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If your spouse died, would you remarry?
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10/21/2014 4:17:44 PM Posted: 2 years ago Curious about your response to this. If I had a spouse who died, I would be so heartbroken that I would choose to never marry another woman again. This is not just another girlfriend that you can just pick up and start again. For me, I guess I never been in an official relationship so I don't know what it's like to love someone wholeheartedly. Once they die, that's it for me because I have given all there is of me. There would be a part of me, a love i shared, a pain i endured, a world i saw built with my wife that cannot be shared with anyone else. I would lose the ability to love another "romantically" because there would never be another woman to replace the one that I lost.
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10/21/2014 4:29:59 PM Posted: 2 years ago I would not remarry. That's me saying that as a 20 year old however. But I can't see myself remarrying after such a loss.
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10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM Posted: 2 years ago Maybe, if I found someone I loved--though that love would be different. But, I certainly wouldn't remarry within 5 years of my spouse's death.
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10/21/2014 6:41:58 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM, bsh1 wrote: Any particular reason? |
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10/21/2014 6:53:52 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 6:41:58 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM, bsh1 wrote: I wouldn't want to live the rest of my life lonely--and I hope that my spouse wouldn't want that either. At the same time, I want to respect their memory, which to me requires having a temporal buffer zone between the time they die and the time I even think about dating again. Live Long and Prosper I'm a Bish. "Twilight isn't just about obtuse metaphors between cannibalism and premarital sex, it also teaches us the futility of hope." - Raisor "[Bsh1] is the Guinan of DDO." - ButterCatX Open Debate Topics Project: http://www.debate.org... Summertime Tournament: http://www.debate.org... |
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10/21/2014 7:03:23 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 4:17:44 PM, Truth_seeker wrote: In my opinion, it would depend on the person. After a pet dies, some people are ready to get a new one after a couple days, and some after a couple years. After a spouse died, some people are ready to get a new one after a short period of time, and others after a couple years. It is essentially the same relationship minus the pet being a human and having sexual intercourse. "This is the true horror of religion. It allows perfectly decent and sane people to believe by the billions, what only lunatics could believe on their own." Sam Harris Life asked Death "Why do people love me but hate you?" Death responded: "Because you are a beautiful lie, and I am the painful truth." |
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10/21/2014 7:19:55 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 6:53:52 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:41:58 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM, bsh1 wrote: Oh I see, I cannot do it lol. If I get with someone, I just can't let them go. Although I do see your perspective though. |
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10/21/2014 7:23:06 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 7:19:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:53:52 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:41:58 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM, bsh1 wrote: I am of course telling you what I think atm. My POV will change with time and may certainly change after the death of a spouse I loved. Live Long and Prosper I'm a Bish. "Twilight isn't just about obtuse metaphors between cannibalism and premarital sex, it also teaches us the futility of hope." - Raisor "[Bsh1] is the Guinan of DDO." - ButterCatX Open Debate Topics Project: http://www.debate.org... Summertime Tournament: http://www.debate.org... |
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10/21/2014 8:33:29 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 7:03:23 PM, SamStevens wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:17:44 PM, Truth_seeker wrote: What do you mean? |
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10/21/2014 8:35:23 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 8:33:29 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 7:03:23 PM, SamStevens wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:17:44 PM, Truth_seeker wrote: That the time for someone to remarry is the same thing as the time someone decides to get a new pet. Some people get a new pet right away, or years later. Some people never get a new pet. Same can be applied to a spouse. "This is the true horror of religion. It allows perfectly decent and sane people to believe by the billions, what only lunatics could believe on their own." Sam Harris Life asked Death "Why do people love me but hate you?" Death responded: "Because you are a beautiful lie, and I am the painful truth." |
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10/21/2014 8:49:05 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 4:17:44 PM, Truth_seeker wrote: If I died, I would want my spouse to move on and find love and to love and be loved because love is a wonderful thing. Thus by that logic, she would also want me to move on too. |
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10/21/2014 8:58:46 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 7:23:06 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 7:19:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:53:52 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:41:58 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM, bsh1 wrote: Yea maybe mine will too. I lost a couple of people in my life, don't want to lose others. |
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10/21/2014 9:01:02 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 8:58:46 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 7:23:06 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 7:19:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:53:52 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:41:58 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM, bsh1 wrote: That's understandable. Live Long and Prosper I'm a Bish. "Twilight isn't just about obtuse metaphors between cannibalism and premarital sex, it also teaches us the futility of hope." - Raisor "[Bsh1] is the Guinan of DDO." - ButterCatX Open Debate Topics Project: http://www.debate.org... Summertime Tournament: http://www.debate.org... |
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10/21/2014 9:09:35 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 8:49:05 PM, VelCrow wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:17:44 PM, Truth_seeker wrote: Good point as well. |
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10/21/2014 10:33:40 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 9:01:02 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 8:58:46 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 7:23:06 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 7:19:55 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:53:52 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 6:41:58 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 4:40:13 PM, bsh1 wrote: I appreciate your honesty lol. |
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10/21/2014 10:50:11 PM Posted: 2 years ago Hard to say. I hope that I would find someone else. I hope my future spouse knows that if I died I would want them to find someone else
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10/21/2014 11:53:47 PM Posted: 2 years ago At 10/21/2014 10:33:40 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:At 10/21/2014 9:01:02 PM, bsh1 wrote:At 10/21/2014 8:58:46 PM, Truth_seeker wrote: Sure thing. Live Long and Prosper I'm a Bish. "Twilight isn't just about obtuse metaphors between cannibalism and premarital sex, it also teaches us the futility of hope." - Raisor "[Bsh1] is the Guinan of DDO." - ButterCatX Open Debate Topics Project: http://www.debate.org... Summertime Tournament: http://www.debate.org... |
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10/21/2014 11:56:56 PM Posted: 2 years ago I'm engaged. I'm not sure what I'd do? But I'd certainly wish the best for my Fiance and would hope any attachment she had with me, wouldn't cause her to miss out on settling down with a great guy she could enjoy the rest of her life with.
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