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Is it worth finding "the right one "?

Truth_seeker
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6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow? Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one? I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(
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6/27/2014 10:35:33 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow? Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one? I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(

With the advent of feminism and female sexual liberation, monogamy is now a sham. It's such a pity, really, and it has destructive impacts on society, as you're now experiencing. I've only just woken up to it recently.
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6/27/2014 11:57:30 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow?

Yes.

Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one?

You will find someone.

I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(

Love is complicated, but you've got to keep an open heart and an open mind.
GodChoosesLife
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6/28/2014 12:07:51 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
I can relate. I've given up the idea of "hope" of someone coming along and swooping me off my feet for marriage because as before I was given promises to which were not kept and thus has led me to not be willing to trust. So I can understand where your coming from in the same stance. But I don't think it would be right or just of us as individuals to decide this for ourselves, you as a believer ought to trust in God just as I myself should do the same with this situation. Don't loose heart! Let God he the guide of your heart and prepare yourself to BE THE ONE, not look for the one. Because what I've learned also is the more we look the more we end up hurt in the long run. When the time is right you'll know! Cling to Christ and let go of you! (Btw, I'm speaking 200 times more to myself here too).
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6/28/2014 12:30:23 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 6/28/2014 12:07:51 AM, GodChoosesLife wrote:
I can relate. I've given up the idea of "hope" of someone coming along and swooping me off my feet for marriage because as before I was given promises to which were not kept and thus has led me to not be willing to trust. So I can understand where your coming from in the same stance. But I don't think it would be right or just of us as individuals to decide this for ourselves, you as a believer ought to trust in God just as I myself should do the same with this situation. Don't loose heart! Let God he the guide of your heart and prepare yourself to BE THE ONE, not look for the one. Because what I've learned also is the more we look the more we end up hurt in the long run. When the time is right you'll know! Cling to Christ and let go of you! (Btw, I'm speaking 200 times more to myself here too).

True..thanks Marie =)
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6/28/2014 8:42:01 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
I think it's most important to be alright with the fact that you might not find the right one. You can't depend on somebody else to complete you, or even if you do find "the one" you still won't be complete.
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- The Ends never justify the Means.
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- The War on Drugs is the worst policy in the U.S.
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6/30/2014 5:40:53 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 6/28/2014 8:42:01 PM, R0b1Billion wrote:
I think it's most important to be alright with the fact that you might not find the right one. You can't depend on somebody else to complete you, or even if you do find "the one" you still won't be complete.

You give good advice
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7/2/2014 2:27:31 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow? Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one? I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(

this is a serious question and please dont take offense to it,but do you by any chance have ADD?
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7/2/2014 2:36:01 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 7/2/2014 2:27:31 PM, Dennybug wrote:
At 6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow? Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one? I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(

this is a serious question and please dont take offense to it,but do you by any chance have ADD?

Only God knows, other than that, never bothered having an analysis =)
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7/2/2014 6:50:38 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow? Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one? I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(

I think that, for most people, there are many times and places they might find someone who they could call "the one." And even though it may still be fleeting, I think it is worth the cost. Feelings of rejection pass as well as a strong loving bond might. I'm inclined to take my chances.
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7/2/2014 6:57:57 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 7/2/2014 6:50:38 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow? Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one? I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(

I think that, for most people, there are many times and places they might find someone who they could call "the one." And even though it may still be fleeting, I think it is worth the cost. Feelings of rejection pass as well as a strong loving bond might. I'm inclined to take my chances.

True, feelings and rejection die eventually, but true love with the person you care about last forever.
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7/2/2014 6:58:52 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 7/2/2014 6:57:57 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 7/2/2014 6:50:38 PM, Oryus wrote:
At 6/27/2014 11:40:15 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
After years of thinking about this, I realized I was in a problem of grave consequence . I been through alot of pain and heart ache. As a young boy actually, it was pretty disappointing to think of the hardships of life and breakups. I talked and liked people I will never see again.. Sometimes, I cried myself to sleep because of the pain of rejection. Sometimes, I vowed to never like anyone else again. Is it really worthall the pain, confusion, and sorrow? Is it worth accepting that you will never be with that person you thought was the one? I sometimes ask God this. It's hard to trust people in general at times because sometimes, they'll turn on you :-(

I think that, for most people, there are many times and places they might find someone who they could call "the one." And even though it may still be fleeting, I think it is worth the cost. Feelings of rejection pass as well as a strong loving bond might. I'm inclined to take my chances.

True, feelings and rejection die eventually, but true love with the person you care about last forever.

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: : :Tulle: The fool, I purposely don't engage with you because you don't have proper command of the English language.
: :
: : The Fool: It's my English writing. Either way It's okay have a larger vocabulary then you, and a better grasp of language, and you're a woman.
:
: I'm just going to leave this precious struggle nugget right here.