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Charles0103
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3/9/2012 10:06:14 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
So, as you may or may not know, I just had a serious breakup with my exgirlfriend. (You can read about the backstory on my "someone PLEASE tell me what to do" thread).

We officially broke up last night, and it hurts. She doesn't care about me at all anymore, and I miss her so bad.. She was my first love, my first kiss, and the first person that really understood me.

So, people of DDO, I'm turning myself over to you for advice. What are some positive ways to move on? I feel like she was "the one," and that I'll never find anybody better than her... What do I do?
"And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened." Jesus in Luke 11:9-10
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3/9/2012 10:15:06 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
Burn her house down. Therapeutic and fun! It doesn't matter if you are 8 or 98. The Thaddeus River Arsonist kit is guaranteed to solve all your personal problems!
Charles0103
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3/9/2012 10:19:58 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:15:06 AM, Thaddeus wrote:
Burn her house down. Therapeutic and fun! It doesn't matter if you are 8 or 98. The Thaddeus River Arsonist kit is guaranteed to solve all your personal problems!

*facepalm* Haha, thanks thaddeus. XD
"And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened." Jesus in Luke 11:9-10
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3/9/2012 10:22:45 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:06:14 AM, Charles0103 wrote:
So, as you may or may not know, I just had a serious breakup with my exgirlfriend. (You can read about the backstory on my "someone PLEASE tell me what to do" thread).

We officially broke up last night, and it hurts. She doesn't care about me at all anymore, and I miss her so bad.. She was my first love, my first kiss, and the first person that really understood me.

So, people of DDO, I'm turning myself over to you for advice. What are some positive ways to move on? I feel like she was "the one," and that I'll never find anybody better than her... What do I do?

You're fifteen. Ultimately, if she were "the one" and you're to have no one else in the world, you'd hate your life by the time you made it to college.

Seriously; get over it. You attend school -- eventually, you will be at a time in your life when you will no longer daily attend a place that's filled with majority women that spend all their time thinking about the opposite sex as much as you do, ever again.

The sooner you get over it and forget about it, the less you will regret. Promise.
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3/9/2012 10:28:50 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
Get High for about 72 hours straight, and within that time period drink about 3 bottles of Vodka. That should erase your memory of her..
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3/9/2012 11:10:01 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:32:08 AM, innomen wrote:
You never get over the first...never.

True sh!t. I spend half my days trying to marry my lesbian friend, just because she reminds me of my first love.
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3/9/2012 11:19:19 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:32:08 AM, innomen wrote:
You never get over the first...never.

OK that's a rather grimm picture to paint for the chap.

You'll be heartbroken pretty bad for a week, feel kind of bad for another week or two, then be pretty much fine. After a month you won't even really care. Innomen is merely trying to illustrate a fanciful wonderment of the past in a poetic sense, the emotional ties will be severed in a short period of time. Sometimes you may look back and wonder but it is overwhelmingly more likely that you are going to watch this chick downward spiral in her f*cked up life over the next decade and you'll just feel bad for her. Right now your spirits are both in the same place - they are very close together and that hurts. But you will both grow away from this place in different directions until you are both almost alien to each other. That's just what happens :(
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3/9/2012 11:52:20 AM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:32:08 AM, innomen wrote:
You never get over the first...never.

This is true for some people, but not all. I ended it with my 1st love when I was only a couple years older than you, and I most certainly DID get over him. I didn't think I ever would, but it got easier & easier to think about him until one day (maybe a yr later), I realized that I didn't need him at all.
The quality of love is what is important, not the order it came in. Next year, you may meet someone who loves you alot better, and THAT person may be the one you never get over.
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3/9/2012 12:09:53 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:06:14 AM, Charles0103 wrote:

We officially broke up last night, and it hurts. She doesn't care about me at all anymore, and I miss her so bad.. She was my first love, my first kiss, and the first person that really understood me.

So, people of DDO, I'm turning myself over to you for advice. What are some positive ways to move on? I feel like she was "the one," and that I'll never find anybody better than her... What do I do?

It is very painful to lose anyone close, but it may be your best interest to give her some space for awhile so she can work through her own issues. Maybe your opinions will prove justified and the story will end there, or maybe she will come to re-evaluate her feelings toward you in time.
Either way, if she really understood you, but doesn't care about you or want you, then you most certainly will find someone better. Once things calm down, you will be able to logically assess your feelings and come to the conclusion that you would rather be with someone that understands you and DOES want to be with you.
When you love someone, you must always be prepared to let them go.
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3/9/2012 12:34:40 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Thanks to everybody for all of the suggestions and kind words.
It'll take some time, but I'll move on. It just still hurts, and I guess it will for a while...
"And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened." Jesus in Luke 11:9-10
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3/9/2012 3:26:17 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 12:34:40 PM, Charles0103 wrote:
Thanks to everybody for all of the suggestions and kind words.
It'll take some time, but I'll move on. It just still hurts, and I guess it will for a while...:

I don't envy your position. At your age that sh*t hurts bad, I remember. But with time you'll become a cold, heartless bastard like me, where it becomes difficult to have compassion for anything or anyone.

Hmmm... methinks I have an interesting topic to start.

Good luck, brother. I know it hurts, but it will end one day.
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3/11/2012 4:02:02 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:06:14 AM, Charles0103 wrote:
So, as you may or may not know, I just had a serious breakup with my exgirlfriend. (You can read about the backstory on my "someone PLEASE tell me what to do" thread).

We officially broke up last night, and it hurts. She doesn't care about me at all anymore, and I miss her so bad.. She was my first love, my first kiss, and the first person that really understood me.

So, people of DDO, I'm turning myself over to you for advice. What are some positive ways to move on? I feel like she was "the one," and that I'll never find anybody better than her... What do I do?

That's easy, get a new girlfriend
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3/11/2012 4:03:17 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:32:08 AM, innomen wrote:
You never get over the first...never.

Uh I did, you can have her
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

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3/12/2012 3:46:00 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:06:14 AM, Charles0103 wrote:
So, as you may or may not know, I just had a serious breakup with my exgirlfriend. (You can read about the backstory on my "someone PLEASE tell me what to do" thread).

We officially broke up last night, and it hurts. She doesn't care about me at all anymore, and I miss her so bad.. She was my first love, my first kiss, and the first person that really understood me.

So, people of DDO, I'm turning myself over to you for advice. What are some positive ways to move on? I feel like she was "the one," and that I'll never find anybody better than her... What do I do?

It took me two years to get over my first love. Hahahaha

Hint: DO NOT. I REPEAT. DO NOT LOOK AT HER FACEBOOK PROFILE. All you're gonna see is the BEST pictures of her and none of the worst. Not just that but you'll probably only see people telling her how much they love her or how great she is or whatever and that's not going to help you. So you gotta keep things in perspective. She was probably REALLY great. Beautiful, funny, caring. But she wasn't that great. She probably had flaws and you've got to notice all of them.

So don't make her out to be a goddess. But don't do the opposite and make her out to be the devil. She's just a girl. She's got good, and she's got bad.

Ultimately, realize that you're 15 and you're dealing with raging hormones that are going to amplify your emotions by like x10. So keep that in mind as well.

Hope that helps :)
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3/12/2012 3:58:27 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Repeat this mantra to yourself:

"Fvck the bullsh!t"

Trust me, it works.
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3/14/2012 10:22:50 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Stop believing "the one" and "soulmates" exist. Makes it relatively easy to get over exes. Break-ups shatter your world and blow your mind significantly less.
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3/15/2012 3:10:53 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
1. Be Kind to Yourself
2. Make a List of Her Most Annoying Traits
3. Cut Off All Contact
4. Get Quality Female Attention
5. Obliterate All Traces
6. Take a Trip
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3/15/2012 7:34:36 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/15/2012 6:27:50 PM, Thaddeus wrote:
I don't know if anyone has suggested burning her house down yet?

Several times.
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3/25/2012 11:45:23 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
If the relationship ended badly or had a lot of problems.. it shouldn't be too hard to get over the person. It was hard for me to get over my first love... he was my longest relationship for about 2 years, my escort in my Sweet 16, and the guy I lost my virginity too.. I'm over him because we had a messed up relationship and with someone who makes me happy. We've been together almost 10 months but it'll be a year since the breakup tomorrow and for some reason I'm still not over all the pain, trust issues, and emotional damage I dealth with in that relationship.. :/ I think deep down you'll always feel something for your first love because it was special and you'll wish things would've worked out but eventually time goes on and you have to just go on with it... if it's meant to be it'll find it's way, if not, then don't dwell on it.
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3/25/2012 11:51:31 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Also, I forgot to mention something EXTREMELY important. Don't let losing your first love make you feel incomplete or like you need to move on right away. That does NOT help. If you like someone and you're READY to pursue a new relationship then go for it. If it doesn't work out, don't let it get you down. And also, do NOT become one of those guys who gets their heart broken and feels like he has to toy with other girls' hearts to make himself feel better. NO DECENT GIRL LIKES A PLAYER. Like I mentioned before, in if it's meant to be it'll find it's way. Who knows, some times things have to fall apart for things to fall into place. Try to think of every breakup as one step closer to finding Ms. Right :) message me on here if you EVER need relationship advice, I'm only 18 but I'm like a love guru I swear. I give great advice on different things too lol :)
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3/26/2012 7:59:09 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/25/2012 11:51:31 PM, destttt_b wrote:
Also, I forgot to mention something EXTREMELY important. Don't let losing your first love make you feel incomplete or like you need to move on right away. That does NOT help. If you like someone and you're READY to pursue a new relationship then go for it. If it doesn't work out, don't let it get you down. And also, do NOT become one of those guys who gets their heart broken and feels like he has to toy with other girls' hearts to make himself feel better. NO SMART GIRL LIKES A PLAYER. Like I mentioned before, in if it's meant to be it'll find it's way. Who knows, some times things have to fall apart for things to fall into place. Try to think of every breakup as one step closer to finding Ms. Right :) message me on here if you EVER need relationship advice, I'm only 18 but I'm like a love guru I swear. I give great advice on different things too lol :)

fixed :)
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3/26/2012 8:57:34 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/26/2012 7:59:09 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 3/25/2012 11:51:31 PM, destttt_b wrote:
Also, I forgot to mention something EXTREMELY important. Don't let losing your first love make you feel incomplete or like you need to move on right away. That does NOT help. If you like someone and you're READY to pursue a new relationship then go for it. If it doesn't work out, don't let it get you down. And also, do NOT become one of those guys who gets their heart broken and feels like he has to toy with other girls' hearts to make himself feel better. NO SMART GIRL LIKES A PLAYER. Like I mentioned before, in if it's meant to be it'll find it's way. Who knows, some times things have to fall apart for things to fall into place. Try to think of every breakup as one step closer to finding Ms. Right :) message me on here if you EVER need relationship advice, I'm only 18 but I'm like a love guru I swear. I give great advice on different things too lol :)

fixed :)

lol touche my friend, touche. It takes a few times for a girl to get screwed over before she realizes what kind of qualities actually mean something in a man.
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3/26/2012 11:32:12 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:06:14 AM, Charles0103 wrote:
So, as you may or may not know, I just had a serious breakup with my exgirlfriend. (You can read about the backstory on my "someone PLEASE tell me what to do" thread).

We officially broke up last night, and it hurts. She doesn't care about me at all anymore, and I miss her so bad.. She was my first love, my first kiss, and the first person that really understood me.

So, people of DDO, I'm turning myself over to you for advice. What are some positive ways to move on? I feel like she was "the one," and that I'll never find anybody better than her... What do I do?

Haven't read what anyone else said but I can give you some good general advise:
1: Start working out: Exercise releases endorphins and seratonin into your brain. It seriously helps you feel better.
2: Distract yourself by doing things that you like doing; gaming, going out and drinking (they're my two, but whatever).
3: Read "The Game" by Neil Strauss.
4: Move on.
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3/26/2012 11:34:15 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 3/9/2012 10:32:08 AM, innomen wrote:
You never get over the first...never.

I disagree.
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