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The introverts dilemma

westernmarch
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6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.

INB4 " THE '4th' approach"
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bossyburrito
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6/2/2012 3:05:59 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
Depends on the kind of gal.
Also,Inb4 Burn her house down
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Get caught in ticking traps
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6/2/2012 3:11:10 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 3:05:59 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
Depends on the kind of gal.
Also,Inb4 Burn her house down

I don't know. I know she is social butterfly and is pretty smart.
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bossyburrito
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6/2/2012 3:15:58 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 3:11:10 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 3:05:59 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
Depends on the kind of gal.
Also,Inb4 Burn her house down

I don't know. I know she is social butterfly and is pretty smart.

It all depends on how comfortable you are talking to people. Assuming that you are an introvert, DO NOT try too hard. Just try to be friends and get to know her first.
#UnbanTheMadman

"Some will sell their dreams for small desires
Or lose the race to rats
Get caught in ticking traps
And start to dream of somewhere
To relax their restless flight
Somewhere out of a memory of lighted streets on quiet nights..."

~ Rush
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6/2/2012 3:16:13 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 3:11:45 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 3:05:59 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
Depends on the kind of gal.
Also,Inb4 Burn her house down


lol how did this start?

Cave Johnson.
#UnbanTheMadman

"Some will sell their dreams for small desires
Or lose the race to rats
Get caught in ticking traps
And start to dream of somewhere
To relax their restless flight
Somewhere out of a memory of lighted streets on quiet nights..."

~ Rush
westernmarch
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6/2/2012 3:17:02 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 3:15:58 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
At 6/2/2012 3:11:10 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 3:05:59 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
Depends on the kind of gal.
Also,Inb4 Burn her house down

I don't know. I know she is social butterfly and is pretty smart.

It all depends on how comfortable you are talking to people. Assuming that you are an introvert with aspergers, DO NOT try too hard. Just try to be friends and get to know her first.

FTFY
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6/2/2012 3:17:11 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 3:11:45 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 3:05:59 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
Depends on the kind of gal.
Also,Inb4 Burn her house down


lol how did this start?

The great sky pirate, Thaddeus, imparted this sage wisdom to apply to all situations of our daily lives.
Think'st thou heaven is such a glorious thing?
I tell thee, 'tis not half so fair as thou
Or any man that breathes on earth.

- Christopher Marlowe, Doctor Faustus
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6/2/2012 3:19:26 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 3:17:11 PM, DetectableNinja wrote:
At 6/2/2012 3:11:45 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 3:05:59 PM, bossyburrito wrote:
Depends on the kind of gal.
Also,Inb4 Burn her house down


lol how did this start?

The great sky pirate, Thaddeus, imparted this sage wisdom to apply to all situations of our daily lives.

anyone else have a sliver tongue like Thad?
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6/2/2012 3:37:05 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.

INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

I'm going to be honest with you, reformed-Introvert to Introvert.

She's a social butterfly, and you're an introvert. Don't waste your time. The fact that you have a crush on her is meaningless, because plenty of other guys probably do too, and you're better off shaking off the hallucination that you're going to get anywhere with her unless you ranked a little higher in the social ladder.

The best that could possibly happen is that you would end up that "kid" she talks to when no one else is around, who she never invites or introduces to her other friends.

What's best for you is for you to scope out the other introverts and try to be friendly with them. They're starved for attention and if you play your cards right, you could be the center of a modest social circle too.
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6/2/2012 4:01:44 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 3:37:05 PM, Kleptin wrote:
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.

INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

I'm going to be honest with you, reformed-Introvert to Introvert.

She's a social butterfly, and you're an introvert. Don't waste your time. The fact that you have a crush on her is meaningless, because plenty of other guys probably do too, and you're better off shaking off the hallucination that you're going to get anywhere with her unless you ranked a little higher in the social ladder.

The best that could possibly happen is that you would end up that "kid" she talks to when no one else is around, who she never invites or introduces to her other friends.

What's best for you is for you to scope out the other introverts and try to be friendly with them. They're starved for attention and if you play your cards right, you could be the center of a modest social circle too.

kfc
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6/2/2012 5:23:08 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:12:48 PM, royalpaladin wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:11:48 PM, Ren wrote:
What would you do if she were male?

Bingo

Damn Royal give me some advice. Your a classy girl, right?
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Oryus
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6/2/2012 5:24:11 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.


INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

No shortcut. Talk to her. Be nice.

End advice.
: : :Tulle: The fool, I purposely don't engage with you because you don't have proper command of the English language.
: :
: : The Fool: It's my English writing. Either way It's okay have a larger vocabulary then you, and a better grasp of language, and you're a woman.
:
: I'm just going to leave this precious struggle nugget right here.
royalpaladin
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6/2/2012 5:24:37 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:23:08 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:12:48 PM, royalpaladin wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:11:48 PM, Ren wrote:
What would you do if she were male?

Bingo

Damn Royal give me some advice. Your a classy girl, right?

Treat her like you would treat your sibling/best friend . . .

I don't know why I have to say this every time a thread like this pops up.
westernmarch
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6/2/2012 5:28:10 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:24:11 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.


INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

No shortcut. Talk to her. Be nice.

End advice.

How do I start a conversation?
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royalpaladin
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6/2/2012 5:29:46 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:28:10 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:24:11 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.


INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

No shortcut. Talk to her. Be nice.

End advice.

How do I start a conversation?

Walk up to her, smile, say "Hi!", and introduce yourself.
royalpaladin
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6/2/2012 5:30:22 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:29:42 PM, westernmarch wrote:
Is it bad she knows I like her?

How can you like someone without actually talking to them/knowing them? :(
Oryus
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6/2/2012 5:33:15 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:28:10 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:24:11 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.


INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

No shortcut. Talk to her. Be nice.

End advice.

How do I start a conversation?

Sigh.

A compliment. Small talk. A question. A comment about a common grievance. Light-hearted gossip.

"Wanna hear a funny story?"

"Have any plans this weekend?"

"What are your top 5 favorite musicians?"

ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. KFC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC. ETC.
: : :Tulle: The fool, I purposely don't engage with you because you don't have proper command of the English language.
: :
: : The Fool: It's my English writing. Either way It's okay have a larger vocabulary then you, and a better grasp of language, and you're a woman.
:
: I'm just going to leave this precious struggle nugget right here.
westernmarch
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6/2/2012 5:34:04 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:29:46 PM, royalpaladin wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:28:10 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:24:11 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.


INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

No shortcut. Talk to her. Be nice.

End advice.

How do I start a conversation?

Walk up to her, smile, say "Hi!", and introduce yourself.

No she knows me.

@ Royal, a Mutual Friend told her.
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Oryus
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6/2/2012 5:35:26 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:29:42 PM, westernmarch wrote:
Is it bad she knows I like her?

Does she?
: : :Tulle: The fool, I purposely don't engage with you because you don't have proper command of the English language.
: :
: : The Fool: It's my English writing. Either way It's okay have a larger vocabulary then you, and a better grasp of language, and you're a woman.
:
: I'm just going to leave this precious struggle nugget right here.
royalpaladin
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6/2/2012 5:36:03 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:34:04 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:29:46 PM, royalpaladin wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:28:10 PM, westernmarch wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:24:11 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/2/2012 2:57:24 PM, westernmarch wrote:
I have a crush on a girl in my gym class. I want to at least be good friends but i am not good with talking or anything like that. She is always with her friends. What should I do.


INB4 " THE '4th' approach"

No shortcut. Talk to her. Be nice.

End advice.

How do I start a conversation?

Walk up to her, smile, say "Hi!", and introduce yourself.

No she knows me.

Well, just talk about an experience that you will randomly share with her.
@ Royal, a Mutual Friend told her.
Your friend screwed you over, lol. Is this girl arrogant?
royalpaladin
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6/2/2012 5:36:42 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
I still don't understand how you like her if you have never even talked to her and you don't know what she is like. Personality is so much more important than looks are.
westernmarch
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6/2/2012 5:37:46 PM
Posted: 4 years ago
At 6/2/2012 5:35:26 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/2/2012 5:29:42 PM, westernmarch wrote:
Is it bad she knows I like her?

Does she?

She does. She laughed.

@ Royal I do think so. She doesn't seem arrogant
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