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Ruckmanite
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2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?
Let your words be the genuine picture of your heart- John Wesley
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mishapqueen
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2/25/2015 8:48:02 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Unless you have a way to meet them in person, I'm not sure what to do. If you are religious the best thing to do is pray for them.
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Ruckmanite
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2/25/2015 10:41:55 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 8:48:02 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Unless you have a way to meet them in person, I'm not sure what to do. If you are religious the best thing to do is pray for them.

I cannot meet her in person, she lives in a different state, but yes I can see why you suggested prayer. I'm just worried something may have happened to her.
Let your words be the genuine picture of your heart- John Wesley
Money is a horrid thing to follow, but a charming thing to meet-Henry James
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2/25/2015 10:44:34 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 10:41:55 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 8:48:02 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Unless you have a way to meet them in person, I'm not sure what to do. If you are religious the best thing to do is pray for them.

I cannot meet her in person, she lives in a different state, but yes I can see why you suggested prayer. I'm just worried something may have happened to her.
Do you have a mutual friend you can contact?
You cannot choose whether or not you will live by rules, but you can choose which rules you will live by. --Me

"I was wrong. Squirrels are objectively superior to bunnies in every conceivable dimension."
--Joey

"Silence is golden, duct tape is silver" --PetersSmith

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debatingtheworld.com
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2/25/2015 5:13:12 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 10:44:34 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 10:41:55 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 8:48:02 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Unless you have a way to meet them in person, I'm not sure what to do. If you are religious the best thing to do is pray for them.

I cannot meet her in person, she lives in a different state, but yes I can see why you suggested prayer. I'm just worried something may have happened to her.
Do you have a mutual friend you can contact?

Is she active anywhere in social media? If she is liking things in Facebook or adding pictures to Instagram but not answering your messages... maybe she just doesn't want to talk to you for some reason.
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2/26/2015 2:54:53 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 10:44:34 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 10:41:55 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 8:48:02 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Unless you have a way to meet them in person, I'm not sure what to do. If you are religious the best thing to do is pray for them.

I cannot meet her in person, she lives in a different state, but yes I can see why you suggested prayer. I'm just worried something may have happened to her.
Do you have a mutual friend you can contact?
I don't, but I'll check for her on social media.
Let your words be the genuine picture of your heart- John Wesley
Money is a horrid thing to follow, but a charming thing to meet-Henry James
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2/26/2015 2:55:22 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 5:13:12 PM, debatingtheworld.com wrote:
At 2/25/2015 10:44:34 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 10:41:55 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 8:48:02 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Unless you have a way to meet them in person, I'm not sure what to do. If you are religious the best thing to do is pray for them.

I cannot meet her in person, she lives in a different state, but yes I can see why you suggested prayer. I'm just worried something may have happened to her.
Do you have a mutual friend you can contact?

Is she active anywhere in social media? If she is liking things in Facebook or adding pictures to Instagram but not answering your messages... maybe she just doesn't want to talk to you for some reason.
Good call, I'll check.
Let your words be the genuine picture of your heart- John Wesley
Money is a horrid thing to follow, but a charming thing to meet-Henry James
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2/26/2015 10:39:01 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/26/2015 2:54:53 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 10:44:34 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 10:41:55 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 8:48:02 AM, mishapqueen wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Unless you have a way to meet them in person, I'm not sure what to do. If you are religious the best thing to do is pray for them.

I cannot meet her in person, she lives in a different state, but yes I can see why you suggested prayer. I'm just worried something may have happened to her.
Do you have a mutual friend you can contact?
I don't, but I'll check for her on social media.

All right. :)

I hope she's okay and you can contact her soon.
You cannot choose whether or not you will live by rules, but you can choose which rules you will live by. --Me

"I was wrong. Squirrels are objectively superior to bunnies in every conceivable dimension."
--Joey

"Silence is golden, duct tape is silver" --PetersSmith

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sadolite
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2/26/2015 4:43:20 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Nothing, go about your life. Text messages are narcissistic cries for attention.
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

If liberal democrats would just stop shooting people gun violence would drop by 90%
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2/26/2015 5:26:24 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/26/2015 4:43:20 PM, sadolite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Nothing, go about your life. Text messages are narcissistic cries for attention.

for the record, text messages are basically the same thing as emails, chatting on line, and even posting on forums such as this. So you are technically saying that all of these are narcissistic cries for attention
Epsilon: There are so many stories where some brave hero decides to give their life to save the day, and because of their sacrifice, the good guys win, the survivors all cheer, and everybody lives happily ever after. But the hero... never gets to see that ending. They'll never know if their sacrifice actually made a difference. They'll never know if the day was really saved. In the end, they just have to have faith.
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2/26/2015 5:37:47 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/26/2015 5:26:24 PM, cybertron1998 wrote:
At 2/26/2015 4:43:20 PM, sadolite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Nothing, go about your life. Text messages are narcissistic cries for attention.

for the record, text messages are basically the same thing as emails, chatting on line, and even posting on forums such as this. So you are technically saying that all of these are narcissistic cries for attention

Chatting online is a live conversation that both parties agreed to have. An email is not necessarily expected to be responded to unless it is important and expected. A uninvited or unexpected text message of inane blather is a person trying to get attention.
It's not your views that divide us, it's what you think my views should be that divides us.

If you think I will give up my rights and forsake social etiquette to make you "FEEL" better you are sadly mistaken

If liberal democrats would just stop shooting people gun violence would drop by 90%
Zarroette
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2/26/2015 11:58:04 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

The truth is that she is likely not interested in talking to you anymore. I recommend that you try to avoid texting people so frequently, particularly girls because it gets boring and dry unless you're spitting jokes with every text, but then you're just her comedian, rather than a friend.

She was also likely interested in you in the romantic sense, hence her giving you so much attention. Next time something like this happens, ask her out quickly because otherwise she will lose interest (like she probably has by now) and will seek someone else.

It's all a learning curve; don't be too hard on yourself over this =)
Wylted
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2/27/2015 12:10:51 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

If you're texting them out of pity or a sense of obligation they can likely sense that. I hope your friend is okay but I'd advise you to develop genuine friendships. People want an actual connection.

As much as people preach altruism, people want a relationship with somebody that selfishly wants them and not with somebody who is around them out of a sense of obligation.
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2/27/2015 3:31:13 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I was able to get ahold of her. Thanks though, everyone
Let your words be the genuine picture of your heart- John Wesley
Money is a horrid thing to follow, but a charming thing to meet-Henry James
cybertron1998
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2/27/2015 5:33:36 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/26/2015 5:37:47 PM, sadolite wrote:
At 2/26/2015 5:26:24 PM, cybertron1998 wrote:
At 2/26/2015 4:43:20 PM, sadolite wrote:
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Nothing, go about your life. Text messages are narcissistic cries for attention.

for the record, text messages are basically the same thing as emails, chatting on line, and even posting on forums such as this. So you are technically saying that all of these are narcissistic cries for attention

Chatting online is a live conversation that both parties agreed to have. An email is not necessarily expected to be responded to unless it is important and expected. A uninvited or unexpected text message of inane blather is a person trying to get attention.

i text with a friend regularly and she texts back with each one. We usually either talk about mundane stuff or personal matters and help each other on problems. so yeah not all texting is bad.
Epsilon: There are so many stories where some brave hero decides to give their life to save the day, and because of their sacrifice, the good guys win, the survivors all cheer, and everybody lives happily ever after. But the hero... never gets to see that ending. They'll never know if their sacrifice actually made a difference. They'll never know if the day was really saved. In the end, they just have to have faith.
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3/4/2015 2:00:02 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

How did the last discussion go? Were there any fights or discomfort with you or your friend? Are there any other means of communicating with them, like in person or Skype?
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3/4/2015 5:09:06 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 2/25/2015 2:35:17 AM, Ruckmanite wrote:
I have a friend who would text me and call me regularly. I began to feel bad that it felt one-sided, so I promised to text her more often. I then sent out a text every day for the last month, to which I've received no response. What should I do?

Before you came off as cool and hard to get. Now you just come off as desperate.
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