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11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM
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I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?
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11/26/2014 5:36:53 PM
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It depends on the parents and your relationship with them, but the safe answer is no. Not any time soon, anyway. Do it during college or something. At some point when you are no longer dependent on them/living in their home.
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11/26/2014 6:10:51 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

Absolutely not, if you don't want to ruin your life. XD
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11/26/2014 6:18:27 PM
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How strict are they?
I'd recommend telling them as soon as you have a back-up place to live...
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11/26/2014 6:38:46 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I grew up in a very strong Christian home. I was agnostic growing up but always went to church anyways. I came out when I was like 12 and my parents were very accepting.
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11/26/2014 7:06:37 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?
If you can support yourself financially, yes.
If you're a dependent, hell no what are you thinking? They'll attempt to purify your soul.
If I went back in time and murdered my grandmother, therefor preventing my existence, then who killed my grandmother?
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11/26/2014 7:14:58 PM
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At 11/26/2014 6:18:27 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
How strict are they?

They're... i dunno, let's say they're so strict they wouldn't let me play Halo
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11/26/2014 7:15:19 PM
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At 11/26/2014 7:06:37 PM, miraculous wrote:
At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?
If you can support yourself financially, yes.
If you're a dependent, hell no what are you thinking? They'll attempt to purify your soul.

Thx
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11/26/2014 7:15:32 PM
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At 11/26/2014 7:14:58 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
At 11/26/2014 6:18:27 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
How strict are they?

They're... i dunno, let's say they're so strict they wouldn't let me play Halo

Then no. Not yet.
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11/26/2014 7:16:12 PM
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At 11/26/2014 7:06:37 PM, miraculous wrote:
If you're a dependent, hell no what are you thinking? They'll attempt to purify your soul.

That^
Solonkr~
I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
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which is what everyone else should also care about.

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In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.

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11/26/2014 7:25:43 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I personally would, but my parents are very "weak" Christians, in fact I think my dad may even be an atheist anyway. Generally speaking there is quite a negative view of religion generally in my house. But back to the point, I would anyway though because I strongly believe parents should not force their views upon their kids once they are old enough to decide for themselves, and you clearly are. If they fall out with you because of your beliefs, then no disrespect, but then they would not be hugely worthy of you in my opinion.
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11/26/2014 9:26:28 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

Atheism is less a conversion and more a realization.

In any case, consider this: if your parents are truly Christians, then they commit their lives to their belief. Would you really look your parents in the eye and tell them, "everything you believe is fallacious?"

If I were you, I wouldn't. As an atheist, you should know better than anyone that your beliefs are but a part of who you are and do not play a role in every relationship you have. Be prudent about how you treat their beliefs. After all, they're the ones with the commitment.

I'm agnostic, but my father is a preacher. Why would I challenge that? I love him and life is too short. If he can believe the Bible story, he can believe I'm Christian, too. What difference does it make?
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11/26/2014 9:35:37 PM
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At 11/26/2014 7:06:37 PM, miraculous wrote:
If you're a dependent, hell no what are you thinking? They'll attempt to purify your soul.
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11/26/2014 11:31:14 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

Try to convince them that you are worshiping Lucifer so when you actually reveal that you're an atheist they'll be SO relieved.
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11/27/2014 11:15:50 AM
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At 11/26/2014 11:31:14 PM, PetersSmith wrote:
At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

Try to convince them that you are worshiping Lucifer so when you actually reveal that you're an atheist they'll be SO relieved.

No, they'd get heart attacks.
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11/27/2014 2:54:59 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I told them I didn't desire to be Christian anymore when I was 15. My mom still forced me to go to church with her until I moved to my fathers house a year later. Hopefully your parents will respect your wish, but I would highly recommend you feel out the situation before openly admitting such a thing. Maybe pose a hypothetical to them in the form of a question like, "How would you feel if I decided to explore other religions?"
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11/27/2014 6:33:32 PM
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At 11/27/2014 2:54:59 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I told them I didn't desire to be Christian anymore when I was 15. My mom still forced me to go to church with her until I moved to my fathers house a year later. Hopefully your parents will respect your wish, but I would highly recommend you feel out the situation before openly admitting such a thing. Maybe pose a hypothetical to them in the form of a question like, "How would you feel if I decided to explore other religions?"

How's this? I ask my dad what if I told him I was an atheist. If he asks if I'm atheist, I tell him no. I tell him I wanted to know he'd pray for me if I were atheist because while I know I'm going to heaven, I still want to be a good representative for Jesus.
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11/27/2014 8:10:32 PM
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At 11/27/2014 6:33:32 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
At 11/27/2014 2:54:59 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I told them I didn't desire to be Christian anymore when I was 15. My mom still forced me to go to church with her until I moved to my fathers house a year later. Hopefully your parents will respect your wish, but I would highly recommend you feel out the situation before openly admitting such a thing. Maybe pose a hypothetical to them in the form of a question like, "How would you feel if I decided to explore other religions?"

How's this? I ask my dad what if I told him I was an atheist. If he asks if I'm atheist, I tell him no. I tell him I wanted to know he'd pray for me if I were atheist because while I know I'm going to heaven, I still want to be a good representative for Jesus.

That's definitely one way to approach it. What denomination of Christianity is your family, if you don't mind me asking?

When I did it, I actually walked out of the church because the pastor said "even though the Bible commands we give 10% tithe, if we give 20% we'll be met with even more rewards in heaven." I just couldn't take it, at that point I told my mom I'd be waiting by the car and walked right out. I think afterwards when I told her my full reasoning, she understood but didn't accept it. She still hasn't to this day, but my dad was never really into Christianity to begin with, so it was much easier telling him my reasons for leaving the Christian religion to explore others. He accepted it.

If I may also ask, what is your reasoning for being an atheist, you might have to explain that to them as well and should do so as clear and nicely as you can.
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11/27/2014 8:19:02 PM
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At 11/27/2014 8:10:32 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 11/27/2014 6:33:32 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
At 11/27/2014 2:54:59 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I told them I didn't desire to be Christian anymore when I was 15. My mom still forced me to go to church with her until I moved to my fathers house a year later. Hopefully your parents will respect your wish, but I would highly recommend you feel out the situation before openly admitting such a thing. Maybe pose a hypothetical to them in the form of a question like, "How would you feel if I decided to explore other religions?"

How's this? I ask my dad what if I told him I was an atheist. If he asks if I'm atheist, I tell him no. I tell him I wanted to know he'd pray for me if I were atheist because while I know I'm going to heaven, I still want to be a good representative for Jesus.

That's definitely one way to approach it. What denomination of Christianity is your family, if you don't mind me asking?

baptist.


When I did it, I actually walked out of the church because the pastor said "even though the Bible commands we give 10% tithe, if we give 20% we'll be met with even more rewards in heaven." I just couldn't take it, at that point I told my mom I'd be waiting by the car and walked right out. I think afterwards when I told her my full reasoning, she understood but didn't accept it. She still hasn't to this day, but my dad was never really into Christianity to begin with, so it was much easier telling him my reasons for leaving the Christian religion to explore others. He accepted it.

If I may also ask, what is your reasoning for being an atheist, you might have to explain that to them as well and should do so as clear and nicely as you can.

I lost confidence in myself as a representative for Jesus and then I started thinking for myself.
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11/27/2014 8:28:40 PM
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At 11/27/2014 8:19:02 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
At 11/27/2014 8:10:32 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 11/27/2014 6:33:32 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
At 11/27/2014 2:54:59 PM, Blade-of-Truth wrote:
At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I told them I didn't desire to be Christian anymore when I was 15. My mom still forced me to go to church with her until I moved to my fathers house a year later. Hopefully your parents will respect your wish, but I would highly recommend you feel out the situation before openly admitting such a thing. Maybe pose a hypothetical to them in the form of a question like, "How would you feel if I decided to explore other religions?"

How's this? I ask my dad what if I told him I was an atheist. If he asks if I'm atheist, I tell him no. I tell him I wanted to know he'd pray for me if I were atheist because while I know I'm going to heaven, I still want to be a good representative for Jesus.

That's definitely one way to approach it. What denomination of Christianity is your family, if you don't mind me asking?

baptist.

Same! Towards the end it was more non-denominational, but for a majority of my life I was raised in a Baptist home and attended a private Baptist school.


When I did it, I actually walked out of the church because the pastor said "even though the Bible commands we give 10% tithe, if we give 20% we'll be met with even more rewards in heaven." I just couldn't take it, at that point I told my mom I'd be waiting by the car and walked right out. I think afterwards when I told her my full reasoning, she understood but didn't accept it. She still hasn't to this day, but my dad was never really into Christianity to begin with, so it was much easier telling him my reasons for leaving the Christian religion to explore others. He accepted it.

If I may also ask, what is your reasoning for being an atheist, you might have to explain that to them as well and should do so as clear and nicely as you can.

I lost confidence in myself as a representative for Jesus and then I started thinking for myself.

Okay, so you had a little bit of a different reason than myself except the latter half which I'd say was the same for me.

If you are sold on atheism, then you'll just need to present a good reason to them, as I'm sure they'll ask 'why' at some point. All in all though, unless your parents are fanatics, it shouldn't result in too much distress. Just remember that there is a risk of them not understanding or accepting of your reasons. Just always remember to go with your gut - if you don't feel the time is right, then don't do it. If you do, then hopefully they'll understand - you won't know until it happens.
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11/28/2014 12:47:51 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

I think you should wait until you are out of the house. Otherwise it may become a source of contention between you and your parents.
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11/28/2014 2:55:14 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:36:53 PM, Maikuru wrote:
It depends on the parents and your relationship with them, but the safe answer is no. Not any time soon, anyway. Do it during college or something. At some point when you are no longer dependent on them/living in their home.

This.
I would add that your parents' religious fervor is also to be taken into account, along with your role in said fervor.
If they go to church only on the big holidays vs. going every Sunday and expect you to come along.
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11/28/2014 6:16:15 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

Well considering you're 15 and at your age values and beliefs change constantly and that telling your parents you are an atheist may very well cause no beneficial effect, I would have to say no.
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11/28/2014 6:18:36 PM
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At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

Not to mention that telling them at this point could make your relationship with your parents awkward and uncomfortable for years to come.
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11/28/2014 6:41:36 PM
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At 11/28/2014 6:16:15 PM, xXCryptoXx wrote:
At 11/26/2014 5:32:50 PM, Gaming_Debater wrote:
I converted to atheism just a few months ago and I have Christian parents. What should I do? Should I tell them or keep it a secret?

Well considering you're 15 and at your age values and beliefs change constantly and that telling your parents you are an atheist may very well cause no beneficial effect, I would have to say no.

Thx 4 the advice, Crypto