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3/9/2013 9:41:13 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
There's this girl in my college that I'm not too sure about.

It started my freshman year. We were both in the same classes given we were the same major. She decided to approach me and we immediately became friends. Then during the end of the year banquet, (the theme was a Sadie Hawkins banquet) she asked me to go with her, which I obviously said yes.

We became closer friends as sophomore and half of my junior year passed by. Then all of a sudden I realized she has been getting closer to me. She wants me to walk with her everywhere, we have been hugging more than the average friends and went on a few dates; movies, concerts and such. (These dates weren't really official, we just both kind of agreed to go) Then just the other day I started having thoughts about her in a relationship with me.

Should I ask her to be in a relationship with me. She's one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her. Am I in the friend zone? And if I should ask her out, how do I move from friends to lovers.
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3/9/2013 2:52:59 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/9/2013 1:24:18 PM, Jordan56 wrote:
At 3/9/2013 1:05:46 PM, Mirza wrote:
How about NOT asking her out.

You just blew my mind.

Lol

The best advice I give to people in this kind of situation, is to go for it. From what it sounds like you havent been friend zoned. Cause you didnt mention it, I'll assume that the entire time y'all have been skirting around the elephant in tbe room, she hasnt been in a relationship with someone else. If not, well buddy, thats because she's got her saddle ready for you and is wanting to take you for a ride ;)

But no joke, go for it. Y'all have what it sounds like, the foundation for a strong and lasting relationship given y'all have been close friends for quite awhile. A strong friendship is a key to any successful relationship ya kno ;)
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3/9/2013 2:55:48 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
In the end, the decisions we usually regret most are the chances we dont take. Go for it unless you have compelling evidence that she wouldn't be interested.
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3/9/2013 9:07:44 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/9/2013 9:41:13 AM, Jordan56 wrote:
There's this girl in my college that I'm not too sure about.

It started my freshman year. We were both in the same classes given we were the same major. She decided to approach me and we immediately became friends. Then during the end of the year banquet, (the theme was a Sadie Hawkins banquet) she asked me to go with her, which I obviously said yes.

We became closer friends as sophomore and half of my junior year passed by. Then all of a sudden I realized she has been getting closer to me. She wants me to walk with her everywhere, we have been hugging more than the average friends and went on a few dates; movies, concerts and such. (These dates weren't really official, we just both kind of agreed to go) Then just the other day I started having thoughts about her in a relationship with me.

Should I ask her to be in a relationship with me. She's one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her. Am I in the friend zone? And if I should ask her out, how do I move from friends to lovers.

I suggest you watch the movie "When Harry Meet Sally" It is as real as it gets when it comes to men and women and being friends.
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3/9/2013 10:16:56 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
One must seek out johnnyboy for expert opinions on this. I took his advice and I got two girls after me.
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3/9/2013 10:50:15 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
You don't really have anything to lose. I doubt that she'll stop being friends with you if she turns you down...
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3/9/2013 11:06:02 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/9/2013 9:41:13 AM, Jordan56 wrote:
There's this girl in my college that I'm not too sure about.

It started my freshman year. We were both in the same classes given we were the same major. She decided to approach me and we immediately became friends. Then during the end of the year banquet, (the theme was a Sadie Hawkins banquet) she asked me to go with her, which I obviously said yes.

We became closer friends as sophomore and half of my junior year passed by. Then all of a sudden I realized she has been getting closer to me. She wants me to walk with her everywhere, we have been hugging more than the average friends and went on a few dates; movies, concerts and such. (These dates weren't really official, we just both kind of agreed to go) Then just the other day I started having thoughts about her in a relationship with me.

Should I ask her to be in a relationship with me. She's one of my best friends and I don't want to lose her. Am I in the friend zone? And if I should ask her out, how do I move from friends to lovers.

Go for it dude, its a definite yes and she clearly wants it since shes dropping hints left and right. (hugs, dates, always wants to be with you)
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3/9/2013 11:25:13 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
Take it from me, turn your skin orange and aggressively bob your head up and down and she wont be able to resist you.
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3/9/2013 11:54:16 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
The fact that you want to ask her out is reason enough for why you should. You've got a pretty flimsy friendship if something like that would cause you to lose her. If you DON'T ask her out, you're going to spend the rest of your life wondering "What if?" Life is too short to be timid about these things, miss opportunities, and end up with a lot of regrets. Go for it. She could be the one, and you can't know unless you try.
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3/9/2013 11:56:47 PM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/9/2013 10:16:56 PM, lannan13 wrote:
One must seek out johnnyboy for expert opinions on this. I took his advice and I got two girls after me.

Ignore them and treat them like dirt? It really never fails.
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3/10/2013 12:14:05 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
Thanks for all the advice. I think I'm going to go for it. If she says no, the worse that can happen is we will have a very awkward senior year and i'll never have to see her after that.

Now, I know I may be looking a little far ahead but how do we move from friends to lovers. I can't imagine doing anything romantic with her such as kissing and cuddling because I see her more as a friend. How do I get past this level to a more intimate stage.
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3/10/2013 12:15:11 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/10/2013 12:14:05 AM, Jordan56 wrote:
Now, I know I may be looking a little far ahead but how do we move from friends to lovers. I can't imagine doing anything romantic with her such as kissing and cuddling because I see her more as a friend. How do I get past this level to a more intimate stage.

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3/10/2013 12:17:00 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
You can either have some drinks and the awkwardness goes away, or just power through the awkwardness. Both are effective, the latter is better for a girl you really like.
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3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.
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3/10/2013 12:25:30 AM
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At 3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM, lewis20 wrote:
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.

You can also tell how you feel about a girl when she starts dating another guy. But that's the hard way.
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3/10/2013 12:28:11 AM
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From what it sounds like, if I didn't know any better, I'd says you WERE dating.
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3/10/2013 12:30:44 AM
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At 3/10/2013 12:28:11 AM, OberHerr wrote:
From what it sounds like, if I didn't know any better, I'd says you WERE dating.

A friend of mine calls that "stealth dating."
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3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/10/2013 12:25:30 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM, lewis20 wrote:
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.

You can also tell how you feel about a girl when she starts dating another guy. But that's the hard way.

They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me. What are you supposed to say to that? Hah They can be pretty manipulative when they want to.
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3/10/2013 12:37:06 AM
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At 3/10/2013 12:28:11 AM, OberHerr wrote:
From what it sounds like, if I didn't know any better, I'd says you WERE dating.

Minus the good parts hah
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3/10/2013 12:47:20 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM, lewis20 wrote:
They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me.

Her poor fiance! That's so sad.
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3/10/2013 12:49:00 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:25:30 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM, lewis20 wrote:
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.

You can also tell how you feel about a girl when she starts dating another guy. But that's the hard way.

They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me. What are you supposed to say to that? Hah They can be pretty manipulative when they want to.

That's called a insurance plan right there. Just in case.
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3/10/2013 12:49:33 AM
Posted: 3 years ago
At 3/10/2013 12:37:06 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:28:11 AM, OberHerr wrote:
From what it sounds like, if I didn't know any better, I'd says you WERE dating.

Minus the good parts hah

Well, if there's friends with benefits, there might as well be boyfriend/girlfriends without benefits. I mean isn't that basically what long distance relationships are?
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3/10/2013 1:14:31 AM
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At 3/10/2013 12:47:20 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM, lewis20 wrote:
They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me.

Her poor fiance! That's so sad.

...and he's deployed to Afghanistan...
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3/10/2013 1:18:28 AM
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At 3/10/2013 12:49:00 AM, OberHerr wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:25:30 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM, lewis20 wrote:
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.

You can also tell how you feel about a girl when she starts dating another guy. But that's the hard way.

They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me. What are you supposed to say to that? Hah They can be pretty manipulative when they want to.

That's called a insurance plan right there. Just in case.

Not really, she knew I didn't feel the same so she was really taking a big risk.
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3/10/2013 1:19:42 AM
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At 3/10/2013 12:49:33 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:37:06 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:28:11 AM, OberHerr wrote:
From what it sounds like, if I didn't know any better, I'd says you WERE dating.

Minus the good parts hah

Well, if there's friends with benefits, there might as well be boyfriend/girlfriends without benefits. I mean isn't that basically what long distance relationships are?

I can't really speak to a long distance relationship, though I doubt you would get sick of eachother. That'd be a plus.
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3/10/2013 1:19:55 AM
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At 3/10/2013 1:18:28 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:49:00 AM, OberHerr wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:25:30 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM, lewis20 wrote:
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.

You can also tell how you feel about a girl when she starts dating another guy. But that's the hard way.

They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me. What are you supposed to say to that? Hah They can be pretty manipulative when they want to.

That's called a insurance plan right there. Just in case.

Not really, she knew I didn't feel the same so she was really taking a big risk.

She knew you didn't feel the same way right NOW....
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3/10/2013 1:24:31 AM
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At 3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:25:30 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM, lewis20 wrote:
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.

You can also tell how you feel about a girl when she starts dating another guy. But that's the hard way.

They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me. What are you supposed to say to that? Hah They can be pretty manipulative when they want to.

She obviously doesnt realize that Love isnt something you can just check yourself out of. It doesnt stop, it doesnt go away. You love someone, its permanent. Like a branding on your mental state.

If you ever stop "loving"(quotations are important) someone, then you never loved them in the first place.

She needs to get a reality check and understand that just because you love someone, doesnt mean its worth a second go-around
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3/10/2013 1:24:34 AM
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At 3/10/2013 1:19:55 AM, OberHerr wrote:
At 3/10/2013 1:18:28 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:49:00 AM, OberHerr wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:36:29 AM, lewis20 wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:25:30 AM, philochristos wrote:
At 3/10/2013 12:19:52 AM, lewis20 wrote:
Also, it might sound corny, but you can really tell how you feel about a girl when you kiss. Dumb as it sounds.

You can also tell how you feel about a girl when she starts dating another guy. But that's the hard way.

They do like to play mind games, girl from high school who's engaged recently told me she still loved me. What are you supposed to say to that? Hah They can be pretty manipulative when they want to.

That's called a insurance plan right there. Just in case.

Not really, she knew I didn't feel the same so she was really taking a big risk.

She knew you didn't feel the same way right NOW....

Ha she's known for a good 5 or 6 years
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