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WriterSelbe
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4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?
drafterman
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4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?
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4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.
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4/30/2012 6:50:01 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.

Then I'd be creeped out, as an emotional response. Couldn't say if it was justified, though.
WriterSelbe
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4/30/2012 6:51:17 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:50:01 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.

Then I'd be creeped out, as an emotional response. Couldn't say if it was justified, though.

Ah. Thanks. I'll just wait 'til the next tournament to talk to him.
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4/30/2012 6:53:54 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:51:17 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:50:01 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.

Then I'd be creeped out, as an emotional response. Couldn't say if it was justified, though.

Ah. Thanks. I'll just wait 'til the next tournament to talk to him.

Don't be creeped out. Nerds are well-intentioned, no reason for alarm.
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4/30/2012 6:56:16 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:53:54 PM, OMGJustinBieber wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:51:17 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:50:01 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.

Then I'd be creeped out, as an emotional response. Couldn't say if it was justified, though.

Ah. Thanks. I'll just wait 'til the next tournament to talk to him.

Don't be creeped out. Nerds are well-intentioned, no reason for alarm.

Well, I'm just wondering if HE would be creeped out. Because if he got creeped out, that would ruin everything. Even if he isn't rightfully creeped out, he could be creeped out.

I really want to talk to him because I won't see him again until next schoolyear otherwise, sometime in the fall because that's when tournaments start...
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4/30/2012 6:58:07 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:53:54 PM, OMGJustinBieber wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:51:17 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:50:01 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.

Then I'd be creeped out, as an emotional response. Couldn't say if it was justified, though.

Ah. Thanks. I'll just wait 'til the next tournament to talk to him.

Don't be creeped out. Nerds are well-intentioned, no reason for alarm.

Well, I think the problem is, if they are normally socially iffy, then it's hard to distinguish between the well-intentioned nerd and the creeper.

@Writer:

I didn't realize the flow of information here. You're texting him? You're a girl. Go for it.
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4/30/2012 6:59:15 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:56:16 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:53:54 PM, OMGJustinBieber wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:51:17 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:50:01 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.

Then I'd be creeped out, as an emotional response. Couldn't say if it was justified, though.

Ah. Thanks. I'll just wait 'til the next tournament to talk to him.

Don't be creeped out. Nerds are well-intentioned, no reason for alarm.

Well, I'm just wondering if HE would be creeped out. Because if he got creeped out, that would ruin everything. Even if he isn't rightfully creeped out, he could be creeped out.

I really want to talk to him because I won't see him again until next schoolyear otherwise, sometime in the fall because that's when tournaments start...

I wouldn't worry about creeping him out. If you're interested text him back.
WriterSelbe
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4/30/2012 7:00:26 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:58:07 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:53:54 PM, OMGJustinBieber wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:51:17 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:50:01 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:45:33 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:44:15 PM, drafterman wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

Are they a girl or a guy?

Guy. But they're socially iffy, dorky, and they do debate, too.

Then I'd be creeped out, as an emotional response. Couldn't say if it was justified, though.

Ah. Thanks. I'll just wait 'til the next tournament to talk to him.

Don't be creeped out. Nerds are well-intentioned, no reason for alarm.

Well, I think the problem is, if they are normally socially iffy, then it's hard to distinguish between the well-intentioned nerd and the creeper.

@Writer:

I didn't realize the flow of information here. You're texting him? You're a girl. Go for it.

No... I'm not texting him. I don't have his number. But he's on Google Plus, and I could follow him. Also, he lives hours away from me. That's why I want to message him so bad.
WriterSelbe
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4/30/2012 7:02:50 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
I think there's miscommunication here:

I met this guy at a tournament. We've talked twice. The likelihood he knows my name is slim. He's very out there, not many people like him, and he lives hours away from me. I never got his number from him.

If I don't message him on some web service or something, I can't talk to him because he's so far away and I didn't get his number. He hasn't text me.
drafterman
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4/30/2012 7:08:10 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Then send him a message or whatever. If he's creeped out, so what? You can't control how other people are going to react to you.
WriterSelbe
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4/30/2012 7:13:29 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 7:08:10 PM, drafterman wrote:
Then send him a message or whatever. If he's creeped out, so what? You can't control how other people are going to react to you.

Words of wisdom. Thanks. I think I will.
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5/1/2012 7:29:48 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

How would you rather him have approached you - considering he obviously wants to chat? Creeped out or flattered? I think you're really limiting yourself to the extremes here. Maybe try interested or curious.
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5/1/2012 9:48:21 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 5/1/2012 7:29:48 PM, CrazyPerson wrote:
At 4/30/2012 6:39:05 PM, WriterSelbe wrote:
If you didn't remember someone and you'd only spoken once or twice, and they messaged you saying, "Hi," and something along the lines of, "you don't remember me, but," and other random stuff, and they wanted to talk to you, would you be creeped or flattered?

How would you rather him have approached you - considering he obviously wants to chat? Creeped out or flattered? I think you're really limiting yourself to the extremes here. Maybe try interested or curious.

I just want him to not be creeped out. I don't want him to decide to not talk to me or something and never talk to me at another tournament.