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8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..
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8/6/2014 6:41:20 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
Who stopped talking to the other? If you stopped communication, start talking with her again. If it was her, it may be best to leave it be. If you guys just drifted apart, it may be best to try having small talk and see if she's comfortable. If she isn't, you may have to wait till you regain her trust. In which case, you should give her TIME and SPACE.
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8/6/2014 7:44:08 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 6:41:20 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Who stopped talking to the other? If you stopped communication, start talking with her again. If it was her, it may be best to leave it be. If you guys just drifted apart, it may be best to try having small talk and see if she's comfortable. If she isn't, you may have to wait till you regain her trust. In which case, you should give her TIME and SPACE.

She didn't want me talking to her anymore, so I just couldn't deal with the pain of not being able to see her again despite being in the same school. I had to get out of high school or face another year of hell. I was motivated to get out of school Just to leave everything behind.on one hand, I think she might have forgotten and want to talk to me, but on the other hand, I feel like is she still remembers and doesn't want to talk to me. Not sure what to do, but really want to see her cuz she's actually being very successful in her career..
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8/6/2014 7:46:05 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 7:44:08 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 6:41:20 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Who stopped talking to the other? If you stopped communication, start talking with her again. If it was her, it may be best to leave it be. If you guys just drifted apart, it may be best to try having small talk and see if she's comfortable. If she isn't, you may have to wait till you regain her trust. In which case, you should give her TIME and SPACE.

She didn't want me talking to her anymore, so I just couldn't deal with the pain of not being able to see her again despite being in the same school. I had to get out of high school or face another year of hell. I was motivated to get out of school Just to leave everything behind.on one hand, I think she might have forgotten and want to talk to me, but on the other hand, I feel like is she still remembers and doesn't want to talk to me. Not sure what to do, but really want to see her cuz she's actually being very successful in her career..

If she doesn't want you talking to her, it may be best to just leave her be. I suppose you could probably write a letter or something, or even call her *once* if you have her number to let her know that you're proud of her or something. But if she doesn't want you around, it may be best to move on.
Solonkr~
I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
I care about how to solve problems,
which is what everyone else should also care about.

Ken~
In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.

Me~
"BAILEY + SOLON = SAILEY
MY SHIP SAILEY MUST SAIL"

SCREW THAT SHIZ #BANNIE = BAILEY & ANNIE

P.S. Shipped Sailey before it was cannon bitches.
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8/6/2014 9:46:12 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 7:46:05 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 8/6/2014 7:44:08 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 6:41:20 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Who stopped talking to the other? If you stopped communication, start talking with her again. If it was her, it may be best to leave it be. If you guys just drifted apart, it may be best to try having small talk and see if she's comfortable. If she isn't, you may have to wait till you regain her trust.In which case, you should give her TIME and SPACE.

She didn't want me talking to her anymore, so I just couldn't deal with the pain of not being able to see her again despite being in the same school. I had to get out of high school or face another year of hell. I was motivated to get out of school Just to leave everything behind.on one hand, I think she might have forgotten and want to talk to me, but on the other hand, I feel like is she still remembers and doesn't want to talk to me. Not sure what to do, but really want to see her cuz she's actually being very successful in her career..

If she doesn't want you talking to her, it may be best to just leave her be. I suppose you could probably write a letter or something, or even call her *once* if you have her number to let her know that you're proud of her or something. But if she doesn't want you around, it may be best to move on.

Yeah, you're right
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8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.
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8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks
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8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.
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8/6/2014 10:40:55 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.

I guess her parents didn't want her around me so that's why she was forced to cut me out.. We had somewhat different values, she was Anglican and I am non denominational. She believes homosexuality is not a sin and I do.
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8/7/2014 6:23:09 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well.

what do you mean by this?
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8/7/2014 7:07:32 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/7/2014 6:23:09 AM, Dennybug wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well.

what do you mean by this?

meaning she's far too advanced than most people
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8/8/2014 9:39:41 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 10:40:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.

I guess her parents didn't want her around me so that's why she was forced to cut me out.. We had somewhat different values, she was Anglican and I am non denominational. She believes homosexuality is not a sin and I do.

Ah, that's tough :/
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8/8/2014 9:41:28 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/8/2014 9:39:41 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 10:40:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.

I guess her parents didn't want her around me so that's why she was forced to cut me out.. We had somewhat different values, she was Anglican and I am non denominational. She believes homosexuality is not a sin and I do.

Ah, that's tough :/

well just sent her a friend request and she accepted it, so now we're friends again lol, I'm feeling accomplished
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8/8/2014 9:48:09 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/8/2014 9:41:28 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/8/2014 9:39:41 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 10:40:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.

I guess her parents didn't want her around me so that's why she was forced to cut me out.. We had somewhat different values, she was Anglican and I am non denominational. She believes homosexuality is not a sin and I do.

Ah, that's tough :/

well just sent her a friend request and she accepted it, so now we're friends again lol, I'm feeling accomplished

Yay! So perhaps it was just the pressure of her parents.
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8/8/2014 9:50:58 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/8/2014 9:48:09 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/8/2014 9:41:28 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/8/2014 9:39:41 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 10:40:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.

I guess her parents didn't want her around me so that's why she was forced to cut me out.. We had somewhat different values, she was Anglican and I am non denominational. She believes homosexuality is not a sin and I do.

Ah, that's tough :/

well just sent her a friend request and she accepted it, so now we're friends again lol, I'm feeling accomplished

Yay! So perhaps it was just the pressure of her parents.

Yeah, I thought it was
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8/8/2014 9:55:39 PM
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How do you extrapolate getting dumped by some girl into politics and pissing your education away. My advice, don't call her.
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8/8/2014 10:02:39 PM
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At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

Conservatism is based on "fear and ignorance"? lol
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8/8/2014 10:07:41 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/8/2014 10:02:39 PM, LogicalLunatic wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

Conservatism is based on "fear and ignorance"? lol

Lol It's cuz they don't trust me cuz im different
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8/8/2014 11:06:09 PM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/8/2014 9:41:28 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/8/2014 9:39:41 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 10:40:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.

I guess her parents didn't want her around me so that's why she was forced to cut me out.. We had somewhat different values, she was Anglican and I am non denominational. She believes homosexuality is not a sin and I do.

Ah, that's tough :/

well just sent her a friend request and she accepted it, so now we're friends again lol, I'm feeling accomplished

Congratulations on your renewed friendship.
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8/9/2014 7:53:19 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/8/2014 11:06:09 PM, SamStevens wrote:
At 8/8/2014 9:41:28 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/8/2014 9:39:41 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 10:40:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:58:04 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:55:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 8/6/2014 9:52:20 PM, ThoughtsandThoughts wrote:
At 8/5/2014 10:41:35 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
So I suddenly keep remembering an old friend and I somehow want to know how she is. I must confess, I did have a crush on her, but that ended when she decided to end the friendship. I don't believe she intended to by her own will, but after that, I hated education and traditional values because I believed that separated me from her. I refused to take part in graduation and left high school in disgust. I hated conservative values because it's based on fear and ignorance. School was a prison for me, but despite that, I see a lot of potential in her. She young, very smart, going to a prestigious university, and doing well. I do care about her and her studies, but as far as me and education, I only use it for money. Me and the educated elite running the system are beefing in a sense..

So you had some differences in values, and you believe that's what caused the splitting friendship?

I'd say that if you really feel it's important, send her an email or social media message asking how she's been doing. Don't bring up anything that might seem like sensitive material (like the fact she hasn't spoken to you in a while). Be brief and don't suggest emailing me/hanging out again. If she is comfortable with reconnecting, that will happen naturally. Just don't put your hopes up, though it may be difficult not to!

Good luck! Hope that helps, T_s.

It was over something complicated, but thanks

Ah. I know these sorts of things are difficult by default though... But no problem still.

I guess her parents didn't want her around me so that's why she was forced to cut me out.. We had somewhat different values, she was Anglican and I am non denominational. She believes homosexuality is not a sin and I do.

Ah, that's tough :/

well just sent her a friend request and she accepted it, so now we're friends again lol, I'm feeling accomplished

Congratulations on your renewed friendship.

Thanks, hopefully we can stay friends
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8/9/2014 9:39:01 AM
Posted: 2 years ago
At 8/6/2014 6:41:20 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Who stopped talking to the other? If you stopped communication, start talking with her again. If it was her, it may be best to leave it be. If you guys just drifted apart, it may be best to try having small talk and see if she's comfortable. If she isn't, you may have to wait till you regain her trust. In which case, you should give her TIME and SPACE.

Why do you keep responding to these posts. These are all people he stalked and who said to leave them alone. "We can't be friends because I'm Anglican." Does that sound like something an Anglican would say? It's not an ultra-religious sect. It sounds more like an excuse not to talk to a guy who's obsessed with you. "Sorry, my parents don't approve, don't talk to me ever again..."

And I'm not sure how it's relevant that T_s dropped out of high school and hates the educated "elite." This is really just a rant/manifesto at that point.
You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into - Jonathan Swift (paraphrase)