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1/21/2013 6:55:08 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
This is a thread for people to share stories of nice things that have been done for them, nice things they have done for others, or just random acts of kindness.

I'll start :)

So I've had a miserable month or so (see Cheating thread and connect the dots lol) and especially a miserable last few days. I feel sh!tty about drama I caused over a debate, I'm currently running on 2 hours of sleep, and on my way to work I gave a guy the finger for following me too closely, then honking at me, then flashing his high beams in my face.

I was a ball of negativity and prepared to have a sh!tty day.

So I'm sitting alone at McDonald's and the guy at the table next to me starts talking to me. We exchange a few words and then I was back in my own world. As I was getting up to leave, he said "Have a nice day". He will never know how hard I smiled as I walked to work.

I used to do random things, like pay for the drive thru order of the person after me, but it's been a while. Please share your acts of kindness stories, it may give someone hope :)
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1/21/2013 11:42:02 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
This is a nice thread, it brought to mind one of my favorit stories, of how a small act of kindness actually saved some ones life. As I was looking online for the story, I actually found the story written by the one who did the act.

Here it is, it really brought a tear to my eyes

Now this is one POWERFUL story-

"One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle.

It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.

They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt.

His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him"

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.

As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks."

They really should get lives.

He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!"

There was a big smile on his face.

It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.

As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before..

He said he had gone to private school before now.

I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.

We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.

He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.

I asked him if he wanted to play a little football

with my friends . He said yes.

We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!

He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends..

When we were seniors we began to think about college.

Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem.

He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship.Kyle was valedictorian of our class.

I teased him all the time about being a nerd.

He had to prepare a speech for graduation.

I was so glad it wasn"t me having to get up there and speak.

Graduation day, I saw Kyle.

He looked great.

He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.

He filled out and actually looked good in glasses.

He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.

Boy, sometimes I was jealous!

Today was one of those days.

I could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you"ll be great!"

He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. " Thanks," he said.

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began

"Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years.

Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach"but mostly your friends".

I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story."

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the

first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.

He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn"t have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.

He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.

"Thankfully, I was saved.

My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.."

I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.

I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.

Not until that moment did I realize it"s depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions..

With one small gesture you can change a person"s life.

For better or for worse.

God puts us all in each others lives to impact one another in some way."

Wow" I am speechless-

http://imranrahman.com...

I've heard several versions of the story, (though admitedly not 1st hand accounts), So I believe that somthing like this may have happened more than once.
I cannot write in English, because of the treacherous spelling. When I am reading, I only hear it and am unable to remember what the written word looks like."
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1/21/2013 12:03:13 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
@devilsadvocate---thanks for sharing! Even if the story is an urban legend, I'm sure variations of it happen everyday.
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1/21/2013 1:03:57 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
There is a guy i know that was in my English class in High School. He knew one of my friends and came to hang out with us. To be honest, at first, his presence made me a bit uncomfortable because he was loud, didn't have many friends and was wearing a somewhat dirty clothes, and talked about astronomy-related topics all the time. He was weird!

Second time he came to sit with us at launch, i got up and left to the other table with my other friends. So, the following year he was put in my Art class. He said hi to me and asked if he can sit on the seat next to me. He would always say hi to me...and some of my friends would tease me about it. LOL some of my friends can be real jerks.

As days went by, i started to get to know him little by little...i stopped caring about what anyone thought anymore. Turns out, this guy's parents are schizophreniac, they all live in their grandma's house, and he also has a degree of schizophrenia and constantly takes medication...and a bunch of other health problems. He is also homosexual which is another reason he was picked on a lot.

So one day, i am sitting there and this friend of mine Austin starts picking on him for the way he looks, things he does, etc. I stood up, walked up to Austin and told him to shut up. We got in a little argument and after an explanation...Austin apologized.

-) He thanked me a lot and said i am a good person.
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1/21/2013 1:34:08 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
Great idea for a thread!

So sorry you had a rough month, tulle... I didn't realize the Cheating thread was inspired by events in your personal life... :/

This isn't really a story of a stranger's good deed... But I like it anyway :)

A few years back when my boyfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all my friends had left to visit family for winter break but I had to stay in town and work xmas eve and xmas. My boyfriend also had left. I was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks so I went downtown to do a little xmas shopping for my mom. My boyfriend was texting me from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" yadda yadda. So I told him I was at the outdoors-ey store looking for a good hat for my mom. About five minutes later someone tapped me on the shoulder. I turned around and it was him with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out he was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner he was going to make me. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. He knew I was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.
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1/21/2013 2:13:37 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 12:04:42 PM, tulle wrote:
Givesmehope.com has lots of stories, for those who need their faith in humanity restored.

http://www.cracked.com...
6-true-stories-that-will-restore-your-faith-in-humanity
I cannot write in English, because of the treacherous spelling. When I am reading, I only hear it and am unable to remember what the written word looks like."
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1/21/2013 2:18:27 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 2:13:37 PM, 1Devilsadvocate wrote:
At 1/21/2013 12:04:42 PM, tulle wrote:
Givesmehope.com has lots of stories, for those who need their faith in humanity restored.

http://www.cracked.com...
6-true-stories-that-will-restore-your-faith-in-humanity

http://www.buzzfeed.com...
pictures-that-will-restore-your-faith-in-humanity
(I don't get #5, but the rest are really nice.)
I cannot write in English, because of the treacherous spelling. When I am reading, I only hear it and am unable to remember what the written word looks like."
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1/21/2013 2:26:55 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
Although this doesn't end well, or really all that badly.... when I was a kid growing up there was another kid named Anthony Collins. Anthony was different. He had a high pitched voice, he spent his early years in England, so he had a slight accent, was as white as a ghost and a bit frail looking. Anthony was the target of incredible torment, beyond bullying, but a life of horrible and constant hurt by other kids. No one ever stood up for him and big kids would whale on this kid, and little kids would just throw stuff at him. He was abused ever moment of his life in school, and when as a sophomore in high school he was taken to a mental institution because he developed legitimate paranoia. There were only rumors about this kid and what he ended up like.

To my side, I never really participated in hurting him and secretly felt really sorry for him, but only secretly. I have great shame that I never stood up for him, or even offered him a kind word and my entire adult life has been spent wondering about him and feeling so ashamed at not lifting a finger in his defense. I was a big kid and could take care of myself, but I was a loner kind of kid, and just didn't involve myself much. I wonder about the kids that really beat the shice out of him, and if they ever give a thought about what they did to this individual.

I will say that I have spent much time trying to track this person down, but to no success. However, today I found someone on facebook whose parents were friends with Anthony's, and I sent him a message today. Ideally I'd like to reach out to Anthony and let him know that he was in my thoughts all these years, and that I am ashamed that I never helped him or even was nice to him. I get really sad thinking about this poor kid, and know that there are other Anthonys out there.

If I get a response and find out what happened I'll share it here.
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1/21/2013 2:27:15 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 2:18:27 PM, 1Devilsadvocate wrote:
At 1/21/2013 2:13:37 PM, 1Devilsadvocate wrote:
At 1/21/2013 12:04:42 PM, tulle wrote:
Givesmehope.com has lots of stories, for those who need their faith in humanity restored.

http://www.cracked.com...
6-true-stories-that-will-restore-your-faith-in-humanity

http://www.buzzfeed.com...
pictures-that-will-restore-your-faith-in-humanity
(I don't get #5, but the rest are really nice.)

& in the news recently A NYPD officer just bought a homless man a pair of boots.
A visiting tourist happened to see, & it went viral.

Pictures:
https://www.google.com...

The story:

http://www.nytimes.com...

http://www.nypost.com...

http://www.npr.org...

http://www.huffingtonpost.com...

http://abcnews.go.com...
I cannot write in English, because of the treacherous spelling. When I am reading, I only hear it and am unable to remember what the written word looks like."
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1/21/2013 2:45:30 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 1:03:57 PM, 3raser wrote:
There is a guy i know that was in my English class in High School. He knew one of my friends and came to hang out with us. To be honest, at first, his presence made me a bit uncomfortable because he was loud, didn't have many friends and was wearing a somewhat dirty clothes, and talked about astronomy-related topics all the time. He was weird!

Second time he came to sit with us at launch, i got up and left to the other table with my other friends. So, the following year he was put in my Art class. He said hi to me and asked if he can sit on the seat next to me. He would always say hi to me...and some of my friends would tease me about it. LOL some of my friends can be real jerks.

As days went by, i started to get to know him little by little...i stopped caring about what anyone thought anymore. Turns out, this guy's parents are schizophreniac, they all live in their grandma's house, and he also has a degree of schizophrenia and constantly takes medication...and a bunch of other health problems. He is also homosexual which is another reason he was picked on a lot.

So one day, i am sitting there and this friend of mine Austin starts picking on him for the way he looks, things he does, etc. I stood up, walked up to Austin and told him to shut up. We got in a little argument and after an explanation...Austin apologized.

-) He thanked me a lot and said i am a good person.

You're a better man than I (was).
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1/21/2013 3:51:17 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 2:45:30 PM, innomen wrote:
At 1/21/2013 1:03:57 PM, 3raser wrote:
There is a guy i know that was in my English class in High School. He knew one of my friends and came to hang out with us. To be honest, at first, his presence made me a bit uncomfortable because he was loud, didn't have many friends and was wearing a somewhat dirty clothes, and talked about astronomy-related topics all the time. He was weird!

Second time he came to sit with us at launch, i got up and left to the other table with my other friends. So, the following year he was put in my Art class. He said hi to me and asked if he can sit on the seat next to me. He would always say hi to me...and some of my friends would tease me about it. LOL some of my friends can be real jerks.

As days went by, i started to get to know him little by little...i stopped caring about what anyone thought anymore. Turns out, this guy's parents are schizophreniac, they all live in their grandma's house, and he also has a degree of schizophrenia and constantly takes medication...and a bunch of other health problems. He is also homosexual which is another reason he was picked on a lot.

So one day, i am sitting there and this friend of mine Austin starts picking on him for the way he looks, things he does, etc. I stood up, walked up to Austin and told him to shut up. We got in a little argument and after an explanation...Austin apologized.

-) He thanked me a lot and said i am a good person.

You're a better man than I (was).

If you regret your actions--or lack of it in this case--and still have him in your thoughts then you are a good person. :-) keep trying to reach out to him.

BTW, i am a girl not a man. loll
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1/21/2013 4:23:08 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
Private Philanthropy:

On December 9, 2010, Buffett, Bill Gates, and Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg, signed a promise they called the "Gates-Buffett Giving Pledge", in which they promised to donate to charity at least half of their wealth over time, and invited others among the wealthy to donate 50% or more of their wealth to charity.

Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation
With $34 billion in assets and more on the way from Warren Buffett, they have Projects in more than 100 countries. Notable success in curbing childhood malaria.
They personally have given over $28 billion to charity. & They plan to eventually give 95% of their wealth to charity.

WarrenBuffett - http://en.wikipedia.org...

George Soros - Open Society Institute.
Since surviving the Holocaust as a child, (doesn't get worse than that), he has donated over 8 Billion dollars.

Mike Blomberg - beside the Billions he's given publicly. According to The New York Times, Blomberg was an "anonymous donor" to the Carnegie Corporation from 2001-2010, with gifts ranging from $5 million to $20 million each year.

Zuckerberg -
Aside from the over $100 million that we know about, He donated an undisclosed amount to Diaspora, an open-source personal web server that implements a distributed social networking service. He was also 3rd signer to the Gates-Buffett 50% + Giving Pledge.

Just look at this chart:
http://www.businessweek.com...
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I don't want this to get political but there is also international aid:

The U.S. & other countries spend billions in foreign aid, to help other smaller undeveloped countries.

http://en.wikipedia.org...

Even small countries that don't have resources & have problems of their own, provide what aid they can:

Take Israel for example:

http://www.youtube.com...

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http://israel21c.org...
/the-top-12-ways-israel-feeds-the-world
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http://israel21c.org...
environment/modern-rain-dance-for-senegal/
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http://israel21c.org...
Development of toilet for developing countries, that needs no water and generates its own power to turn waste into sterile, odorless compost.
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http://israel21c.org...
children-who-are-given-life-in-the-midst-of-war/
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Israeli inventor invents cardboard wheelchairs, which will cost a fraction of the price of metal wheelchairs. Enabling poor people / countries to afford them. He is doing the same for bikes, a bicycle made nearly entirely out of cardboard that could allow developing nations to get bicycles for free.
http://artsanddisability.blogspot.com...
http://sci.rutgers.edu...
http://www.wnd.com...
http://news.yahoo.com...
http://www.disabledlifemedia.com...
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"Golda Meir's African initiative did indeed achieve impressive results.
Leapfrogging over the Arab barricade, a vast structure of Israeli assistance programs gradually spread across the African continent, and the foreign ministries Department of international Cooperation evolved into an enterprise of world repute. Israel a young state of only 2.5 million people, scarce in resources and short on man power, was promoting the development of dozens of countries far and wide. Soon hundreds of Israeli experts were rendering aid and sharing their know how of one sort or another with some 65 countries, the vast majority of them in Africa."
"The Prime Ministers" By Yehudah Avner Page 105 - 107
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& so much more http://www.mfa.gov.il...
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& that's just 1 small country.
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Most people have benefited from the free information age.

It started with Gutenberg
Then libraries
& now with the Internet.

Free information from Wikipedia

Free books online:
http://www.techsupportalert.com...

You can take free college courses online (I have to give Royal credit for 1st finding out about this)
Coursera
Udacity
edX
Even MIT

http://askbobrankin.com...

For all the flack Google gets, they have done the world a tremendous service.

The Google mission:
"Google"s mission is to organize the world"s information and make it universally accessible and useful." http://www.google.com...

When Google was just starting out, they wrote down their philosophy
What I call the Google 10 commandments.

2 of them read as follows:

1.There"s always more information out there.

Once we"d indexed more of the HTML pages on the Internet than any other search service, our engineers turned their attention to information that was not as readily accessible. Sometimes it was just a matter of integrating new databases into search, such as adding a phone number and address lookup and a business directory. Other efforts required a bit more creativity, like adding the ability to search news archives, patents, academic journals, billions of images and millions of books. And our researchers continue looking into ways to bring all the world"s information to people seeking answers.

2. The need for information crosses all borders.

Our company was founded in California, but our mission is to facilitate access to information for the entire world, and in every language. To that end, we have offices in more than 60 countries, maintain more than 180 Internet domains, and serve more than half of our results to people living outside the United States. We offer Google"s search interface in more than 130 languages, offer people the ability to restrict results to content written in their own language, and aim to provide the rest of our applications and products in as many languages and accessible formats as possible. Using our translation tools, people can discover content written on the other side of the world in languages they don"t speak. With these tools and the help of volunteer translators, we have been able to greatly improve both the variety and quality of services we can offer in even the most far"flung corners of the globe.

Not to forget Googles' philanthropic arm google.org http://www.google.org...
Brin and Page are trying to help solve the world"s energy and climate problems with google.org, which invests in the alternative energy industry to find wider sources of renewable energy. The company acknowledges that its founders want "to solve really big problems using technology."

& that brings us back to Private philanthropy.

I'll stop here for now, but there is so much more.

There is plenty of barbarism, evil, bad, etc. in the world, but there is also so much good, & it's not hard to find if you look.

& you don't need to be rich or powerful, any one can make a difference in the lives of others. As EBay founder, Pierre Omidyar says, "Philanthropy isn't a function of the size of your wallet." To which I would add, "it's about the size of your hart".
http://online.barrons.com...

The advice Bill Gates gives to Newbies is:
"The first thing is in your own community, and then take the ne
I cannot write in English, because of the treacherous spelling. When I am reading, I only hear it and am unable to remember what the written word looks like."
"Albert Einstein

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1/21/2013 11:30:15 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 1:03:57 PM, 3raser wrote:
There is a guy i know that was in my English class in High School. He knew one of my friends and came to hang out with us. To be honest, at first, his presence made me a bit uncomfortable because he was loud, didn't have many friends and was wearing a somewhat dirty clothes, and talked about astronomy-related topics all the time. He was weird!

Second time he came to sit with us at launch, i got up and left to the other table with my other friends. So, the following year he was put in my Art class. He said hi to me and asked if he can sit on the seat next to me. He would always say hi to me...and some of my friends would tease me about it. LOL some of my friends can be real jerks.

As days went by, i started to get to know him little by little...i stopped caring about what anyone thought anymore. Turns out, this guy's parents are schizophreniac, they all live in their grandma's house, and he also has a degree of schizophrenia and constantly takes medication...and a bunch of other health problems. He is also homosexual which is another reason he was picked on a lot.

So one day, i am sitting there and this friend of mine Austin starts picking on him for the way he looks, things he does, etc. I stood up, walked up to Austin and told him to shut up. We got in a little argument and after an explanation...Austin apologized.

-) He thanked me a lot and said i am a good person.

Glad you made the effort and didn't judge him :)
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1/21/2013 11:50:42 PM
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I was sitting in a restaurant sulking about a test I just flunked on really badly when I glanced outside and saw a married couple arguing furiously over something. I couldnt tell what but they were really pissed at each other. Then after 15 minutes of constant arguing, it started to drizzle. The man pulled out an umbrella and opened it, held it over his wife to keep her dry while he was left exposed and got soaking wet, and continued to argue like nothing had even happened......

It was the coolest thing I ever saw.
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1/22/2013 10:30:35 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 1:34:08 PM, Oryus wrote:

A few years back when my boyfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all my friends had left to visit family for winter break but I had to stay in town and work xmas eve and xmas. My boyfriend also had left. I was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks so I went downtown to do a little xmas shopping for my mom. My boyfriend was texting me from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" yadda yadda. So I told him I was at the outdoors-ey store looking for a good hat for my mom. About five minutes later someone tapped me on the shoulder. I turned around and it was him with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out he was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner he was going to make me. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. He knew I was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.

That is soo sweet!

I have a similar story. A couple birthdays ago my boyfriend (at the time) had said he couldn't make it to my birthday dinner because he was invited up north for the weekend. He called me the morning of my birthday and told me he was leaving. I'm at work and my coworkers were like "Is that your boyfriend?" He brought me flowers :) It was sweet because he didn't have a car and he lived, like, an hour away, so he spent 3 hours on various busses and subways to come to my work.
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1/22/2013 10:36:58 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 2:26:55 PM, innomen wrote:
Although this doesn't end well, or really all that badly.... when I was a kid growing up there was another kid named Anthony Collins. Anthony was different. He had a high pitched voice, he spent his early years in England, so he had a slight accent, was as white as a ghost and a bit frail looking. Anthony was the target of incredible torment, beyond bullying, but a life of horrible and constant hurt by other kids. No one ever stood up for him and big kids would whale on this kid, and little kids would just throw stuff at him. He was abused ever moment of his life in school, and when as a sophomore in high school he was taken to a mental institution because he developed legitimate paranoia. There were only rumors about this kid and what he ended up like.

To my side, I never really participated in hurting him and secretly felt really sorry for him, but only secretly. I have great shame that I never stood up for him, or even offered him a kind word and my entire adult life has been spent wondering about him and feeling so ashamed at not lifting a finger in his defense. I was a big kid and could take care of myself, but I was a loner kind of kid, and just didn't involve myself much. I wonder about the kids that really beat the shice out of him, and if they ever give a thought about what they did to this individual.

I will say that I have spent much time trying to track this person down, but to no success. However, today I found someone on facebook whose parents were friends with Anthony's, and I sent him a message today. Ideally I'd like to reach out to Anthony and let him know that he was in my thoughts all these years, and that I am ashamed that I never helped him or even was nice to him. I get really sad thinking about this poor kid, and know that there are other Anthonys out there.

If I get a response and find out what happened I'll share it here.

When I was in the 7th grade, there was a kid that everyone made fun of. He was new, and people also used to make fun of his lisp, and the fact that he couldn't say his own name properly (he was Italian and he had both a "sh" and "ch" sound in his name lol). What was worse was he was a voice actor in a children's TV show, so "we" made fun of him for that too (When the class caught wind that he'd auditioned to play Arthur, everyone called him DW).

I say "we" because I never used to make fun of him.

Anyhoo, I was nice to him until he told me he had a crush on me, then I started making fun of him like everyone else :/

I found him on Myspace a few years ago (back when Myspace was a thing) and sent him a message apologizing and stuff, but he never replied.

I hope you get a response.
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1/22/2013 10:37:29 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/22/2013 10:30:35 AM, tulle wrote:
At 1/21/2013 1:34:08 PM, Oryus wrote:

A few years back when my boyfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all my friends had left to visit family for winter break but I had to stay in town and work xmas eve and xmas. My boyfriend also had left. I was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks so I went downtown to do a little xmas shopping for my mom. My boyfriend was texting me from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" yadda yadda. So I told him I was at the outdoors-ey store looking for a good hat for my mom. About five minutes later someone tapped me on the shoulder. I turned around and it was him with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out he was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner he was going to make me. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. He knew I was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.

That is soo sweet!

I have a similar story. A couple birthdays ago my boyfriend (at the time) had said he couldn't make it to my birthday dinner because he was invited up north for the weekend. He called me the morning of my birthday and told me he was leaving. I'm at work and my coworkers were like "Is that your boyfriend?" He brought me flowers :) It was sweet because he didn't have a car and he lived, like, an hour away, so he spent 3 hours on various busses and subways to come to my work.

Wait what? Do you usually drive that far to see him or something?
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1/22/2013 10:38:44 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/21/2013 11:50:42 PM, imabench wrote:
I was sitting in a restaurant sulking about a test I just flunked on really badly when I glanced outside and saw a married couple arguing furiously over something. I couldnt tell what but they were really pissed at each other. Then after 15 minutes of constant arguing, it started to drizzle. The man pulled out an umbrella and opened it, held it over his wife to keep her dry while he was left exposed and got soaking wet, and continued to argue like nothing had even happened......

It was the coolest thing I ever saw.

That is incredibly sweet and amazing.
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1/22/2013 10:40:05 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/22/2013 10:37:29 AM, bossyburrito wrote:

Wait what? Do you usually drive that far to see him or something?

My house was about 40 minutes away from him and yes, I did drive that far to see him.
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1/22/2013 10:41:22 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
A few years back when my girlfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all her friends had left to visit family for winter break but she had to stay in town and work Christmans eve and Christmas. I also had to leave. I knew she was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks. I was texting her from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" So she tells me she was at some outdoors store looking for a good hat for her mom. A few minutes later I tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around and it was me with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out I was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner I was going to make her. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. I knew she was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.
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1/22/2013 10:45:12 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/22/2013 10:41:22 AM, Koopin wrote:
A few years back when my girlfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all her friends had left to visit family for winter break but she had to stay in town and work Christmans eve and Christmas. I also had to leave. I knew she was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks. I was texting her from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" So she tells me she was at some outdoors store looking for a good hat for her mom. A few minutes later I tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around and it was me with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out I was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner I was going to make her. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. I knew she was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.

Exposed? hahahaha I knew it!
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1/22/2013 10:51:52 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
"When I was in the 7th grade, there was a kid that everyone made fun of. He was new, and people also used to make fun of his lisp, and the fact that he couldn't say his own name properly (he was Italian and he had both a "sh" and "ch" sound in his name lol). What was worse was he was a voice actor in a children's TV show, so "we" made fun of him for that too (When the class caught wind that he'd auditioned to play Arthur, everyone called him DW)."

Wow, maybe I went to a perfect school or something. I can barely say things like J and G and I whistle a bit when I say S. Nobody gave me any trouble for it.

In fact, during my time in public school I only had one thing negatively directed at me.

At my elementary school there was this thing where you put a complain about someone else in a box and at the end of the day everyone sat in a circle and discussed said complaints.

Of course there was the average "you talk too much" or "you didn't hold the door open" type stuff. However, someone called me out for not talking a lot. I'm serious. She complained that I would never talk when we were doing assignments and whatnot, even when people ask me about the directions and stuff. The teacher and I started laughing uncontrollably, and that's how I had to apologize for not talking in class.

I also didn't go to a nice middle school for half a year. Maybe it was because I was in a gifted-only class (you couldn't tell by looking) but everyone was incredibly nice.

Well, that got off topic.
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1/22/2013 10:53:58 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/22/2013 10:41:22 AM, Koopin wrote:
A few years back when my girlfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all her friends had left to visit family for winter break but she had to stay in town and work Christmans eve and Christmas. I also had to leave. I knew she was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks. I was texting her from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" So she tells me she was at some outdoors store looking for a good hat for her mom. A few minutes later I tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around and it was me with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out I was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner I was going to make her. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. I knew she was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.

I can tell this is fake because you didn't give her KFC.
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1/22/2013 10:55:44 AM
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At 1/22/2013 10:41:22 AM, Koopin wrote:
A few years back when my girlfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all her friends had left to visit family for winter break but she had to stay in town and work Christmans eve and Christmas. I also had to leave. I knew she was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks. I was texting her from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" So she tells me she was at some outdoors store looking for a good hat for her mom. A few minutes later I tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around and it was me with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out I was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner I was going to make her. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. I knew she was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.

Now it's gonna sound like I am bragging if no one gets this joke.
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1/22/2013 3:32:06 PM
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At 1/22/2013 10:55:44 AM, Koopin wrote:
At 1/22/2013 10:41:22 AM, Koopin wrote:
A few years back when my girlfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all her friends had left to visit family for winter break but she had to stay in town and work Christmans eve and Christmas. I also had to leave. I knew she was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks. I was texting her from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" So she tells me she was at some outdoors store looking for a good hat for her mom. A few minutes later I tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around and it was me with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out I was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner I was going to make her. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. I knew she was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.

Now it's gonna sound like I am bragging if no one gets this joke.

Why are you saying it was a joke, koopy? I didn't really want to tell anyone about us but now they all know how sweet you really are underneath all that fried, salty batter ^_^
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1/22/2013 3:53:14 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/22/2013 3:32:06 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 1/22/2013 10:55:44 AM, Koopin wrote:
At 1/22/2013 10:41:22 AM, Koopin wrote:
A few years back when my girlfriend and I had been together for about a year or so, all her friends had left to visit family for winter break but she had to stay in town and work Christmans eve and Christmas. I also had to leave. I knew she was pretty bummed about being alone for a couple weeks. I was texting her from the bus, "how are you doing? what are you up to?" So she tells me she was at some outdoors store looking for a good hat for her mom. A few minutes later I tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around and it was me with a big grin and a bouquet of flowers. Turns out I was going to stay in town for an extra day or two and had all the ingredients waiting at home for a big dinner I was going to make her. Also, a bottle of wine! It was nice pick-me-up. I knew she was really sad about everybody leaving for a while.

Now it's gonna sound like I am bragging if no one gets this joke.

Why are you saying it was a joke, koopy? I didn't really want to tell anyone about us but now they all know how sweet you really are underneath all that fried, salty batter ^_^

D'ahhhh
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1/22/2013 4:13:33 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
Last year I was driving home from a debate tournament, and I realized my engine was about to overheat. I stopped at a Wal-Mart and went to the back of the store to buy a few gallons of water to pour into my engine; since it was like midnight there was only one lane open and like 50 people in line, when I finally got to the front I realized with horror that I had left my wallet out in my truck. I went outside to get it, waited in line again and found when I got back to the front that some-one else had paid for the water for me.

It wasn't very expensive (like $5 maybe), but it absolutely floored me. I stood there like an idiot for a full minute before reacting.
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1/23/2013 3:09:34 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 1/22/2013 10:36:58 AM, tulle wrote:
At 1/21/2013 2:26:55 PM, innomen wrote:
Although this doesn't end well, or really all that badly.... when I was a kid growing up there was another kid named Anthony Collins. Anthony was different. He had a high pitched voice, he spent his early years in England, so he had a slight accent, was as white as a ghost and a bit frail looking. Anthony was the target of incredible torment, beyond bullying, but a life of horrible and constant hurt by other kids. No one ever stood up for him and big kids would whale on this kid, and little kids would just throw stuff at him. He was abused ever moment of his life in school, and when as a sophomore in high school he was taken to a mental institution because he developed legitimate paranoia. There were only rumors about this kid and what he ended up like.

To my side, I never really participated in hurting him and secretly felt really sorry for him, but only secretly. I have great shame that I never stood up for him, or even offered him a kind word and my entire adult life has been spent wondering about him and feeling so ashamed at not lifting a finger in his defense. I was a big kid and could take care of myself, but I was a loner kind of kid, and just didn't involve myself much. I wonder about the kids that really beat the shice out of him, and if they ever give a thought about what they did to this individual.

I will say that I have spent much time trying to track this person down, but to no success. However, today I found someone on facebook whose parents were friends with Anthony's, and I sent him a message today. Ideally I'd like to reach out to Anthony and let him know that he was in my thoughts all these years, and that I am ashamed that I never helped him or even was nice to him. I get really sad thinking about this poor kid, and know that there are other Anthonys out there.

If I get a response and find out what happened I'll share it here.

When I was in the 7th grade, there was a kid that everyone made fun of. He was new, and people also used to make fun of his lisp, and the fact that he couldn't say his own name properly (he was Italian and he had both a "sh" and "ch" sound in his name lol). What was worse was he was a voice actor in a children's TV show, so "we" made fun of him for that too (When the class caught wind that he'd auditioned to play Arthur, everyone called him DW).

I say "we" because I never used to make fun of him.

Anyhoo, I was nice to him until he told me he had a crush on me, then I started making fun of him like everyone else :/

I found him on Myspace a few years ago (back when Myspace was a thing) and sent him a message apologizing and stuff, but he never replied.

I hope you get a response.

It tells a lot about how we are as children when we look back at our behavior and feel some shame. You and I weren't the worst offenders, but still we know now what is right and what is wrong.

I did get a response, and we chatted, but he lost track of him too, and he has no idea where he is today. The search continues.