 AM, Justin_Thiel wrote:
Hello, I will become a father this year and would like to hear advice from any of the Dad's on this site. Also, any good book recommendations on being a father or early child development would be greatly appreciated as well.

Thank you for your time and energy.

JT, it is very important to establish a routine for your child: eating, bathing and sleeping should be at predictable times for him, and try to read to him every night before he goes to sleep, whenever possible. I also play lullaby music to help my "wild" son settle down.

Also, always carry an extra set of clothing when you leave the house; babies might be small and don't eat a lot, but they can produce an enormous amount of poo that will dirty every article of clothing he is wearing.

You should also expect to be sleep deprived for the first three months, and don't be surprised if your son chooses to urine while you are changing his diaper. And if your lucky like me, you might just get projectile vomit in the face.

In the end, be firm and set boundaries that can never be crossed. As your son grows there are going to be countless power struggles that you have to win.

Congrats and always enjoy the precious time you have with your son.
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1/4/2012 2:00:22 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/4/2012 11:25:32 AM, Chthonian wrote:
At 1/3/2012 10:14:09 AM, Justin_Thiel wrote:
Hello, I will become a father this year and would like to hear advice from any of the Dad's on this site. Also, any good book recommendations on being a father or early child development would be greatly appreciated as well.

Thank you for your time and energy.

JT, it is very important to establish a routine for your child: eating, bathing and sleeping should be at predictable times for him, and try to read to him every night before he goes to sleep, whenever possible. I also play lullaby music to help my "wild" son settle down.

Reading and music are essential. You will learn that in the book I recommended.


Also, always carry an extra set of clothing when you leave the house; babies might be small and don't eat a lot, but they can produce an enormous amount of poo that will dirty every article of clothing he is wearing.

You should also expect to be sleep deprived for the first three months,

I was very lucky to know an unemployeed woman who needed a place to stay when we had our baby. I never had to lose any sleep because of her help. If you know anyone like this, you won't regret letting him or her live with you for free.

and don't be surprised if your son chooses to urine while you are changing his diaper. And if your lucky like me, you might just get projectile vomit in the face.

In the end, be firm and set boundaries that can never be crossed. As your son grows there are going to be countless power struggles that you have to win.

Congrats and always enjoy the precious time you have with your son.

Give it your best shot anyway.
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1/4/2012 11:21:07 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/3/2012 11:29:27 AM, Lordknukle wrote:
Make sure to use corporal punishment.

I am laughing, lol.............lol..................lol. ok I'm done laughing, *giggle*. ok that's it, but yeah that seems to work.
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1/5/2012 12:52:23 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/4/2012 11:10:09 PM, Rockylightning wrote:
Never use violence, but that does not mean to not be assertive.


By the way, I know it's you Tiel.

lol
whats bad about violence :D
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1/5/2012 1:27:56 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/4/2012 11:10:09 PM, Rockylightning wrote:
Never use violence, but that does not mean to not be assertive.


By the way, I know it's you Tiel.

Yeah this makes sense. A new member does not just make an account and immediately ask an unknown debate community for advice. lol
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1/5/2012 7:56:00 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Do not ever let a child win an argument, Once you give in it's all over.
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

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1/5/2012 9:12:14 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Also get some carpet. Otherwise you're going to need to give your little one full football gear when it comes to walking.
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1/9/2012 11:32:03 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/4/2012 11:25:32 AM, Chthonian wrote:
At 1/3/2012 10:14:09 AM, Justin_Thiel wrote:
Hello, I will become a father this year and would like to hear advice from any of the Dad's on this site. Also, any good book recommendations on being a father or early child development would be greatly appreciated as well.

Thank you for your time and energy.

JT, it is very important to establish a routine for your child: eating, bathing and sleeping should be at predictable times for him, and try to read to him every night before he goes to sleep, whenever possible. I also play lullaby music to help my "wild" son settle down.

Also, always carry an extra set of clothing when you leave the house; babies might be small and don't eat a lot, but they can produce an enormous amount of poo that will dirty every article of clothing he is wearing.

You should also expect to be sleep deprived for the first three months, and don't be surprised if your son chooses to urine while you are changing his diaper. And if your lucky like me, you might just get projectile vomit in the face.

In the end, be firm and set boundaries that can never be crossed. As your son grows there are going to be countless power struggles that you have to win.

Congrats and always enjoy the precious time you have with your son.

Thank you very much! Yours words are very helpful!
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1/18/2012 12:40:10 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
My advice is that you should keep in mind that, when you are at your most stressed, your most tired, remember that this 'stage' will pass. Typically the first week or three are pretty bad because your baby will keep you up. You will lack sleep and you will be attempting your best to interpret your baby's cries.

It will pass, keep that in mind whenever you feel too over your head.
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1/18/2012 3:18:21 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/5/2012 7:56:00 PM, sadolite wrote:
Do not ever let a child win an argument, Once you give in it's all over.

You often lose arguments with children?
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1/20/2012 10:39:57 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
love your wife, forgive your wife, honour your wife, the best gift you can ever give your kids is a stable family.
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1/20/2012 1:06:49 PM
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Now I know most(all) of my advice this forum consists of burning people's houses down, but on this I have more; always consider what is the most loving action regarding your child, rather than what they might want most, teach them a strong moral code, and forgive them readily so that when they inevitably rebel against you, they do not feel that they are unreconcilably alienated from. Raise them to be the person that on your best days you wish you were. And once you have done all of this, and he is now a man;
Burn his house down.
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1/20/2012 5:36:43 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/20/2012 1:06:49 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
Now I know most(all) of my advice this forum consists of burning people's houses down, but on this I have more; always consider what is the most loving action regarding your child, rather than what they might want most, teach them a strong moral code, and forgive them readily so that when they inevitably rebel against you, they do not feel that they are unreconcilably alienated from. Raise them to be the person that on your best days you wish you were. And once you have done all of this, and he is now a man;
Burn his house down.

I had a rough and unforgiving father. My childhood was marked by considerable stress which I bear to this day. I think it's important to remember how much meaning one's negativity can influence one's child. I try to always be by childs friend. When he rebels a part of me will be proud in spite of my frustration. I'll remember the lines from a great Bad Religion song

It's our nature to be
adversarial and free
Our evolution didn't hinge on passivity
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1/20/2012 10:06:12 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Congrats! I advise you pay close attention to the language used by your offspring, it can prove crucial to ensuring the survival of you and your progeny. Try teaching your offspring several languages but I advise you start at the age of six to seven, please make sure the language isn't French or Spanish, try Russian, Mandarin, Mongolian, German, Japanese, or Swahili. Also make sure your child is well versed in the art of war and understands basic military/civil engineering concepts. Ensure that your offspring has funds and assets set aside directly for him/her to benefit from upon reaching adulthood. Teach your offspring combat skills and basic psychology.

And as always, make sure your child has fun while doing it.
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1/21/2012 6:10:02 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/18/2012 3:18:21 PM, vbaculum wrote:
At 1/5/2012 7:56:00 PM, sadolite wrote:
Do not ever let a child win an argument, Once you give in it's all over.

You often lose arguments with children?

You don't have children, it's obvious.
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

If liberal democrats would just stop shooting people gun violence would drop by 90%
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1/21/2012 10:56:23 PM
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At 1/5/2012 7:56:00 PM, sadolite wrote:
Do not ever let a child win an argument, Once you give in it's all over.

My parents adhere to this view way too much. It doesn't make me see them as authoritative or more legitimate somehow, it just makes them look like a little kid unwilling to admit when they're wrong.
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1/22/2012 10:04:32 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/21/2012 10:56:23 PM, socialpinko wrote:
At 1/5/2012 7:56:00 PM, sadolite wrote:
Do not ever let a child win an argument, Once you give in it's all over.

My parents adhere to this view way too much. It doesn't make me see them as authoritative or more legitimate somehow, it just makes them look like a little kid unwilling to admit when they're wrong.

Case in point. You can be right when you move out and pay your own way. You, the child calling the parent the little kid. LOL
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

If liberal democrats would just stop shooting people gun violence would drop by 90%
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1/23/2012 12:03:33 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
You're too young to be a father!

I can't believe we live in a society where 30-year-olds are having kids and are not even ashamed... and people are supporting this!
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1/23/2012 12:07:34 AM
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At 1/22/2012 10:04:32 PM, sadolite wrote:
At 1/21/2012 10:56:23 PM, socialpinko wrote:
At 1/5/2012 7:56:00 PM, sadolite wrote:
Do not ever let a child win an argument, Once you give in it's all over.

My parents adhere to this view way too much. It doesn't make me see them as authoritative or more legitimate somehow, it just makes them look like a little kid unwilling to admit when they're wrong.


Case in point. You can be right when you move out and pay your own way. You, the child calling the parent the little kid. LOL

Said the adult with the debate record of a 17.39% win ratio, on a site containing "children", stating that the child should never win the argument.
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1/23/2012 12:19:42 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 1/23/2012 12:03:33 AM, jimtimmy wrote:
You're too young to be a father!

I can't believe we live in a society where 30-year-olds are having kids and are not even ashamed... and people are supporting this!

30 years old is perfectly fine to have a kid....
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