Total Posts:69|Showing Posts:1-30|Last Page
Jump to topic:

Why bother being a virgin?

Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 10:20:11 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
I'm almost at the point where i don't see the use in waiting for marriage. I've been a virgin all my life and it feels no one's waiting not even Christians so why should i? We can do it because we'll be forgiven for it right? Almost all my friends either had sex or did "physical favors." I could be getting lapdances, having flings with club girls, getting wasted, etc. I'm angry that there doesn't seem to be a faithful love for me. Why should i save myself for a woman who may have already had sex? Why look for married love at all? Does it even exist for me? Why should i love just 1 woman at all?
Wylted
Posts: 21,167
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 10:50:58 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
There are several good reasons to wait, even from a secular point of view, but the biggest reason to wait, would be if it conflicted with your feelings on what is ethical.

Doing it, because everyone else is, is dumb.
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 11:50:56 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 10:50:58 AM, Wylted wrote:
There are several good reasons to wait, even from a secular point of view, but the biggest reason to wait, would be if it conflicted with your feelings on what is ethical.

Doing it, because everyone else is, is dumb.

I don't know if i can even uphold my ethics anymore..a lil hard to do in the world we live in...
Wylted
Posts: 21,167
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 11:53:56 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 11:50:56 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 10:50:58 AM, Wylted wrote:
There are several good reasons to wait, even from a secular point of view, but the biggest reason to wait, would be if it conflicted with your feelings on what is ethical.

Doing it, because everyone else is, is dumb.

I don't know if i can even uphold my ethics anymore..a lil hard to do in the world we live in...

They're supposed to be. A good ethical system should be hard to adhere to and you should fail quite often, just like life ethics is a journey.
ESocialBookworm
Posts: 14,354
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM
Posted: 1 year ago
Elliot Rodger
Solonkr~
I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
I care about how to solve problems,
which is what everyone else should also care about.

Ken~
In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.

Me~
"BAILEY + SOLON = SAILEY
MY SHIP SAILEY MUST SAIL"

SCREW THAT SHIZ #BANNIE = BAILEY & ANNIE

P.S. Shipped Sailey before it was cannon bitches.
thett3
Posts: 14,334
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:12:14 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:10:34 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

roflmao

yeah, because when a guy actually has issues and is sincerely asking for help with an ethical dilemma, the best thing we can do is to compare him to a mass shooter and mock him
DDO Vice President

#StandwithBossy

#UnbanTheMadman

#BetOnThett

"Don't quote me, ever." -Max

"My name is max. I'm not a big fan of slacks"- Max rapping

"Walmart should have the opportunity to bribe a politician to it's agenda" -Max

"Thett, you're really good at convincing people you're a decent person"-tulle

"You fit the character of Regina George quite nicely"- Sam

: At 11/12/2016 11:49:40 PM, Raisor wrote:
: thett was right
RevNge
Posts: 13,835
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:14:14 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:12:14 PM, thett3 wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:10:34 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

roflmao

yeah, because when a guy actually has issues and is sincerely asking for help with an ethical dilemma, the best thing we can do is to compare him to a mass shooter and mock him

Have you read his manifesto? It was hilarious, although I only read a few pages of it. Seriously, that thing's almost as fvcked up as Ayn Rand.

Almost.
ESocialBookworm
Posts: 14,354
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:18:10 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:16:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

LOL!

On a serious note however, if you're not keeping yourself till marriage, at least make your first time with someone special, that you won't look back and regret losing it to- because you only lose it once.

That said, PUT A RING ON IT, and or BAG IT before you SHAG IT! -_-
Solonkr~
I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
I care about how to solve problems,
which is what everyone else should also care about.

Ken~
In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.

Me~
"BAILEY + SOLON = SAILEY
MY SHIP SAILEY MUST SAIL"

SCREW THAT SHIZ #BANNIE = BAILEY & ANNIE

P.S. Shipped Sailey before it was cannon bitches.
thett3
Posts: 14,334
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:18:33 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:14:14 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:12:14 PM, thett3 wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:10:34 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

roflmao

yeah, because when a guy actually has issues and is sincerely asking for help with an ethical dilemma, the best thing we can do is to compare him to a mass shooter and mock him

Have you read his manifesto? It was hilarious, although I only read a few pages of it. Seriously, that thing's almost as fvcked up as Ayn Rand.

Almost.

I have no interest in reading either of these things.

But I am getting really irritated at everyone bashing truth seeker. From his posts it's very, very clear that he has legit issues. I wish you would take your religion more seriously--let he among you without sin be the first to cast a stone. He needs help, not ridicule.
DDO Vice President

#StandwithBossy

#UnbanTheMadman

#BetOnThett

"Don't quote me, ever." -Max

"My name is max. I'm not a big fan of slacks"- Max rapping

"Walmart should have the opportunity to bribe a politician to it's agenda" -Max

"Thett, you're really good at convincing people you're a decent person"-tulle

"You fit the character of Regina George quite nicely"- Sam

: At 11/12/2016 11:49:40 PM, Raisor wrote:
: thett was right
Cermank
Posts: 3,773
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:22:41 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Being a virgin because you expect a virgin girl is not a really good reason. Being a virgin/ having sex is an action- its not a promise of reciprocation. It all depends on the value you place on sex. It isn't about other people, its about you. And what you believe in.
ESocialBookworm
Posts: 14,354
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:23:45 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 10:20:11 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
I'm almost at the point where i don't see the use in waiting for marriage. I've been a virgin all my life and it feels no one's waiting not even Christians so why should i?
Do you believe in God?
We can do it because we'll be forgiven for it right?
Is that the way you look at it? Is it then okay to murder, because we'll be forgiven?
Almost all my friends either had sex or did "physical favors." I could be getting lapdances, having flings with club girls, getting wasted, etc.
Which seems more appealing- those things (with possible contraction of STI's) or having one person who loves you with all her heart?
I'm angry that there doesn't seem to be a faithful love for me.
You are how old? You have your whole life ahead of you...
Why should i save myself for a woman who may have already had sex?
Why don't you save yourself for someone who hasn't has sex yet, who's a good person and devotee, like you?
Why look for married love at all?
Why not?
Does it even exist for me?
How will you know if you rush into things?
Why should i love just 1 woman at all?
Isn't that the question? Would you want your woman to love another man?
Solonkr~
I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
I care about how to solve problems,
which is what everyone else should also care about.

Ken~
In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.

Me~
"BAILEY + SOLON = SAILEY
MY SHIP SAILEY MUST SAIL"

SCREW THAT SHIZ #BANNIE = BAILEY & ANNIE

P.S. Shipped Sailey before it was cannon bitches.
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:24:15 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:18:10 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:16:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

LOL!

On a serious note however, if you're not keeping yourself till marriage, at least make your first time with someone special, that you won't look back and regret losing it to- because you only lose it once.

That said, PUT A RING ON IT, and or BAG IT before you SHAG IT! -_-

It's just i've been through so much pain, anger, and heart-ache when it comes to relationships...seems like doing this is my way of medicating...
ESocialBookworm
Posts: 14,354
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:25:25 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:24:15 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:18:10 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:16:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

LOL!

On a serious note however, if you're not keeping yourself till marriage, at least make your first time with someone special, that you won't look back and regret losing it to- because you only lose it once.

That said, PUT A RING ON IT, and or BAG IT before you SHAG IT! -_-

It's just i've been through so much pain, anger, and heart-ache when it comes to relationships...seems like doing this is my way of medicating...

Will it help? That's the question.

I gtg. Respond to me or PM me. We'll chat later.
Solonkr~
I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
I care about how to solve problems,
which is what everyone else should also care about.

Ken~
In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.

Me~
"BAILEY + SOLON = SAILEY
MY SHIP SAILEY MUST SAIL"

SCREW THAT SHIZ #BANNIE = BAILEY & ANNIE

P.S. Shipped Sailey before it was cannon bitches.
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:25:41 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:22:41 PM, Cermank wrote:
Being a virgin because you expect a virgin girl is not a really good reason. Being a virgin/ having sex is an action- its not a promise of reciprocation. It all depends on the value you place on sex. It isn't about other people, its about you. And what you believe in.

Wise words that i'll do good to consider...
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:38:17 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:23:45 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 3/31/2015 10:20:11 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
I'm almost at the point where i don't see the use in waiting for marriage. I've been a virgin all my life and it feels no one's waiting not even Christians so why should i?
Do you believe in God?
Yes...
We can do it because we'll be forgiven for it right?
Is that the way you look at it? Is it then okay to murder, because we'll be forgiven?
No..but where's the harm in sex?
Almost all my friends either had sex or did "physical favors." I could be getting lapdances, having flings with club girls, getting wasted, etc.
Which seems more appealing- those things (with possible contraction of STI's) or having one person who loves you with all her heart?
Idk anymore..not sure if i can even love her..whoever it is..look at me..everyday is a constant battle between the good in me and the evil..i've just been so full of anger built up inside...i'm smart about it tho so i can use birth control...
I'm angry that there doesn't seem to be a faithful love for me.
You are how old? You have your whole life ahead of you...
20 about to turn 21 and i suppose...
Why should i save myself for a woman who may have already had sex?
Why don't you save yourself for someone who hasn't has sex yet, who's a good person and devotee, like you?
Good point..
Why look for married love at all?
Why not?
Maybe it's just too much for me..all the pain..the struggles...the past...the commitment...fears, anguish, torment, everything...perhaps i'm better off being single..
Does it even exist for me?
How will you know if you rush into things?
True..on the other hand, i have been impatient...
Why should i love just 1 woman at all?
Isn't that the question? Would you want your woman to love another man?
No...i wouldn't...but sometimes i wonder if loving someone else is possible...i have a bit of trouble giving my heart to another human being...at times, i can't even trust people anymore...wonder if i can even trust myself...
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 12:43:52 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:25:25 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:24:15 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:18:10 PM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:16:33 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

LOL!

On a serious note however, if you're not keeping yourself till marriage, at least make your first time with someone special, that you won't look back and regret losing it to- because you only lose it once.

That said, PUT A RING ON IT, and or BAG IT before you SHAG IT! -_-

It's just i've been through so much pain, anger, and heart-ache when it comes to relationships...seems like doing this is my way of medicating...

Will it help? That's the question.

I gtg. Respond to me or PM me. We'll chat later.

Idk...maybe not but i can have as many girls as i so choose, no worrying about 1 or the other. I can do any position i want with a willing partner and i'm sure there are plenty of em out there.
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 1:27:56 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 12:12:14 PM, thett3 wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:10:34 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

roflmao

yeah, because when a guy actually has issues and is sincerely asking for help with an ethical dilemma, the best thing we can do is to compare him to a mass shooter and mock him

No they brought up an interesting comparison...sometimes i wonder if i might just turn into another Elliot Rodger...my obsessive compulsive love disorder causes me to be irrational and beyond control when it comes to relationships...although i haven't crossed the line..hopefully i never will..
Wylted
Posts: 21,167
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 2:28:20 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 2:12:18 PM, Maikuru wrote:
God doesn't exist, nobody cares, and sex is great.

For the good of the gene pool let's just be anti sex in this thread.
RevNge
Posts: 13,835
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 2:44:46 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 1:27:56 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:12:14 PM, thett3 wrote:
At 3/31/2015 12:10:34 PM, RevNge wrote:
At 3/31/2015 11:56:13 AM, ESocialBookworm wrote:
Elliot Rodger

roflmao

yeah, because when a guy actually has issues and is sincerely asking for help with an ethical dilemma, the best thing we can do is to compare him to a mass shooter and mock him

No they brought up an interesting comparison...sometimes i wonder if i might just turn into another Elliot Rodger...my obsessive compulsive love disorder causes me to be irrational and beyond control when it comes to relationships...although i haven't crossed the line..hopefully i never will..

Few (if not only that one dude .-.) ever do, lol. Don't worry, you're a good person at heart, and I can kind of understand your temptation (although I'm only 13 and I doubt my hormones hit full force yet LOL). Like Annie said, though, do you think it will be worth it, and will you look back on that day with pride or shame? Are you simply doing it for the pleasure or just for the sake of actually doing it in that you'll lose your virginity? Just don't do anything you might regret--I'm not saying that you necessarily will, but you probably know, right?

In a cruder way of speaking, go with your brain and your heart, and not your shlong. That being said, don't write a 120-page manifesto ranting about the evils of the female gender and how you are god. XD
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 2:52:48 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Few (if not only that one dude .-.) ever do, lol. Don't worry, you're a good person at heart, and I can kind of understand your temptation (although I'm only 13 and I doubt my hormones hit full force yet LOL). Like Annie said, though, do you think it will be worth it, and will you look back on that day with pride or shame? Are you simply doing it for the pleasure or just for the sake of actually doing it in that you'll lose your virginity? Just don't do anything you might regret--I'm not saying that you necessarily will, but you probably know, right?
I suppose...but sometimes i have my doubts..i've said i loved a couple of women in the past only to find that i never did...and my actions show...If i end up like that guy (probably won't happen) i know there's no turning back..idk i'm probably going to look back on it in shame..but i find it hard to believe that someone can be "pure before marriage."
In a cruder way of speaking, go with your brain and your heart, and not your shlong. That being said, don't write a 120-page manifesto ranting about the evils of the female gender and how you are god. XD

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!
Vox_Veritas
Posts: 7,067
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 3:31:51 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 10:20:11 AM, Truth_seeker wrote:
I'm almost at the point where i don't see the use in waiting for marriage. I've been a virgin all my life and it feels no one's waiting not even Christians so why should i? We can do it because we'll be forgiven for it right? Almost all my friends either had sex or did "physical favors." I could be getting lapdances, having flings with club girls, getting wasted, etc. I'm angry that there doesn't seem to be a faithful love for me. Why should i save myself for a woman who may have already had sex? Why look for married love at all? Does it even exist for me? Why should i love just 1 woman at all?

What I'm about to say is going to be quite harsh, but perhaps you need to hear this.

You have stated on another thread that you are a habitual pornography viewer. So why should you expect a "faithful love" when you don't hold yourself to those same standards? At least in your mind, you have already engaged in sexual acts. So why do you feel that you are entitled to some perfect virgin girl when you yourself already are not a perfect virgin?
Just saying; if someone entering into a relationship with you tells you that she's had sex before, just remember that you aren't any better than her. Because seriously, you aren't.
While it is nice to have the "perfect partner", we should always keep in mind that everybody is flawed. If you actually love said person, then you'll love them even with their past, and remember that they are putting up with your past. Marriage is a union between two imperfect people.
I would even go as far as to say that until you kick your pornography habit you shouldn't find such a person. Each person in a relationship should, after all, try to get rid of their own flaws so that they can be a better spouse. When both spouses embrace this idea, the resulting marriage is a good one.
Call me Vox, the Resident Contrarian of debate.org.

The DDO Blog:
https://debatedotorg.wordpress.com...

#drinkthecoffeenotthekoolaid
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 3:39:12 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 3:31:51 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
What I'm about to say is going to be quite harsh, but perhaps you need to hear this.

You have stated on another thread that you are a habitual pornography viewer. So why should you expect a "faithful love" when you don't hold yourself to those same standards? At least in your mind, you have already engaged in sexual acts. So why do you feel that you are entitled to some perfect virgin girl when you yourself already are not a perfect virgin?
Just saying; if someone entering into a relationship with you tells you that she's had sex before, just remember that you aren't any better than her. Because seriously, you aren't.
While it is nice to have the "perfect partner", we should always keep in mind that everybody is flawed. If you actually love said person, then you'll love them even with their past, and remember that they are putting up with your past. Marriage is a union between two imperfect people.
I would even go as far as to say that until you kick your pornography habit you shouldn't find such a person. Each person in a relationship should, after all, try to get rid of their own flaws so that they can be a better spouse. When both spouses embrace this idea, the resulting marriage is a good one.

Your right..i've had the same thoughts in my mind and i have realized that..although this was also centered around the struggles of finding love as well...I have quit porn for good and don't plan on returning..i know if i did these things, i'd still come out empty..
Vox_Veritas
Posts: 7,067
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 3:42:37 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 3:39:12 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 3:31:51 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
What I'm about to say is going to be quite harsh, but perhaps you need to hear this.

You have stated on another thread that you are a habitual pornography viewer. So why should you expect a "faithful love" when you don't hold yourself to those same standards? At least in your mind, you have already engaged in sexual acts. So why do you feel that you are entitled to some perfect virgin girl when you yourself already are not a perfect virgin?
Just saying; if someone entering into a relationship with you tells you that she's had sex before, just remember that you aren't any better than her. Because seriously, you aren't.
While it is nice to have the "perfect partner", we should always keep in mind that everybody is flawed. If you actually love said person, then you'll love them even with their past, and remember that they are putting up with your past. Marriage is a union between two imperfect people.
I would even go as far as to say that until you kick your pornography habit you shouldn't find such a person. Each person in a relationship should, after all, try to get rid of their own flaws so that they can be a better spouse. When both spouses embrace this idea, the resulting marriage is a good one.

Your right..i've had the same thoughts in my mind and i have realized that..although this was also centered around the struggles of finding love as well...I have quit porn for good and don't plan on returning..i know if i did these things, i'd still come out empty..

Good for you. Now, since you seem to be the kind of person who could get into this, check out this MRA website.
http://www.avoiceformen.com...
Call me Vox, the Resident Contrarian of debate.org.

The DDO Blog:
https://debatedotorg.wordpress.com...

#drinkthecoffeenotthekoolaid
Truth_seeker
Posts: 1,811
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 3:53:59 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
At 3/31/2015 3:42:37 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
At 3/31/2015 3:39:12 PM, Truth_seeker wrote:
At 3/31/2015 3:31:51 PM, Vox_Veritas wrote:
What I'm about to say is going to be quite harsh, but perhaps you need to hear this.

You have stated on another thread that you are a habitual pornography viewer. So why should you expect a "faithful love" when you don't hold yourself to those same standards? At least in your mind, you have already engaged in sexual acts. So why do you feel that you are entitled to some perfect virgin girl when you yourself already are not a perfect virgin?
Just saying; if someone entering into a relationship with you tells you that she's had sex before, just remember that you aren't any better than her. Because seriously, you aren't.
While it is nice to have the "perfect partner", we should always keep in mind that everybody is flawed. If you actually love said person, then you'll love them even with their past, and remember that they are putting up with your past. Marriage is a union between two imperfect people.
I would even go as far as to say that until you kick your pornography habit you shouldn't find such a person. Each person in a relationship should, after all, try to get rid of their own flaws so that they can be a better spouse. When both spouses embrace this idea, the resulting marriage is a good one.

Your right..i've had the same thoughts in my mind and i have realized that..although this was also centered around the struggles of finding love as well...I have quit porn for good and don't plan on returning..i know if i did these things, i'd still come out empty..

Good for you. Now, since you seem to be the kind of person who could get into this, check out this MRA website.
http://www.avoiceformen.com...

Will do.
BlackVoid
Posts: 9,170
Add as Friend
Challenge to a Debate
Send a Message
3/31/2015 6:39:23 PM
Posted: 1 year ago
Idk, TS. You've really narrowed down the pool of potential relationships with the requirement of being a virgin. The textbook in my health class says that 88% of girls age 20-24 have done it. And if we narrow it down to attractive girls, we're probably in the 90's. So you have already cut out the vast, vast majority of relationships by expecting that.

Additionally, to find someone, you're gonna have to find a girl who's

- Single
- Interested
- Willing to wait (she could be a virgin for reasons other than waiting til marriage)
- Passionate christian (I'm assuming this is important for you)
- Has whatever other personality traits you find necessary

Gl finding someone with all that when you've already narrowed the pool to virgins only.

I'm obviously being somewhat sarcastic here, but I'm also somewhat serious. If thats what you expect, then good luck.