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1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
After a couple months of consideration (yes, I am that indecisive), some insistence from Bsh1 that this would be helpful to me, I'm coming out on DDO.

I was planning on never making this thread: instead opting for telling people one at a time...I only got to telling...*counts fingers*...7 people since I've started being active on DDO in October: so you can see how that plan worked. I'm not good at saying it to someone for the first time, so I think it'd be helpful to get this all out of the way by simply making a thread about it.

Really, the only place I've ever been open about my sexuality and who I am has been in private conversations with people I've already told...Bsh and I both think it's time to change that (discussed it recently)...so here we are. I'm not out to anyone IRL...and I don't plan on telling anyone soon: although I think there's a select few friends that I can trust with it, I will still delay coming out for the foreseeable future...I especially don't want to tell my family: for fear of (very) adverse reaction.

I didn't really accept that I'm gay until a few months ago. It was really hard to do so...I lied to myself about it, I told myself that my attraction to men: and solely men: was just a phase for a very long time...then I avoided it completely after awhile...but now I accept it: but I will not come to people IRL (I really hate saying "IRL" because it devalues my interactions with the people here when they are very much real, but, I digress...). There are too many things in my life that want me to be straight and do not approve of homosexuality (to say the least): and I resent those things...but I must let sleeping dogs lie. I wish I didn't feel the need to hide everything about myself IRL, but I do for that reason. So thankfully, I can be the person I am here.

Special thanks to: Bsh1 (side note: he was the first person I told I'm gay), YYW, Rev, and Annie. Nobody is more helpful to me than they are (talked about them here: http://www.debate.org...). I can't say that when I (re-)joined this site, I'd have people like them to talk to...I'm very glad to have them. So there: I'm gay, and thanks to those people I listed for their most appreciated friendship and support, and thanks to anyone who reads this.
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1/22/2015 3:50:10 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
<3 u bae 4eva n 4 always
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1/22/2015 4:47:40 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
Coming out homosexual is so out of fashion now. We need to set the bar higher.
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1/22/2015 4:58:42 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
Congrats on coming out and welcome to the family.
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1/22/2015 6:32:03 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
It's a shame to hear about your family's probable adverse reaction. If it is because they are christian, you might want to do some research and show them why the 3 passages that refer to homosexuality in the NT don't actually describe an attraction to the same sex. Humble suggestion.
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1/22/2015 8:04:03 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
After a couple months of consideration (yes, I am that indecisive), some insistence from Bsh1 that this would be helpful to me, I'm coming out on DDO.

I was planning on never making this thread: instead opting for telling people one at a time...I only got to telling...*counts fingers*...7 people since I've started being active on DDO in October: so you can see how that plan worked. I'm not good at saying it to someone for the first time, so I think it'd be helpful to get this all out of the way by simply making a thread about it.

Really, the only place I've ever been open about my sexuality and who I am has been in private conversations with people I've already told...Bsh and I both think it's time to change that (discussed it recently)...so here we are. I'm not out to anyone IRL...and I don't plan on telling anyone soon: although I think there's a select few friends that I can trust with it, I will still delay coming out for the foreseeable future...I especially don't want to tell my family: for fear of (very) adverse reaction.

I didn't really accept that I'm gay until a few months ago. It was really hard to do so...I lied to myself about it, I told myself that my attraction to men: and solely men: was just a phase for a very long time...then I avoided it completely after awhile...but now I accept it: but I will not come to people IRL (I really hate saying "IRL" because it devalues my interactions with the people here when they are very much real, but, I digress...). There are too many things in my life that want me to be straight and do not approve of homosexuality (to say the least): and I resent those things...but I must let sleeping dogs lie. I wish I didn't feel the need to hide everything about myself IRL, but I do for that reason. So thankfully, I can be the person I am here.
Good for you for coming out! I'm sure almost everyone agrees when I say, we all view you as a friend and will support you no matter what.
Special thanks to: Bsh1 (side note: he was the first person I told I'm gay), YYW, Rev, and Annie. Nobody is more helpful to me than they are (talked about them here: http://www.debate.org...). I can't say that when I (re-)joined this site, I'd have people like them to talk to...I'm very glad to have them. So there: I'm gay, and thanks to those people I listed for their most appreciated friendship and support, and thanks to anyone who reads this.
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1/22/2015 8:10:50 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
After a couple months of consideration (yes, I am that indecisive), some insistence from Bsh1 that this would be helpful to me, I'm coming out on DDO.

I was planning on never making this thread: instead opting for telling people one at a time...I only got to telling...*counts fingers*...7 people since I've started being active on DDO in October: so you can see how that plan worked. I'm not good at saying it to someone for the first time, so I think it'd be helpful to get this all out of the way by simply making a thread about it.

Really, the only place I've ever been open about my sexuality and who I am has been in private conversations with people I've already told...Bsh and I both think it's time to change that (discussed it recently)...so here we are. I'm not out to anyone IRL...and I don't plan on telling anyone soon: although I think there's a select few friends that I can trust with it, I will still delay coming out for the foreseeable future...I especially don't want to tell my family: for fear of (very) adverse reaction.

I didn't really accept that I'm gay until a few months ago. It was really hard to do so...I lied to myself about it, I told myself that my attraction to men: and solely men: was just a phase for a very long time...then I avoided it completely after awhile...but now I accept it: but I will not come to people IRL (I really hate saying "IRL" because it devalues my interactions with the people here when they are very much real, but, I digress...). There are too many things in my life that want me to be straight and do not approve of homosexuality (to say the least): and I resent those things...but I must let sleeping dogs lie. I wish I didn't feel the need to hide everything about myself IRL, but I do for that reason. So thankfully, I can be the person I am here.

Special thanks to: Bsh1 (side note: he was the first person I told I'm gay), YYW, Rev, and Annie. Nobody is more helpful to me than they are (talked about them here: http://www.debate.org...). I can't say that when I (re-)joined this site, I'd have people like them to talk to...I'm very glad to have them. So there: I'm gay, and thanks to those people I listed for their most appreciated friendship and support, and thanks to anyone who reads this.

*hugs*
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1/22/2015 8:11:57 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 8:10:50 AM, YYW wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
*hugs*

*Hugs back*
"It's awfully considerate of you to think of me here,
And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."

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1/22/2015 8:19:32 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 8:11:57 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 8:10:50 AM, YYW wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
*hugs*

*Hugs back*

I know this took a lot for you, and I agree with bsh1 that I think you'll be better for it. While there are some good people and there are some strange people on DDO, this is probably the one place that you can really be free to be who you are.

You are a very close friend of ours, kiddo. And we care about you more than you know :)
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1/22/2015 8:22:18 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 8:19:32 AM, YYW wrote:
At 1/22/2015 8:11:57 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 8:10:50 AM, YYW wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:51:36 AM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
*hugs*

*Hugs back*

I know this took a lot for you, and I agree with bsh1 that I think you'll be better for it. While there are some good people and there are some strange people on DDO, this is probably the one place that you can really be free to be who you are.

You are a very close friend of ours, kiddo. And we care about you more than you know :)

Thanks. :)
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And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."

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1/22/2015 11:28:04 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 11:24:05 AM, EndarkenedRationalist wrote:
You know we're all behind you, supporting you all the way.

I think he would appreciate your being behind him ;-)
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1/22/2015 11:28:48 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 11:28:04 AM, Envisage wrote:
At 1/22/2015 11:24:05 AM, EndarkenedRationalist wrote:
You know we're all behind you, supporting you all the way.

I think he would appreciate your being behind him ;-)

I don't know....last time I did that, I shouted SURPRISE, and the person got kind of mad. You think he'd react differently?
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1/22/2015 12:19:04 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
*hugs*

I think that this will be good...I didn't come out in a single post like this, but this was the first place where I was open about myself. It did a lot of good for me, and I sincerely hope it does the same for you.

Whatever happens, know that we support you and that you're a wonderful person who means a lot to a great many people on this site.
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1/22/2015 12:50:33 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 12:19:04 PM, bsh1 wrote:
*hugs*

I think that this will be good...I didn't come out in a single post like this, but this was the first place where I was open about myself. It did a lot of good for me, and I sincerely hope it does the same for you.

Whatever happens, know that we support you and that you're a wonderful person who means a lot to a great many people on this site.

X2
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1/22/2015 1:57:50 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 11:45:02 AM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
I knew this for a while now...

I don't remember talking to you about it...
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And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."

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1/22/2015 1:58:07 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 1:57:50 PM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 11:45:02 AM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
I knew this for a while now...

I don't remember talking to you about it...

Did I?
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1/22/2015 2:50:33 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 1:57:50 PM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 11:45:02 AM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
I knew this for a while now...

I don't remember talking to you about it...

Nope. I just knew.
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1/22/2015 2:54:32 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
I'm so happy for you. :) I'm sure this site'll help you grow even more now. :D

OMG REV CAN MAKE YOU ENANNIE'S CHILD.
Solonkr~
I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
I care about how to solve problems,
which is what everyone else should also care about.

Ken~
In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.

Me~
"BAILEY + SOLON = SAILEY
MY SHIP SAILEY MUST SAIL"

SCREW THAT SHIZ #BANNIE = BAILEY & ANNIE

P.S. Shipped Sailey before it was cannon bitches.
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1/22/2015 2:56:59 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:50:33 PM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
At 1/22/2015 1:57:50 PM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 11:45:02 AM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
I knew this for a while now...

I don't remember talking to you about it...

Nope. I just knew.

Well then...

Out of curiosity: what made you think this?
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1/22/2015 2:58:36 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:54:32 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
I'm so happy for you. :) I'm sure this site'll help you grow even more now. :D

OMG REV CAN MAKE YOU ENANNIE'S CHILD.

Lol you can talk to him about it if you want, but I'm indifferent.
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1/22/2015 2:58:41 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:54:32 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
I'm so happy for you. :) I'm sure this site'll help you grow even more now. :D

OMG REV CAN MAKE YOU ENANNIE'S CHILD.

Wut?

O_O

Uhh...no thanks. Not too keen on the idea of you being pregnant at three, and I'm not sure if Endark would be either.

Unless you two adopt him.
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1/22/2015 3:00:55 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:58:41 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:54:32 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Unless you two adopt him.

Note that she has said she would kidnap me on multiple occasions.
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1/22/2015 3:01:20 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:58:41 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:54:32 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
I'm so happy for you. :) I'm sure this site'll help you grow even more now. :D

OMG REV CAN MAKE YOU ENANNIE'S CHILD.

Wut?

O_O

Uhh...no thanks. Not too keen on the idea of you being pregnant at three, and I'm not sure if Endark would be either.

Unless you two adopt him.

So you are online ... get back to the battle!
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1/22/2015 3:01:36 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Wanna have the gay sexes wit me?
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1/22/2015 3:03:07 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 2:56:59 PM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:50:33 PM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
At 1/22/2015 1:57:50 PM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 11:45:02 AM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
I knew this for a while now...

I don't remember talking to you about it...

Nope. I just knew.

Well then...

Out of curiosity: what made you think this?

Just my intuition.
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1/22/2015 3:04:01 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 3:03:07 PM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:56:59 PM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 2:50:33 PM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
At 1/22/2015 1:57:50 PM, 1harderthanyouthink wrote:
At 1/22/2015 11:45:02 AM, YamaVonKarma wrote:
I knew this for a while now...

I don't remember talking to you about it...

Nope. I just knew.

Well then...

Out of curiosity: what made you think this?

Just my intuition.

Lol ok then...
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And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."

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1/22/2015 3:05:46 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Should have been obvious from the sucking up to YYW and bsh1, for one. I typified you like thett3, though, not really caring. It was obvious you had some hangup about homosexuality/Christianity.
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1/22/2015 3:07:32 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 1/22/2015 3:05:46 PM, AnDoctuir wrote:
Should have been obvious from the sucking up to YYW and bsh1, for one. I typified you like thett3, though, not really caring. It was obvious you had some hangup about homosexuality/Christianity.

Your support is most appreciated. :)
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And I'm much obliged to you for making it clear - that I'm not here."

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